Dress shop etiquette?

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I did not wear makeup – I didn’t want the possibility of getting anything on the dress. I don’t think I’d do hair either – you can do that at a fitting later. I didn’t wear specific shapewear or underthings (didn’t want to spend a bunch of money on something I wouldn’t necessarily need), and it turns out I don’t need anything under my dress. Just remember to wear panties you won’t necessarily mind the consultant seeing, lol. 

The shop I went to also wouldn’t let me take pictures (I’m in WI). I tried on a grand total of 5 dresses and bought the first one I tried on, which is the dress that caused me to make the appointment in the first place. 

 

Good luck! I’d bring a bottle of water and maybe non messy snacks if you plan on being there a while. 🙂 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I didn’t wear makeup (didn’t want to get it on the dresses), didn’t do my hair (just had it up – but I planned on having it up, so maybe just up vs down to get a general idea?) and just wore non-thong underwear. They provided a corset-ish underthing and the slip/poofy skirt for under the dress. I was able to take photos at the salons near me in Northern California. Don’t worry about it too much, especially on the first trip. I tried on four or five dresses at my first appt. I went back after trying on more and ended up buying the first one I had tried. Have fun!!

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

whoops, somehow double-posted

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I wore makeup and fixed my hair, just like I most of the time when I leave the house. Most dresses don’t go over your head, you step into them, so you don’t have to worry about getting makeup on them. 

if you look good, you feel good, and you want to feel incredible when you put on “the dress”

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I wore my regular hair and makeup, a strapless bra and conservative panties.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

The stores that I have been in, you also have to take off your shoes. I would also wear full coverage underwear, since the consultant will most likely see you as they are helping you zip up. I didnt do anything special with my hair. The first time it was down, the second time if was pulled back into a bun. I put the bun approximately where I wanted the veil to attach, so that worked well.

The stores here also dont let you bring in any food or drinks. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

They say you shouldn’t wear makeup.  I always wear makeup and I definitely did for all my appointments, and not one store mentioned it.  I’m so used to wearing makeup, that I would look so off to me in a fancy dress and no makeup I wouldn’t be able to pick any dress!!  

Shapewear isn’t neccessary.  Many stores give you some that go with a particular dress to try on over your underwear.  A strapless bra would definitely be helpful.  Also, wear a nude/ light colored pair of underwear with as little lines as possible. It isn’t a huge deal (I wouldn’t run out and buy new underwear to try on dresses), but I wore dark blue underwear and tried on all sorts of dresses, and it definitely showed through when I tried on a couple of sheath gowns!!

Some salons let you take pictures and others don’t.  The salon I bought my dress from did not, but you are allowed to take pictures after you purchase (not too helpful for making a decision but it is something).  

As far as hair, if you know you want to wear your hair down, half up, or up, I might put your hair that way (it doesn’t have to be fancy).  If you wear your hair completely down, I might bring a hair tie or a couple bobby pins incase they want to veil you.  Depending on your hair texture veils can just slip out of your hair without something to prevent it.  

Everyone tells you to try on a bunch of different styles and be open (good advice), but I’m going to tell you a bit of different advice.  Be prepared to use your imagination.  Unless you get very lucky, it is likely that most of the dresses you try on won’t even come close to fititng you.  It is one of the only times I had ever tried on clothes for purchase that weren’t even close to my size, and you have to imagine it sits.  You will feel beautiful in your gown with the right mindset, but if the sample of your gown happens to be many sizes off, chances are in actuality you will look a little funny.  Imagine what it would be like if it fit you, and don’t be afraid to ask questions about how the gown would fit.  The sample of the dress I picked was 3 sizes too big.  They pinned it a bit, and I spoke to a seamstress before I put money on it.  Although it clearly didn’t look great on me as I was swimming in it when I tried it on, they were able to give me a clear vision of what it might look like when it fits, and not that I have my gown in my size, I couldn’t be more thrilled with it!!  

As for how many dresses you will get to try on- that all depends on how generous the consultant is with her time and how busy the salon is (generally during the week you get much more time than on the weekends).  Probaby around 5-7 dresses.  Places like David’s Bridal you can pull dresses off the rack and try more (while I wasn’t thrilled at their dresses, they have many sizes and you can try them on rapidly, so it actually is a great place to figure out what you want if you are as clueless as I was)  

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

rachel85:  Congrats!  I wore comfortable clothes that were easy to get off when I was looking. I believe I wore leggings, tshirt and long sweater. Didn’t wear any particular underthings – normal bra and underwear (not a thong lol). Wore my hair down and minimal makeup. We were allowed to take photos in the two places I went. I’d say I tried on 6-8 dresses at each place. I picked something that day 🙂

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

rachel85:  Depends on what you would normally wear to try on fancy dresses.  I wore a strapless bra and nude colored boy shorts.  I did wear makeup because that’s just me.  If you plan to wear your hair up – put it up..  The one other suggestion is to bring along the type of shoe you plan to wear.  Obviously the dresses wont be cut to your measurements – but it’ll give you a good idea of what alterations you may need.  If you typically wear shape-wear under fancy dresses – or during your day to day – than bring that along as well.  Finally, wear under-things that your are comfortable with having a serveral strangers (albeit women) see you in.  Some of these ladies pop into the dressing room like it’s no ones business so… be prepared to show a bit of skin 🙂

As for the no pics rule – I live on the east coast and nearly every shop I went to has it 🙁

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I wore the same make up and hair down as I always do. Same undergarments I usually wear with jeans and a shirt. 

Don’t bother with the undergarments yet. You don’t know what dress you’ll end up choosing and the undergarments will change depending on the shape of the dress. 

Just go and have fun, worry about that stuff later 🙂

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I wore makeup & had curly hair [which is what I will have at the wedding]. The dresses that they will have you try on are samples, so they might already have makeup, sweat, and other things on it, it’s really not a big deal. I was given longline bra and slip to wear. My consultant helped me try on dresses, which for the most part went over my head.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I tried on lots of different styles when I went – ballgowns, mermaids, a-line, sheaths, and empire waist. I found lots that fit or almost fit which was good.  Didn’t have to use my imagination too much. Most of all HAVE FUN! Trying on wedding dresses is something little girls dream of. Don’t get too caught up in it and enjoy yourself.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I also wore make up but not the usual foundation that rubs off (that would be a nightmare). I had my hair down but now envision my hair up with the dress I chose. I would agree with the other bees that you should wear a convertible bra and underwear that you wouldn’t be mortified for other people to see you in. It was so much fun! 

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