Post # 1
I’m brand new to posting, although I’ve been a Wedding Bee board reader for months now. This is such a nice community and I’m hoping you’ll be able to help me. I’m having terrible dress regret. I’m sorry this post is so long, but I want to give you the full story.
I bought a dress almost two weeks ago and I can’t stop thinking about how much I don’t like it. The dress is a Kenneth Pool Amour, and it’s a really beautiful dress – it’s just not me.
I wanted a very classic/ elegant wedding dress. I didn’t want any sparkle/beading or embellishment. This dress is a Tulle A line with a VERY embellished natural waist. There is tons of sparkle on this dress and I’m finding it so distracting. All I can think is that the sparkle is too much, and it overpowers the dress. I also worry that the deep sweetheart is too much. I like dresses with more subtly sweethearts or straight necklines.
I bought this dress from the 5th bridal store I visited. Overall I never had that falling in love feeling with any of the dresses I tried on, but this one made my mother and one of my bridesmaids tear up. I was tired of trying dresses and I felt like I would never “LOVE” one so I might as well get the one that other people loved.
My fiance and I are paying for our wedding, so it was important to my mom to buy the dress, and I can’t believe how generous she was to buy me this one. I just feel terrible about her spending money on a dress I don’t love.
After buying the dress I’ve been searching the internet for pictures of it. I would love to see another real bride wearing it, but the only picture I can find of it is the photo of the model on the runway. Please post pictures if you tried on or wore this dress! I would love to see it at a wedding and not on a model!
I’m already thinking of selling the dress but I would feel so bad if my mom lost a penny because of my bad choices. I just want to feel confident and beautiful on my wedding, and I’m afraid I will feel like I’m wearing someone else’s dress – not mine.
Please let me know your thoughts! Do you think the sparkle is too much?? What are my options? If you wore this dress please share your pictures!!
Thank you so much for your help!!
Here’s a link to the dress: http://kennethpool.com/gallery/gowns/amour.shtml
Post # 3
I don’t know what to tell you except that I LOVE LOVE LOVE that dress. It is gorgeous!!
Post # 4
I think it’s drop dead gorgeous, and I’m not just saying that. However, I love love love tulle and my dress was a poofy short tulle dress. There are people that hate tulle, so if you’re one of them, I can see why you don’t love it. However, if you’re worried about the belt, I do not think it’s too sparkly. Just go simple with the jewelry- maybe just some studs and a bracelet. I also don’t think the neckline is too deep, but if you aren’t comfortable with it, ask a seamstress or the store if it could be brought up somehow. Good luck!
Post # 5
Thats a pretty dress the only thing i don’t like is the tulle. I’d prefer satin, but that is just an opinion. Not a deal breaker though.
Post # 6
that’s the most amazing dress!!! what are u so worried about???? it’s gorgeous!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 7
It’s a beautiful dress. It really is. And though there is sparkle around the waist, because it is only in that one spot, I really don’t think it is overpowering. As for the deep sweetheart, I’m guessing a seamstress may be able to alter it a bit for you.
BUT…it sounds like the dress just isn’t you. If you aren’t comfortable with it, you probably should at least look into what you could get it you sell it. Could you sell it and buy something a bit less expensive that you like better with the money you get for it? That way your mom isn’t out anything. Or could you and your FI afford to put some of your money plus what you get for the dress into a new dress? I agree with you that your mom shouldn’t have to put out anymore money because you have changed your mind.
Based on the looks of the dress alone, I think you should keep it. It’s a very pretty dress, and is actually very simple other than the waistline embellishments. But it seems that it really is just not you. If it’s not something you feel good about, it doesn’t matter how pretty it is. If you are truly uncomfortable, get another dress. But if you are just worried about how it will look to others, then keep it. It’s beautiful.
Post # 8
You ladies are so sweet, thank you so, so much. You’ve calmed my crazy fears already. Maybe I’m letting my wedding nerves get the best of me — I know I’m not great at making decisions, especially BIG ones…
I just wish I could see the dress on someone who isn’t a model!!
Post # 9
It’s pretty. I don’t think it’s too sparkly because all of the sparkly is concentrated in one area. However, if you didn’t want any sparkle and you hate it, then you should consider selling it and getting a new dress, if you can. You should really love your dress!
Post # 10
I Love it! Totally awesome!
Post # 11
I agree with the other ladies, this dress is stunning. It’s actually quite simple and elegant. I don’t think its over the top at all. I’m sure you will look beautiful in it!
Post # 12
So many people have “dress regret” or fear that they didn’t find the right one. There is so much pressure we put on ourselves. But that dress is gorgeous, and so pretty without being “too much”. It’s classy and fun. I’d stick with it.
Post # 13
That;s a beautiful dress. Understated and elegant, but stunning!
Post # 14
Thats really beautiful!! =) Im sorry about your being so torn!
Post # 15
You’re wrong if I may say so 🙂 Your dress IS elegant and classy! And also cute and fun. The sparks are NOT al all to mutch. I’m sure no-one will say that! I looooooove your dress! One of the prettiest i’ve seen so far.
Don’t you have pictures of you in it? I’d love to see them!