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i did that - for the same reasons you gave - it was too confusing with everyone's opinions. the bridal store didn't seem fazed so i assume it does happen.
Hmmm, if you're able to sneak pictures yourself if might work out. And I think it matters what type of consultant -- pushy or sweet -- you're working with in each shop.
I went to a ton of places by myself. I was home for a few weeks and I had nothing else to do so I figured I would use the time while I had it!
I really enjoyed going and since I didn't have a very specific idea of what I wanted it allowed me to try on all sorts of dresses (with all sorts of budgets) without wasting anyone else's time. I definitely would have asked my mom and/or sister or even friends to come back with me a second time if I had seen something I liked when I was on my own but never did that - I found the dress I picked on one of the few shopping trips where my mom joined me. I brought my camera with me and a lot of the shop assistants were happy to snap photos for me (where it was allowed).
It's worth trying the dress shopping by yourself - if you don't enjoy it then you can try to schedule around others' availability.
I went the first two times by myself--I didn't tell anyone I was going! I wanted time to just have fun and figure out what I liked/wanted. After I had it narrowed down (I secretly knew exactly which dress I was getting) I had my mom and sister come check out a few. It kept the pressure, and opinions, from getting to me!
Yes, I was thinking about the consultant type also. It seems less pressure to me if their pushy if my mom isn't present, as I can say well I love this but can't purchase without my mom. :)
Also, if I don't care for their attitude I can just browse (and not try on) and say I'll be back with my friends/mom.
I went shopping alone for my dress. I was unsure at first but I ended up being very happy that I had done so. I bought a dress that I might not have gotten because I would have been swayed by other opinions. Depending on your sales rep, you may not get the fawning feeling from her like your friends/family would give you, but you also know your dress when you find it.
I hear you. My family doesn't live in the States and my closest friends dont live close to the city, where I wanted to go shopping, so I knew that I'd have to go by myself but I was happy with the idea. I went alone the first two times and I really enjoyed it. Once I knew which dresses I like I flew my mom to NYC and brought a friend to help me decide. I think nowadays it's not that unusual for brides to go dress shopping alone.
I went shopping by myself and was really happy I did. It was nice to see what styles I liked without hearing other people's opinions. After I had some ideas of what I liked I went with the group. That ended up working out great for me. Good luck!!
I went by myself. I'm really glad I did. I enjoyed very much, never had a pushy sales person either. When I had narrowed down my choice to what I believed was the dress, I called my mom up and showed her, 30 minutes later we were signing on the dotted line. It worked out great for me, I wanted to make sure that I loved the dress and wasn't being confused or overwhelmed by everyone else's opinion.
Going alone was so much better for me...and I found my dress very quickly.
I first went with mom, sister, BFF, and dad showed up for a few stores too! I was totally overwhelmed by all the opinions! I went again with my SIL, and then again with Mom. No dice!
But I went alone to two places, and found it at the second shop.
I went with my MOH the first couple of times I went shopping. I actually found I was being influenced by her opinion, which in this case wasn't necessarily a good thing. We had different ideas about what a wedding dress should look like, and she kepts steering me towards dresses that she would have picked out for herself. But an advantage is she was super helpful dealing with pushy salespeople, which I sometimes have a hard time doing. I ended up finding my dream dress (at a dream price!) when I went shopping by myself.
In other words, its not weird :)
I think it would be okay, sometimes brides get too persauded by others opinions and sometimes it's easier when its only your thoughts and you don't have to worry what anyone thinks! You're the one wearing it...YOU should love it!
I always went with one trusted friend (one of my BMs who is in fashion) or I went by myself. As much as I loved my friend, and as much as I love her style, I don't think she really understood what I wanted, and really pushed me into considering dresses I really didn't like. I ended up purchasing one of those dresses, and six months before the wedding, I had a meltdown and realized I needed another dress because the one I bought, while lovely, really wasn't "me." What I really wanted was a very simple (yet fashion forward) tea-length dress. I ended up going to a few places to try on BM dresses by myself, and purchased the dress I'll be wearing on my wedding day on my own, without anyone else's opinion. It was so much better, trust me.
I think it's more a "fun" expereince to take people on your first few trips out, but having too many emotions (mom's!) or too many oppinions (friends!) is really too much to handle when it comes down to making a decision. When it comes time to make a decision, I would highly recommend going on those appointments solo. In the end, you need to do what YOU want, and not worry about pleasing others. The dress is one aspect of the wedding that should be completely YOU.
I don't think I would buy my dress alone, but shopping alone once was very helpful. Other people's opinions can be wrong sometimes. ;) I found it valuable to decide what I really felt comfortable in before having someone else tell me what flattered me or not.
I totally went on my own the first time! Mainly because I didn't want to drag everyone down somewhere and not find anything I liked. Also, like you said, sometimes having other girls around clouds your judgement. They might go on about how great a dress is, convincing you that it's 'the one' before you even have a chance to determine if you like it.
I only brought my mom with me after I scouted some dresses. After I found 'the one' I invited my MOH, FMIL and flower girl to see it. They all agreed that it was 'the one' as well.
I went shopping alone for the following reasons:
--No one was available/people were tired of going with me...(ha! Dress shopping was a very long process for me!)
--I wasn't sure exactly what I wanted, but when I went alone, I was more in-tune with how I really felt about each style or dress. When I was with others, I appreciated their input, but I felt too swayed by some of their comments sometimes.
Make sure to take your camera and don't be afraid to ask the salesladies to take pictures for you! Have fun and good luck!
I prefer to shop for clothes by myself anyway, so I've been thinking of going at least once by myself. I need to see how I feel about a dress without having to hear everyone else's opinions.
The first time that I was engaged I shopped alone first and then took my best friend and then finally my mom (who didn't like the dress btw). lol!
i think my initial visits will be alone. i pretty much know what i like and i hate to shop, so i'm very quick about things. i'll take someone for a 2nd opinion on another trip.
Ummm, yeah, I've done my dress shopping and fittings, all on my lonesome. No one will see me in the dress until the day of the wedding, which might be fun, but it definitely wasn't fun not having ANY opinions or feedback from people throughout the process.
Today I went, saw the girl next to me with a BM and her mom and was jealous. I tried on my altered pretty dress and nearly cried for myself ... there were no moms around to cry for me!
goign alone made it soooo easy. i liked it or i didn't and i was able to try on lots of dresses super fast. my mom lived 5 hours away so it's not like she coudl come up all the time. my plan was to save the ones i loved, then take her back for final opinions. i ended up at an off the rack one day sale, sent her a text image of my dress and received a message telling me to buy it now!
So much easier. The attendants were always real friendly with me, too--no overbearing crabby mothers to deal with!
Thanks Cre. I guess I should just mention that my family and BMs all live far away, so "alone" has pretty much been the story of this wedding planning. I did get my FI to step up and help though. He's been awesome! Obviously no good for offering opinions on the dress he isn't allowed to see yet though :P
My situation is a little different, but I'm planning on going alone. On top of that, if I get my dress made by Elizabeth Dye, I'll have to fly and see her, so it wouldn't make sense to buy two or three tickets.
As much as I can't wait to go dress shopping I am holding off until I can go with my mom and sister. I just feel like the first time I put on a wedding dress is super special and I want them there.
I agree that going alone is waayyyy easier. Unless you have someone who has very similar taste as you, I think going with other people just make things a lot more complicated (so many opinions that you don't agree with!), and you end up feeling pressured or confused.
I went by myself. We haven't told the parents yet, because I haven't been able to bring him home to meet them (he's currently deployed to Afghanistan). We're visiting when he gets home, and he'll talk to my Dad... I sent my sister pictures via email (our siblings know), but she and I have very different styles. She told me she loved it, and was very supportive. Even if I had waited until my whole family knew, I tend to put pressure on myself to go with my Mom's and other female relatives' opinions. They may just be trying to be helpful, and I over-analyze their comments. I'd rather be sure I'm getting the gown that I love.
I first went with a friend. I think for your first "bridal" experience, it might be kind of nice to experience it all with someone. We went to fancy places, and had the whole champagne experience that time.
Then, I started going it alone and noticed a few things: 1) I got more attention from the sales people. It was great to hear their expert opinions and the "inside baseball" stuff they were telling me. I learned about which dresses take a long time to come in, what styles flatter certain body types, and a lot about materials and quality. I also tried on dresses that everyone else wrinkled their noses at!
I did happen to have my cousin in law with me when I found my dress, but it was as if I was on my own. I threw the dress on, we looked at it for a second, and then we bought it... The whole process took about 15 minutes. Of course I put the thing on, and it was instant. She could have been there or not, the outcome would have been the same!
Going it alone was really nice, actually... and I really appreciated being able to just take into account what *I* thought and not what everyone else thought!
I went with my maid of honor and mother to go shopping for my wedding dress but found that I was just confused because my mother didn't really like a lot of the dresses I went. So I decided to go shopping by myself a few times and snuck in pictures. It was more productive because I got to try on as many dresses as I wanted and ended up asking for their opinion on the final two.
I never went dress shopping alone, but I did go with only one other person. And I think that helped a lot. This way I ony had one opinion other than mine.
I liked going by myself. I tried on over 50 dresses and I would've felt sorry for anyone who had to put up with me the whole time:) So, I narrowed it down to 2 and brought my sister and mom. They got to choose between the two.
I prefer to shop (in general) by myself. I may go to a few shops on my own (since all my family and bridal party is 3000 miles away). Im doing some shopping with my sister/MOH Labor Day weekend ... if I don't find something with her, I'll probably go on my own.
I prefer to shop alone. Even for regular clothes. I just like having privacy and not feeling like I'm taking up someone elses day.
My mom has no interest in my wedding plans. FI's mom might come with me when I start dress shopping. Probably, I'll just order something online though and hope for the best.
I did it and took pictures myself, and it was great! It was 100% my opinion and my opinion only, and I would do it again in a heart beat.
I went completely alone, and bought my dress completely alone. My mom ridiculed me when I tried to take her one time and my MOH couldn't care less. I'm excited for my dress to be a surprise to everyone!!
I always had someone with me. That was just one of those things that I wanted someone else to be there with me for.
I went with my mom, and it was perfect. She just sat outside, and the consultant dressed me. I think going with a possee of bridesmaids might have made me more nervous, actually.
I went with bridesmaids and MOH the first couple of stores, but one day, I went during my work lunch hour alone to a bridal shop and it was completely fine. I thought it would be weird since everyone else would have people with them, but it honestly wasn't. Because I was alone, I was able to figure out what I liked and not what everyone else liked. I would recommend going alone to at least one shopping trip.
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Hello again Ladies!
Have any of you gone dress shopping alone and enjoyed it? The reason I ask is because #1 it is REALLY difficult to get together with my bridesmaids or even my mom sometimes and I'm dying to go more often than I actually get to, and #2 when they go with me they confuse me!
Of course, I wouldn't make a purchase without bringing them in for opinions, but it just seems easier for me to go out looking on my own. I do feel kind of strange though doing this, and I wonder how common it is for brides to go shopping alone? What do you think?