Post # 1
Okay I have to make this quick and then check back later for answers, but I wanted some other opinions.
Yesterday I went dress shopping. The consultant asked for pictures of dresses that I liked and I showed her a few, mermaids or fit and flares with texture. I had the Vera Wang Gemma saved with them but it’s way out of my budget. She said she had one almost like it so I tried that one on.
Everyone else loved it but I wasn’t sure. I can give more details later but basically I bought it because I felt ridiculous not loving it, then called a few hours later and tried to cancel. I had to call back this morning to talk to a person that was already gone, and they said I could cancel for $100 fee. There is another dress I like, that I am trying on at 2:30, then I have to decide by 4:00 if I want to cancel. This is the dress I already purchased:
Sorry it’s huge, I don’t know how to make it smaller!
The other detail is that when I started having doubts last night I was looking online and found bad reviews of the store, found out the consultant may have lied to me, and then they also called back and said they forgot to charge me for hollow to hem and added $150 to the price. The bad reviews talked about overcharging for alterations, convincing people to order bigger sizes to require more alterations, and other things like that. So now I am completely uncomfortable with the store, and not quite sure about the dress. If I cancel and get the other dress I will save about $1000 (even including the $100 fee). But if I don’t love the other dress I am not sure what to do. Again, I can add more details later with all the reasons I am uncomfortable, but I need to get ready to leave for my other appointment and wanted to get this part out here and get some opinions on the problems I’ve had with the store already and on this dress. Thanks for any help!
Post # 3
Cancel. I think you can find better and if they are already tacking on extra costs this soon I’d be real leary. Good luck!
Post # 4
Frankly, I was never a huge fan of the Gemma, personally. It does look great on you, but just judging from your post I don’t think you love it. I don’t even think you like it that much.
What dress are you trying on at 2:30? If it’s a $100 cancellation fee, and not an exchange fee, maybe just cancel the dress and go to a different store that has better reviews. Or, if you love the dress later today, then just look for that dress elsewhere! OR if you want to get a dress at that store, be firm with which size you want, and maybe even just take the dress to a third party alterationist who has good reviews online, bypassing that issue.
No matter what you do, you will look great! Good luck with everything, I had dress regret too and changing dresses was the best thing I could have done! I was super happy :). Be sure and update!!
Post # 6
Cancel. Don’t let anyone rush your final decision. Go with your gut!
Post # 7
yes, I’d cancel. If you end up wanting that dress, I bet you could even find it online for a lot cheaper thus getting your $100 back. Don’t rush it, esp. if the store doesn’t seem right.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
I don’t like what the saln is up to. They sound shady. Cancel and write about it on weddingwire.com to try let other brides know. That’s terrible they added that “hemming” fee!!!!
Post # 9
Cancel! You don’t love that dress, and I would be really concerned about working with shady people who want to nickel and dime you. Cut your losses and find something you truly love.
Edit: that’s not to say it doesn’t look good on you, because it does, but you should love it not buy it because you feel ridiculous not loving it.
Post # 10
@aranel1002: The dress I am going to try on is at a different store, it is a cancellation fee not exchange so I am good there.
Everyone here is making me feel a lot better already, I felt so crazy changing my mind and my FI asked if it was just because I was freaking out about money (which I do anytime I spend a lot but not usually this bad where I want to take the thing back). Anyway, I am leaving now to go to David’s Bridal to try on this dress:
And I think either way I am going to cancel. I know DB is also not always the best store and has high priced alterations, so I am going to give myself time to think about this one (even if I love it today) and look around a little more. I will update when I get back. Thanks everyone!
Post # 11
Cancel. I think you can do better and you don’t want to deal with a store like that!! I can’t believe they even charge $100 to cancel when you JUST called and cancelled like right away. They clearly haven’t placed an order yet!
Post # 12
@magicmoments: Would you have to purchase another gown at this store if you cancel? Or can you go elsewhere?
Based on what you’ve said here, I would definitely cancel and go elsewhere. It sucks to lose $100, but at least you’re not losing your entire deposit (I know the stores in my area require half the cost of the dress up front, and it’s non-refundable).
There’s nothing wrong with that dress, but if you don’t like it and have the option to cancel, do it. I do feel like it sounds as though you may have a very negative dress buying/alterations experience if you go with this store (especially considering the fact that they’re already tacking on additional costs a day after you put in your order), so I would look at other bridal shops in the area.
One final thing to note … I don’t know much about costs for dress alterations, so I’m just basing this on what I was told at the bridal shop I ordered my dress from. My consultant (also the owner of the boutique) called her contact at Watters to see if they offered a hollow to hem option for my particular dress because it would actually be less expensive to do that than order it and then have it altered to my specifications. Unfortunately, that option was not available for my gown … But at least she tried! The point of all of this, though, is that doing a hollow to hem should cost less … Not add an additional fee. (Unless that’s a designer specific thing … Like I said, I’m no expert. That’s just what I was told when I bought my dress.)
Post # 13
$100 is nothing compared to buying a new dress later on. Cancel. Even if you end up buying the same dress again, its better to be sure!!
Post # 14
What is the designer of the dress though. it looks great,
Post # 15
I think you should cancel. If you are having second thoughts now you probably will later when you see another dress you think is pretty and think you might like.
Post # 16
I loveeee the Gemma dress but this to me looks like a cheap china knock off that someone like jasmines would make To try and look like the Gemma .
still looks nice on u thou