(Closed) Dress regret!! Very, very bad!! Also a bit lengthy! Sorry!

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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3689 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’m sorry you’re going through this.  Trying to please other people when a bridal gown is so personal to you is tough.  

Can you sell the two you have?  Maybe you can get enough to cover a significant portion of the Vera Wang one?

 

Post # 5
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237 posts
Helper bee

It’s unfortunate your friends tried to convince you something was more “you” than the dress you truly wanted. it really only matters what you and your FI think. People also jump on the band wagon – one girl gives her opinion, another agrees and adds on, it snowballs. You see it all the time on the boards here. I bet you looked lovely in the Vera Wang one and once you have jewelry/veil on will look “blingy”. 

If you have to, take a bit of a price cut on the old dress, though you have to decide how low you’re willing to go. Someone will by it add a “steal” price. The other one will probably sell at a normal price as it’s new/unworn. With that money you can put it toward the dream dress. OR find another dreamy dress/get one made by Jasmine’s or similar. 

Don’t let the lost money plague you. What’s done is done. Consider this a lesson in always listening to your gut.

Post # 6
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1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I had this problem, where I felt talked into my dress, but I have to keep telling myself that I picked the dress to try on for a specific reason. I go back and forth about the dress, and it’s really hard, especially once money gets invested.

Good luck. 

Post # 7
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7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Maybe try to list the dresses at a lower price if they don’t move? We tend to think we haven’t actually lost money until we get rid of something, but in actuality, that money is already gone. Any money towards your dream dress is a good thing! 

Post # 8
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942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I know plenty of brides have purchased multiple gowns. I was a 2 dress bride and I love my second choice wholeheartedly (technically I bought 3 but the third was a cheap backup dress in case I put on weight! Don’t beat yourself up. Keep shopping you may even find your dream gown for under $1000. You’ll know for sure when you find ‘the one’ ๐Ÿ™‚ good luck selling your dresses

Post # 9
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356 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I say next time, you should pick only those friends or family members that would love anything you love.  I brought only my mom, because I knew that she would love anything I love and always be supportive of me.  THEN, don’t show ANYONE pictures of your dress.  Tell them it’s a surprise!  That way you won’t be caught in thier web any more! 

Post # 10
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332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way ๐Ÿ™

Is there any way you could exchange or return the dress ?

Post # 11
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6457 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Try to sell it and get what YOU like.

Post # 12
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8884 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

You need to pick the dress that YOU love and not anyone else.  Do you have pictures?  Both gowns are beautiful. I’d love to see pictures of you in both dresses.

I had dress regret myself, ended up in a new dress. I did what felt right for me and now I have no regrets ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
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467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Oh man, I was totally in your shoes and had dress regret for months before I finally just realized buying a new dress was worth so much more than me feeling like utter crap.

I agree with what everyone says. Since you have so much time, why don’t you spend the next few months trying to sell the dresses you have and then go shopping again in a little while. I actually went shopping by myself the second time around (and then only brought in a couple of people for opinions once I had found a dress I loved). I actually ended up enjoying that a lot more!

Good luck! I will keep my fingers crossed you can recover some of your money and put it toward your dream dress. Whatever you do, don’t spend too much time beating yourself up over it.

Post # 14
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4415 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I never understand why brides feel they have to get the approval of all their BMs regarding the dress.  I see this happen over and over again on SYTTD, and I always wonder if the bride has regrets later after the show when she gets talked into a different dress by her entourage. 

I’m really sorry that you hate your dress.  Try to sell the two dresses you have, and then get the Vera Wang you loved. Don’t listen to anyone who tells you it’s not you, because who knows you better than you? No one! 

Good luck.  

Post # 15
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927 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Sell the other two and get the one you love!! I have major dress regret, but it’s too late for me : ( The only approval you need is your own!

Post # 16
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2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Mrs. Lineman:  Clearly you loved the Vera wang from DB, and these girls convinced you to instead purchase something you definitely didn’t like nearly as much. They really shouldn’t have done so unless the dress looked truly hideous on you. You have to go with the one you loved and not worry about what others say is more ‘you’. NO ONE knows what is more you then you.

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