Post # 1
i’m really regretting my wedding dress. i recently had a breast reduction but thats not even my main concern- i just do not think the dress flatters me at all….
let me start at the beginning and i’ll try to keep it short:
i’m plus size so i couldn’t try on many dresses in the bridal salons that i went to…but last may i found a dress that when i held it up to me i instantly fell in love with it.
a few days before my breast reduction surgery my dad and brother (my mom passed away when i was 16) came with me to look at the dress i had ordered. (this was in september and my dress had finally come in).
once i looked at the pictures my dad had taken…i was mortifed. i feel like i look like a whale.
i’m not even concerned with how my breasts look in the pictures- they are way smaller now after my surgery…i’m concerned about my belly and my butt/love handles!
please please tell me what you all think.
i honestly really regret not going for something with rouching or something to control my curves more 🙂
like i said… my mom isn’t here to give me an honest opinion and my dad and brother are men so they have no idea.
money isn’t the biggest issue- my dad bought my dress and if i decide to get another dress i would try and sell this dress just to get some money back but it’s honestly not the most important factor.
okay here come the pics and please tell me your honest opinion… and I am NOT just a girl seeking compliments or reassurances. i really want your true opinion. i’m tough i can take it lol 🙂
Post # 3
I am going to have to agree that its not the most flattering dress in the universe. It seems pretty unforgiving. I would suggest going to someone to see if they can put boning it your dress to provide more structure, or perhaps finding some awesome spanks to see if they do the trick (lots of people, even celebs, wear spanks on their wedding day!) If you still feel self concious get another dress.
Post # 4
Would you consider an A-line dress that goes out from your natural waist? I am also plus size and those sheath dresses that are like a tube, while beautiful, accentuate big hips and bellies. Something with a skirt will hide your hips and belly better.
Post # 5
I love that dress.You look beautiful!!
I wouldn’t add the belt though as my eyes were immediately drawn to the mid section. Without the belt I looked at the dress from top to bottom.
I don’t know what your proportions are going to look at now that you had the reduction , but the main thing is, that it is Your wedding day and you should feel beautiful in your dress. Do what you think is right. If you are regretting it that badly, I would go try on some more dresses and see if there are any else out there that you feel better in. If at the end of the day, you still love the original then you know that you made the right choice . 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest
I honestly think you look really great in it. Sure, you can see the shape of your body, but everyone already knows what your body looks like, and a dress is never going to hide that. Sure, there are certain styles and cuts that will look better than others…. but when I see you in those photos I definitely don’t cringe and think… eeeee what was she thinking? You can own this dress as a curvy woman showing off her curves!
That being said… I think you should feel SO beautiful in your dress. I think you should feel like it’s the best thing you’ve EVER wore for your body.
If you don’t feel that way, and you look at photos and think you look awful, then I would HIGHLY suggest you start searching for a new dress. You don’t want to look back on your wedding photos and think… why didn’t I just try on other dresses?
Post # 7
That is a beautiful dress and I dont see anything a good pair of spanks couldnt fix! My dress is similar shape and we have the same body type and i will be wearing spanks under my dress to keep everything in its proper place
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
I love the belt with it!!!
Post # 9
@brooke25: i agree about the belt
Post # 10
honestly, everything is great about the dress..but the mid section…but it can be fixed with spanx I think…Try it on with spanx and post a picture..I am sure it will look just perfect..
Post # 11
@tzmustafa: I love the dress! I agree that PPs that shapewear would probably fix your areas of concern. Can you go back and try it on with proper undergarments? If you still have doubts, then start looking for other dresses that make you feel beautiful.
Post # 12
Girl, you are CRAZY! Jeeze, I thought I was going to see someone in a dress 14 sizes too small or something!
You look INCREDIBLE in your dress! And if you’re worried about your tummy (which is silly, because it’s barely noticeable) they make Spanx for that!
Post # 13
I was in aggreance with you that it wasnt really flattering, until i saw the pic of you all done up with the belt and veil and i just said “aww” it looks stunning on you all done up! Honestly!
Post # 14
I can see your concern about the mid-section. I think it can easily be fixed by wearing the right undies/spanx. As others have said, this is a trick even models and celebrities use to have amazing body shapes, so no shame with getting one if it helps you feel more confident in your dress. My other concern though, is that the dress looks a little bit unbalanced to me. I would try to make you look more hourglass by adding some crinoline or extra-volume under the dress where it flares.
By the way, even if you had breast reduction after the photos were taken, this dress gives you a VERY beautiful cleavage.
If you’re not sure about this dress, I would try to find either empire or A-line dress that brings the eye to your waist and neckline, and flares away from the body.
Either way, it’s all about making your dress something you will feel confident wearing, and I think you can totally pull off that trumpet dress. It looks beautiful with the veil !
Post # 15
I think it looks really, really lovely.
Post # 16
Girl… a baggin ass corset and some spanks…the end. LOL! I think you can rock it. If you like your body then work with it but if you don’t try to do something about it.