- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
So me and my fiance have been engaged for a year. Right after i got engaged me and my mom went trying on dresses just for fun, we are planning our wedding in a thight budget so my dress had to be under $1,000
Well I completely fell in love with a Enzoani blue dress that was $1,400 it gave me that wow feeling, I didnt want to take it off, so I took a lot of pictures and went to call my fiance and told him I found my dress and I never felt so beautiful in my life! when he heard the price he didnt agreed to it so I sadly tried to accept the fact that I had to let it go and kept looking for a deess that was in my budget.
Time passed and two months before the wedding I found another dress for $1,000 so a little out of my budget but not too bad, it looks nothing compared to my first choice but it had the lace I love and it looked classy plus I was feeling rushed and felt like I had to just buy a dress, thinking Im not an ugly girl and every bride looks pretty and when I try it on with my hair and make up done and some accessories I am really gonna like it.
I came home, tried it on a thousand times with my hair up and down and make up and everything just to find out I made a huge mistake, this is definetly the worse remorse I have ever felt in my life, it doesnt fit my body how I wanted, the cut of the dress doesnt show off my curves like the other one did, even that Ivory color kinda makes it look old, its just not flattering on me, the dress is obviously not returnable so they sent me to this expensive alteration place and told me this lady will for sure make my dress look how I wanted which was tighter and needed to take off the straps. I drove an hour to the alteration place talked to the lady who seemed very profesional and she told me what she could do and the price, I paid upfront, came home and kept thinking why am I spending all this money on a dress I don’t love?
So I went online and found my dream dress the one that made me look so pretty 70% off in Tradesy, new with tags and everything. I’m thinking of buying it but I feel very guilty doing so. I would have to hide it from my fiancé since I already spent money on another dress, I’ve been trying to contact the lady to tell her don’t work on the alterations yet but she is not answering, (I guess I will have to drive another hour just to talk to her)
I have already spent $1,600 the dress was $1000 and $600 alterations.
The dress I want is $600 with the discount
Am I over spending in a silly obsession or should I go for it and try to sell dress #1 and use the alteration lady for my dream dress?
I work a lot and never really spend money on silly things, I’m not a big spender or high maintenance kinda girl so I think I deserve it right? there is brides that spend a lot more and are in debt at least Im paying mine cash so let this be a present from me to me.
Another part of me is saying: suck it up it’s one day only you already spend money.
at the same time I wanna look beautiful and feel like this is THE dress not just whatever I could find, I wanna look at those photos years from now and say wow look at me! Not be like: eh! i look ok, it’s not bad.
Please help! What Should I do?