Dress regrets! What alternations should I make or add?

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
44992 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Tbrodsky92:  Your pics aren’t showing. Sometimes it doesn’t work to copy and paste. You have to use the pic uploader- the little symbol 5th from the right at the top of the dialogue box.

Post # 4
330 posts
Helper bee

The pics dont show

Post # 6
246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would definitely do a sparkley belt. Would you want them to make the top a sweetheart by rouching it at your chest. Or you can add a flower or some bow or something at the left side where the asymmetrical hem is. Jewelry and a veil always help you feel like a bride too.

Post # 7
8707 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Belt, alter the neckline, wear crinoline under the skirt to give it some more oomph

Post # 8
63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Tbrodsky92:  I can only see two of the pics but it definitely looks better without a belt. I would also add a sweetheart neckline and maybe a crinoline (is that the word?) underneath to puff up the bottom a bit. I also think that more pronounced ruching on the side would help make it look better.

Post # 10
1558 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

If you really dislike the dress, I think you should get a new one if you can afford to and if you care about loving your dress. no regrets allowed!! 🙂

Post # 11
221 posts
Helper bee

Could you get a big tulle skirt to wear over the top for the ceremony, then whip it off and have this dress the way it is for the reception/party? I’d do it that way, then you get the best of both worlds!

I’d personally also alter the neckline to sweetheart, and wear the belt! 

Post # 12
774 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Dalhousie Castle

I think you should get that tulle ball gown. I don’t care for the one you have now and it seems very ill fitting (but I can only see the first two pictures). The neckline doesn’t look right, its too large and looks unequal in height. It also looks too tight around the waist and baggy at the hips. Is that a sample you are trying on and not your actual dress? It’s just not doing anything for you. Your wedding gown should make you look beautiful! 

From what I can see of your body type, your a slim pear. A natural waist ball gown would look amazing on you. If you can afford a new dress, don’t settle for one that you need to “spruce up”. Get the tulle ballgown of your dreams!! 🙂


Post # 13
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2000


Sounds like you really don’t want this dress as it wasn’t your choice. I’d go with another one, if possible. If you’ve dreamt tulle/ballgown, go with tulle/ballgown.

Post # 14
468 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I have to be honest, I don’t think this dress shape is the most flattering on you. The asymmetrical hemline is cutting you off, and it’s too straight down. I think something with a natural waistline would look amazing, if you have the budget. If not, I think once this is fitted to your body and steamed, it will be much better. I definitely prefer it with the belt. Perhaps you can also alter a sweetheart to open the neckline a bit more and make it seem less square?

Post # 15
750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I normally don’t say this but I say go get your ballgown rather than splurging more money to spruce the dress up and it still may not be the vision you like. I’m saying this because I feel like the dress is not showing off “you”. Of course it can help once fitted and steamed, but it seems like you aren;t happy with the look.

Post # 16
3249 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@Tbrodsky92:  Seamstress here. 😉

I agree that it may not be the best dress for you. . . .

One way to make it look better would be to have the tight part of the bottom altered so it fits your legs more snugly– it looks like it was made for a much taller person, so you’re probably going to need it reshaped to match your own hips and legs. You could also have the pouffy part of the skirt raised a few inches– I think part of the issue with the dress is that the pouffy part of the skirt starts too low on your legs. 

I like someone’s suggestion of making it into a sweetheart neckline by gathering (ruching) between the breasts. And if you like belts, a sparkly or fluffy, fabric-flowery belt would add a lot!

I agree with others though, it sounds like this is not your dream dress, and the alterations this one will need to fit you well will cost some $$$. It’s about as far from a tulle ball gown as one can get, with the slender sihouette and heavy silk fabric. Go try on tulle ball gowns and get what makes YOU happy, not your mom necessarily. I’ve been learning that decisions about wedding stuff need to be ours, and sometimes we end up flying in the face of what our parents want– I think it’s part of the “rite of passage” of the getting married process.

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