Post # 1
I ordered my dress from a shop that refers you to a local seamstress. I measured as just above a size 10, so they said I was about a size 12 and should order a size 14 to be safe. I was SO confused, but I figured it could just be taken in and I wouldn’t have to worry about it being snug anywhere, so I took thier advice and ordered the 14. Since then I have lost about 7 pounds. The dress is Alfred Angelo 1142 in ivory/gold… and I got it with a discount from the store so it was about $350 or so.
The area I live in has a lot of wealthy/snobby people and I feel like my seamstress isn’t interested in my dress because it isn’t as expensive or impressive as the dresses she usually works on. (She also lectures me about my weight, and lectures my stepdaughter and me about how we speak/live/act etc, she’s offensive) It’s huge on my hips IMO and it makes me look wide, and when I first tried it on for my fitting it fell to the floor if I didn’t hold it up. She said she didn’t want to take in the sides except for in the bust because it would be too much work, and said it was even too tight in the hips! I thought I looked like I was wearing a sack…
So anyhoo yesterday I went to the shop where my sister and mom are getting their dresses and broke down and told my mom about how bad I feel about myself in my dress. She told the lady working there and they referred me to their seamstress and helped me pick out a reception (white bridesmaid’s) dress that was really flattering on me, in a size 10 which confirmed for me that a size 14 is just too big in the hips.
Can I change seamstresses at this point in the game?? My wedding is in a month and I dunno how to pick up this dress without offending my original seamstress who’s part way through altering my dress and stepdaughter’s dress. I don’t know how to say nicely “You won’t do what I want, you make me feel fat and I’m taking this dress elsewhere, but please still finish my JBM’s dress for me.” I also don’t know how much I would have to pay this woman for what she has done so far…
Should I just leave well enough alone and wear the dress as it is? I’m a little worried it’s not a good idea to start alterations somewhere else at this point. The only thing is that this other shop/seamstress are so nice, helpful and honest and have done an amazing job on my mom and sister’s dresses.
Post # 3
“I appreciate your professional opinion on the fit of my dress, however I’ve been referred to a seamstress to tends to specialize in plus-sized brides, and I’d like to see what she suggests”
How about that?
Post # 4
You’re worried about offending a person who’s been rude and offensive to you? You need to stand up for yourself here. Go get your dress and take it to someone who can do their job, and do their job while treating their customer’s nicely!!! How much is your bill at the first shop?
Post # 5
Find a new seamstress, it’s your day and you deserve to look and feel your best. Why would you give your money to someone who puts you down and won’t make the alterations you want to YOUR dress?
Post # 6
@Moja Milosc: please please don let the seamstress made you feel that way!!
Regardless that your dress is not as expensive as other dresses that she working on but your paying her for her work. She has to make your dress flattering on you.
Tell her youre not satisfied with her work. And if you do have to take both your dress and your stepdaughters then do it!!
I bet there are better seamstress out there that will make your dress fit soooo much better!!!!
Post # 7
Thanks so much I needed someone to smack some sense into me!!
@MissNoodles: I like that idea, I’m not plus sized, in street clothes I am a 6 or 8, usually a medium in most stores… so that wouldn’t exactly work… HOWEVER, she did say that the little lace appliques would be too much work, so I could definitely say I found someone who specializes in lace, I love it!
@bakerella: I don’t know what I owe her and to be honest I’m afraid she’ll charge me for all the alterations even though she told me she would not be “finishing” the seams until a couple weeks before the wedding. So what I will be picking up is my dress with unfinished seams and the appliques she took off from the bust and is waiting to put back on.
I agree that it’s her job to make it flattering on me and to do the alterations I asked for, I guess I didn’t realize until now that even though she’s the one doing the work, I’m really the one making the decisions.
Thank you guys so much!!!!
Post # 8
Please find someone who will give you the care and respect you deserve… that dress should fit you exactly the way you want it to! In my area, there are bulletin boards up at Joann Fabrics and Hancock; people are always advertising and posting sewing lessons. Maybe interview a few, with the dress in hand, and see what they would do and how much they would charge. Good luck!
Post # 9
you do not deserve to be treated that way!!!! she needs to learn to shut it!
find a new seamstress, once you get your dress out of her hands, maybe “constructive criticism” in a letter to her telling her how she talked to you was wrong.
Post # 10
@Moja Milosc: Youre a 6/8 and they had you order a FOURTEEN?? I’m a 6/8 as well and I fit rignt into a bridal 10, no alterations needed. You mist be SWIMMING in that dress! ANyway, what you said about the appliques is a good excuse, NOT that you need an excuse to take your dress elsewhere, but you don
t need the drama of a big confrontation so thats an easy out.
Post # 11
Go to the store with an assertive friend/Sister or your Mother is she is that way, ask how much you owe for the work she has done, pay her and take both dresses. Even is she is doing a good job on the other dress I would just have someone else finish it so that you don’t have to deal with this witch again. Be sure to let her know how she has made you feel. Don’t allow yourself to be treated in such a disrespectful way.
Post # 12
I agree with everyone else. Do not work with a seamstress who refuses listen to you. It is better to have the stress of switching to another seamstress now than realize you don’t like how your dress looks a week or two before the wedding.
Post # 13
Totally agree with what others said & don’t let an offensive, rude seamstress ruin your wedding day! You deserve to feel special and beautiful and have every right to get your dress altered by whomever you wish!! Take your dress elsewhere…she doesn’t deserve your business.
Post # 14
The customer is king! Take your dress away from this horrible, petty woman who has made you feel bad immediately! This should be a happy time for you, so try and salvage what you can now. Best of luck!