(Closed) Dress regret/"That" feeling

posted 4 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Which of these did you experience?
    I had a strong "it's the one" feeling about my dress and DIDN'T have any dress regret. : (12 votes)
    19 %
    I had a strong "it's the one" feeling about my dress and had mild/short-lived dress regret. : (13 votes)
    20 %
    I had a strong "it's the one" feeling about my dress and had SERIOUS dress regret. : (2 votes)
    3 %
    I liked my dress without a strong emotional feeling and DIDN'T have any dress regret. : (12 votes)
    19 %
    I liked my dress without a strong emotional feeling and had mild/short-lived dress regret. : (14 votes)
    22 %
    I liked my dress without a strong emotional feeling and had SERIOUS dress regret. : (8 votes)
    13 %
    Meh. Penguins... : (3 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    125 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @RainStorm: I never had that overwhelming “this is my dress moment”. I was happy in the dress and I liked it while I was wearing it. I do have dress regret, but there is nothing I can do about it. So maybe there is a link! How did you feel in your dress?

    Post # 4
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    1362 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I didn’t have that moment. I bought it preowned and loved it, didn’t even try any other dress. It came in, I love it, I feel beautiful in it. Yes, every once in a while I get dress regret, I just take it out of its bag, look at it (maybe put it on but shhh) and then the dress regret is over!

    Post # 5
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    4688 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

    I LOVED dresss #1 but couldn’t handle the dark champagne color. I sort of had “that” feeling with it, that I was sure about it but it was not the dress for me.

    #2 essentially the store let me exchange so it was my only option. It worked and I have liked it more and more. I pretty much love it, but definitely don’t get too emotional thinking about it. It’s a dress. It just doesn’t matter that much to me.

     

    The truth of the matter is you can love more than one dress, and sometimes you don’t get “that feeling” ya know? Sometimes it’s just a pretty white dress and that’s that!

    Post # 6
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    632 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I’m a logical person, so I went into it not expecting to have a “say yes to the dress” moment of tears. I tried on many dresses and I liked my dress. I’d honestly gone in to the salon wanting Divina, but it wasn’t in the store yet and I’d had to have bought it sight unseen, and I couldn’t do it. But after trying on some trumpets, I realized I’d have a hard time dancing in a dress that low flair. So logically I didn’t want to buy my dream dress, although I swoon everytime I see someone in it!

     

    Long story short, I got a dress similar to Divina (kinda) that was more practical. I loved it, but didn’t cry and I’m sure there are a million other dresses I could have loved. But mine suited my vision of wanting to be different and fun.

     

    Post # 7
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    3969 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I’m starting to look 15 months out and I’m terrified, what if I find the one and it comes in in like 4 months and I get regret ahhhh I guess it’s better than if I order too late…

    Post # 8
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    472 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I love my dress, but am I the only one that has never cried when she found “the” dress? I am a sensitive person, but nothing about it made me cry. It was more like, “I look fantastic. Mission Accomplished.”

    Post # 9
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    287 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I did not have the emotional reaction – I felt pretty laissez-faire about the whole thing, to be honest. I think mainly I picked it because my mom liked it and it was budget friendly and it didn’t make me look like a total heffer (plus-sized bride speaking). I wish I had taken more time to look some more and try different styles on (it was the second dress I tried on and only one of 4-5 total on my first visit).

    All in all, I’ve had dress regret on and off but there really isn’t anything I can do about it since I can’t afford to replace it (nor is there time now…lol). Everyone else who has seen it seems to like it and I made up for my “meh” dress feelings by making sure I loved my accessories. I trust that once I am all done up, I will finally feel secure about my dress choice.

    My best advice to those looking is make sure you try on plenty of different styles and don’t rush in to making a decision. And try and stop looking at dresses altogether after you’ve bought yours. The Bee is not the best place to hang out when you have dress regret – lol!

    Post # 10
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    550 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Dress regret is a serious thing. When I found my dress. I proclaimed, “This may be it” and my MIL said, “really?” (not in a good way) So….yea….. it happens. I am slowly learning to love my dress again.

    Post # 11
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    550 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    @LibbyLoo:  I agree. It is importnat to try on many different styles and take your time. I also fell into the same area as you, LibbyLoo. I found my dress at the right price and if I put it back I wouldn’t see it again. Like you, I am hoping that on the “big day” accessories and make up will build my confidence.

    Post # 12
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    287 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @parada:  I just totally creeped your post with your dress in it…it’s beautiful and is so flattering on you! We are always our own worst critics…IMO, you have nothing to feel regretful over but I know how it feels to have that nagging doubt in your head. I guarantee you will feel gorgeous in it on your big day!

    Post # 13
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    1496 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My reasons for buying my dress were pretty close to LibbyLoo‘s reasons..  My mom was insisting it was “The One”, it fit in my price range, and looked good on me…  Also it matched all of the criteria I was looking for in a wedding dress.  I didn’t have “OMG this is The One” dress moment at all… I actually decided to buy the dress after conferring with my mom when it was back in its bag and on a hanger.  There was no overblown drama emotional-ridden moment with scores of bridal shop attendents cheering me on.  

     

    It wasn’t until it arrived at my house 2 weeks later, and when I got to try it on again while trying out veils that I felt just amazing in it, and that it was MY dress. 

     

    I LOVE LOVE LOVE my dress. My mom was 111110000% correct, this IS the perfect dress for me, and I can’t wait to wear it at my wedding…in 1 month, two daays!! 🙂  I haven’t had a moment of dress regret from the day it arrived at my house. I was worred I would, but no, I’ve been infatuated with it ever since we got it.   It took trying on over 100 dresses to find it, but it was worth it!!  

    Post # 14
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    1005 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I didn’t get the *its the one* feeling with my first dress purchase…I did shed a few tears in the dressing room before I took it off once I decided, but it was more the realization that it was real I was marrying my guy <3 not so much the dress.

     

    I got serious regret…ended up selling and buying second dress in which I had the yes this is the one I want feeling, I didn’t bawl or anything, but I felt/feel amazing in it…it makes me feel on the outside how HE makes me feel on the inside <3

     

     

    Post # 15
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    550 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    @LibbyLoo:  Haha. This is the one website where creeping is a-ok!!!

    Post # 16
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    245 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I really like my dress and think I look great in it. I didn’t shed tears, I didn’t even go with my mom! It was a beautiful dress and at a very reasonable price. I have had reservations after getting the dress, but I don’t think it has to do with the dress itself. I think I still want the experience of trying on dresses and looking beautiful in all of these different styles and imagining what I will look like on our big day. For me at least, that’s where the “regret” lays.

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