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One of my friends went dress shopping like 10 times alone. picked her 3 fav dresses and then brought everyone in to help at the end.
I did that! Only because my mother would push me to get something she'd want to wear as opposed to what I wanted. I brought her only when I was certain I knew what I wanted. She cried in the waiting area before I even came out wearing the dress! She loved it, I loved it and there were no battles. Happy ending.
Good luck!
I'll be interested in the responses. I myself am wondering the same thing. I don't live by any close friends or family and have been debating going alone.
Yup I found my dress by myself I want to the shop and tried on a few dresses and found the one i loved. I eventually brought my sister and my mom to see. FOr me dress shopping alone was calm and happy. When I was with other ppl I felt pressured to try on things that they thought looked nice.
Thanks for the input, ladies. I think I would enjoy going alone, but was hoping that the dress shop ladies wouldn't discount me just becuase I didn't bring a brood of people.
I went dress shopping with my Mom, then was afraid I was picking a dress because it made her cry, so I went dress shopping by myself to see if I really wanted that dress or not.
It was actually a lot of fun.
I live in a different state than my entire family and pretty much all of my friends (ones close enough I'd take shopping with me at least), so I dress shopped solo. I'm sure I looked sad to other people, but I rather enjoyed it. To be fair, I prefer shopping by myself in general so I probably would have gone alone even if I lived in my hometown. It was nice going at my own pace, and not having to fake some sort of major reaction to anything or get caught up in someone else's opinion. I emailed my mom a photo of the dress after I paid for it, and she replied "beautiful". It was enough for us.
I did, I bought my first dress all by myself. It is my favorite of my two dresses. I bought my dress for the ceremony with my FH. I enjoyed shopping by myself, nobody rushing me and I could try on whatever I wanted and I got the dress I really wanted, not something I was convinced to buy.
Yep, I went by myself twice....and it was refreshing to just think about something on my own. I ended up buying my dress when my MOH was with me...I appreciate her opinion, and we have similar fashion ideas, so I knew she would understand my vision, and not try to impress her own upon me!! :D
I went dress shopping three times. First time was with my mom, MIL and MOH. It was tough to have to listen to all of the opinions. Second time was with mom and we did not see eye to eye.
Third time I went alone and found my dress! It was the best way to go for me. I bought it without any additional opinions. Maybe I should have asked my MOH to take a look at it, but I was excited! :)
I followed in Ranaki13 footsteps and also went alone. It was perfect and so relaxing! Once I found my top 3 I invited a BM and my mom and with their help I narrowed it down to the one. I wouldn't have done it any other way!
I did exactly what you're thinking of and it was so much more efficient. My family and bridal party are scattered across the country, so I went shopping alone at 3-4 boutiques. I think you end up being able to try more dresses on that way because if you don't like it, there's no pressure to show anyone else or discuss it or anything. Then I brought a friend from the area when I had narrowed it down to 2 dresses and chose my final dress with her help.
But I also don't have a close relationship with my mom and dress shopping wasn't something that either of us needed to do together. If your mom (or FMIL) might feel left out, I'd suggest trying to go at least once with her.
The first time I went dress shopping with my sister and and a friend. They were really good about it because they kept quiet until I told them what I thought. Then, they would give me their input. We have the same style and taste in clothes so I brought them along to tell me if I looked good in a certain dress on. I also needed that extra person to confirm and remember which dresses looked good on me. After that, I went dress shopping by myself (6 stores!) since I now new what I like/disliked until I found the one. It's nice shopping alone because I feel like you get through more dresses without everyone oohing and aahing. I never had time to shop so I had to squeeze in my visits here and there so that saved me alot of time.
End the end, I couldn't narrow it down to 2 dresses so I brought a friend along for the second visit and she basically watched my reaction in the dresses. Based on my body reaction, she told me which one I showed more "liking" to.
I did almost all of my dress shopping alone! My bridesmaids live about 1-1.5 hrs away, plus it's hard to coordinate schedules, so I ended up browsing on my own. I actually preferred it that way, because in the end, all that matters is what YOU think of the dress. It just turned out that when I finally ended up buying my dress, my newly-engaged friend accompanied me to the sample sale because she wanted to look for a dress for herself as well. But aside from that one time, I did all my shopping alone.
I recommend it, actually! As others have mentioned, you could always bring a friend or relative to help you make a decision once you've narrowed down your choices.
I went dress shopping on my own so that I could get a better feel of what I liked in a dress. Plus, my family lives in a different state. I had my family come to the salon when I narrowed down my selection.
I went with my friend first and if I had followed her "guidance" I would have looked horrible. UGH I ended up going back and went alone, on a Thursday, in the evening and there was basically no one else there and had the best time! I found my dress and was not influenced by other people's opinions and I'm so glad I did it that way. I asked the consultant if girls come in a lot on their own and she said that actually they do and the consultants actually prefer it! My consultant said she had seen too many times where a bride loved a dress but her friends/family did not care what she thought and talked her out of it and she went with a dress that she may not have loved as much. Plus, having others there can be stressful and it can get quite congested with space.
I'd give it a try and see what happens! Good luck!
I shopped alone the third time I went, and finally found the dress for me. It was something I wouldn't have even tried on if someone else had been with me. I'm such a people-pleaser that sometimes I have a hard time seeing through someone else's opinion to what I really think.
When I found my dress I visited this one boutique with my BMs and had to return the next day to purchase it. Well the next day I came alone and asked to try on my dress again before I purshased and honestly I felt kind of sad being alone. One lady, who I assumed to be the mom of another bride came up to me to say I looked beautiful but I think she also saw that I was alone and felt pitty??? Maybe I'm just paranoid! But that was my experience!
I did! I didn't really want a lot of differing opinions since I wasn't positive of what I would like, and I didn't want anyone to influence what I thought of my choice! It was a bit sad though because I don't think the sales consultants really took me very seriously since I didn't have a whole entourage with me. I ended up finding my dress by myself, and then took my mom the week after and we purchased it!
Thanks for all the input. I do think I will prefer being alone, and I don't think I will offend anyone, but I think I was worried about what MandyW mentioned re the consultants not taking you seriously. But, it seems like enough of you had good experiences flying solo:)
I went alone since I live in NYC and my family and friends are in MI. It was fun but kind of sad at the same time, I wish I would have had at least one girlfriend with me to share in my excitement!
I am in the same boat. I recently moved to NY and my friends and family are 3 hours away in PA. I went after work on a whim one day to dry on dresses, and was surprised that I got choked up on my 4th dress. I thought, "Dammit, why is there no one else here with me!" lol.
I later brought two girlfriends with me to try that same dress on again in a different store, and their reaction was the same and I cried again ... it was the one so I bought it.
My mother was very upset that I bought the dress on my own without her, but like PP's, she would have tried to bully me into getting a Princess Di-esque ball gown that swallowed me up.
When I showed her a pic at Easter, she commented that it was "kind of plain" and made a face, so in the end, I was really glad that she wasn't with me when I tried it on, or she would have ruined that special moment with her opinions for sure.
GO FOR IT, HONEY!
At alligatress: Too funny! I think it was the fourth one I tried on also. Then my next trip to MI I took my Mom and sister and my Mom ended up buying it for me that day! Where in NY do you live? Are you getting married here? My FI and I wanted to get married on 10.10.10 but the venue wasn't availabe so 10.23.10 it is!
@speulie - I work in Gramercy but live in Westchester. We're getting married in Cabo San Lucas, so the 10-10-10 was still available (whew). :)
Shoot, we should have gone wedding dress shopping together, lol.
Go for it! I went by myself and really enjoyed the experience. Then again, I found my dress on my first trip. My advice go on an off day if possible so that you aren't overwhelmed by other appointments or groups of people. My experience was on a snowy day here and the shop owner and I were the only ones in the store. We had a lot of fund just grabbing dresses off the rack. A friend of mine came back with me later to confirm that it was actually the dress. I really enjoyed it because it was what I liked and not influenced by any other opinions.
I went alone and found my dress alone. Once I found THE DRESS I asked my mom to come into the shop with me to confirm my purchase. It was relaxing and I enjoyed finding the dress on my own, without distraction.
My first shopping trip I went to Vera Wang in Boston w/ mom, gramma, the BFF, and my goddaughter - overwhelming!! I went to a local shop to try on dresses by myself the second time. I didn't want everyone's opinion being thrown at me. The third (and final) time I went w/ just my mom. I brought the gramma's, FMIL, and BFF to try the final selection on for them - even though it was already decided on.
the first time i went alone. it was during a trunk show, and the designer was the one helping me try on dresses. she was very helpful and gave good advice on what looked good on my body. i think i trusted her opinion more than i might have just a friend since she is a designer and wants you to look good in her dress!
the second time i took a friend who has experience as a bridal consultant. good think because the service was lackluster. i went a third time by myself before finding my dress at a different trunk show. one of my bridesmaids was with me, and she was lovingly honest with her comments. we both knew it was the one; such an exciting moment!
in the end, i appreciated having both experiences so i could balance my personal thoughts and opinions with those of friends and professionals. the best of both worlds!
I did, loved it! I bought the dress for me, and it is for me only...I don't need others feedback. A whole lot of people do it. I did however tell the bridal consultant that I would be by myself, and she made me feel super comfortable. A little sad though however that I never had the whole "mother-daughter-sister-bestfriend experience". Yet in the end, they all approaved. (and if they didn't...I would have worn it anyway...) lol!
I have been to numerous shops alone, and I actually like it. When I go out alone I don't have to work around other people's schedules and do not have other opinions to contend with. Plus since I am now at the point of comparing to what I believe is the one, I know what I'm looking for and I'm pretty much in and out. I have really grown a liking to gown shopping solo.
I actually love the idea of doing this little chore by yourself. I really wanted to have my Mom or my Grandmother and my MOH with me, at least, but after watching episodes of SYTTD I decided that maybe it would be more beneficial to go by yourself. I am just afraid that your vision with suddenly become their vision, or vise versa, and really it is about what you want, not what everyone else thinks you should want. So if I don't go alone, I will take one person with me that I think will not try and sugar coat it into saying that every dress looks great on me, or that is trying to deter me from every conscious decision that I am trying to make. Dress choosing is the most daunting task of the wedding, because at the end of the night all you want is to be able to look good for your FI.
Me, me, me! I went to 5 salons solo. When I found my top two contenders, I took my mom, fmil and sister and they all agreed with my favorite choice. Too many people with have resulted in a headache.
Do it!
I went shopping 2-3 times with my sister or mom and a BM, but one day they weren't available and I ended up buying my dress! I couldn't believe it. I was 100% sure about it! It was really nice shopping by myself; no distractions.
Yes! I window-shopped numerous dresses online and was in the mall and by chance, saw a dress that I had kept coming back to online. I tried it on, loved it, and bought it!
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I'm considering dress shopping by myself and am curious whether others have done this. My family is not local, and I could bring a friend who lives in my city or my FMIL, but I sort of like the idea of having no one's input but my own. Also, I would surely bring someone in before I actually purchased a gown for a second opinion. Any thoughts?