Post # 1
So, after a lot of irritation about a dress-shopping-date when my MoH was going to be visiting over spring break, she ended up getting very sick and having to cancel her trip.
My mother was not excited whatsoever about going dress shopping…I think she would get more “into” it if she went, but my excuse to get her to go is now gone. (Excuse was: MoH’s going to be here and we wanted the “experience.”) Mom’s now back to “just get a dress on EBay.” I’m not opposed to a used dress, although my plan is to have one made through Etsy Alchemy. But I want to go try some on to see what style looks best on me.
Would it be ridiculous to just go dress shopping alone?
Post # 3
I’ve been told “no” by the hive, and I’m probably going this weekend. It can be a good thing though, just some quiet time for reflection, without getting your opinions clouded by other people!
I’m sorry though, I know it’s a letdown to not have people into going with you.
Post # 4
It’s absolutely not ridiculous. In fact, I recommend it. I went by myself once and really enjoyed it. Sometimes it’s really overwhelming to have people with you giving you opinions and comments. I found it easier to think clearer when I was by myself.
Post # 5
When I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man for Future Sister-In-Law, we had a big day of dress shopping for her dress as well as the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. It ended up being really awkward for her (she’s plus sized, and they didn’t really allow for modesty) and I think she just couldn’t make decisions under that pressure.
She ended up going back alone and finding “the one” that way, and I understand that. Ultimately, I think that other peoples’ well-intentioned opinions sometimes steer away from the dress that is right for you. I know you would be dress shopping alone more out of necessity, but I think the same rules apply.
Also, I bought my dress online without trying it on. So I really broke the rules. 😛
Post # 6
I went dress shopping alone. The best thing is to find a great boutique where they will offer good suggestions and no pressure. Or a great upscale consignment shop (the one I went to was as nice as a boutique, but just had used dresses). Take lots of photos and send to friends, family, and post here. The only thing is I find it pretty rude to take a lot of someone’s time (shop owner, consultant, etc) when you’re planning not to buy from them. It’s different if you don’t find what you want, but if you find something nice and have it more or less copied by someone else then the person at the shop gave you their time for free.
Post # 7
I actually did my best dress shopping alone, believe it or not. When I had people there, I was so worried about their opinions that I didn’t see the dresses clearly for myself. Once I was alone I could turn my critical eye on!
When I found my dress, I didn’t need a soul to tell me that it was right… It was just completely obvious and I bought it right then and there!
Post # 8
I think it’s more than ok to go dress shopping alone. You could have one of the sales associates take pictures for you, if they allow that on the dress(es) you like the best. I’m very tempted to do this also.
Post # 9
If you do your best regular clothes shopping alone (I do), then I don’t see why you wouldn’t do weel at wedding dress shopping alone. I only took my Mom when I tried on THE dress and I wished she’d stayed at home because she was not “into it” and wasn’t helpful at all. I say go for it! You’ll know what’s right because it’s all about how you feel!
Post # 10
@rachelss: Honestly, I agree with you – but I have no other option. I’m a weird fit, long torso, short legs, and I have no. clue. what would look good on me. I can’t afford to buy a dress from any of our boutiques locally, and we don’t have “budget shops” (Like DB) ANYWHERE closeby. If I can find a dress in my price range from the local boutique, I will be happy to purchase from them, and plan on being very candid about my budget. I used to work in commission-based retail, so I know how frustrating it can be to have someone come in and take up time. Fortunately, our local shop allows you to pull and try on dresses without having a consultant assisting you the whole time, which was my plan to take advantage of, that way I’m not wasting time…but then again, I will need someone with me to help me lace things up.
Post # 11
I went dress shopping both alone, and with my Future Mother-In-Law and Maid/Matron of Honor. As much as I enjoyed sharing the experience with my Future Mother-In-Law (my mom isn’t interested, and Future Mother-In-Law doesn’t have any daughters), I preferred to be alone. Nothing is as deflating as staring at yourself in the change room mirror, in a dress that you love, and then walking out and seeing the faces of people you love who clearly think that it’s a bad choice. Shopping alone gave me a chance to really decide for myself whether or not I liked a dress, and having the unbiased opinions of the bridal consultants was a lot of help.
And if you’re still unsure, maybe you should go by yourself the first time, and if you find a dress that you love, lure your mom to the store to get her opinion on “the one”.
Post # 12
@elusivephoto – are you in the DC area or is that where you are getting married? iF you are around the DC I can help you out and point you to 1)Davids BRidals 2)budget dress stores and 3)really nice bridal salons that have reasonably priced dresses
Let me know if you need some help finding a place!
Post # 13
Actually I’m at the VERY outer edge of the DC metro area, in VA, and have some major transporation issues, so I can’t go too far at the moment. I do know of some budget places, but all are an hour and a half or more away. (Bethesda, Potomac Mills, etc.)
I’m also at an impass at the moment about budget, because ultimately, I’m paying for the dress. I’m willing to pay $500-$800, particularly because my plan is to re-sell after the wedding. My mother says that’s ridiculous, and I can find a “perfectly good” dress online for under $200. That’s probably true, but I’ve never had a prom, or a banquet…this is my first and perhaps only opportunity to wear a formal of any kind. I’m having some issues with the practical side of it: we’re a couple just starting out, and that’s a lot of money to spend on a dress that I’ll wear for 6 hours…and the bridal wedding-crazed side: it’s my day, and I really want to have a nice dress, that is altered to fit me perfectly. My problem is…would I feel guilty on my wedding day knowing that I’d spent a ton of money on the gown? (I know that $500-$800 is a really tight budget compared to most, but I know that I could find a dress I was thrilled with for that amount, there are a couple of alfred angelo dresses I love…as well as some paloma blanca dresses, and I’m not opposed to buying used, either.)
Blech, even thinking about it is making me more stressed and frustrated. At some point I’m just going to give up and buy one from ebay. Ultimately, I’m marrying him, not the dress, and it will be a wonderful special day regardless of what i’m wearing.
Post # 14
Thats a bummer that your MoH bailed, but I agree that its not a terrible thing to go it alone. My mother and I have really different tastes, and it ended up being a really awkward and frustrating experience the time that she came along (read: the pouted in front of the entire store with her arms folded and a scowl on her face when I didn’t like the style she wanted me to get – and I was super nice about it too.) After that experience, I wished that I had gone alone.
Post # 15
@elusivephoto, I understand you financial restraints. I bought my dress online from a website that sells authentic gowns for at least 50% off ticket price. Because I got such a great deal I bought two dresses, for $300.00. They have limited selection and sizes, but if you’re interested I can give you the web address.
Post # 16
Yes, please, I’d love that link!