Dress shopping before engagement?

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
523 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Have you guys set a proposal date or timeframe? I wouldn’t recommend doing that if you’re not 100% sure that he’s going to ask some time soon.

Post # 4
2264 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I wouldn’t try anything on until after you’ve gotten engaged and detailed a budget. Things change after you get engaged. Heck, STYLES change after you get engaged. What you like now might not be what you will like later on.

Plus, I wouldn’t spend the money on a dress now, especially if it means you will be strapped for money later. As a guest, there is nothing worse than showing up at a wedding with a bride in an expensive dress who hasn’t hosted her guests properly! Make sure that after you get engaged, you write up a budget and allocate your finances to the most important things (food, enough tables and chairs, etc.)

Post # 5
405 posts
Helper bee

@SomedayHisBride:  Honestly, I wouldn’t do it.  You can go after you get engaged, and take your best friends/mom/whoever with you!  Way more fun!

EDIT:  What PP said!  You don’t know your budget, and you dont want to fall in love with a dress you can’t afford.  And styles will definitely change between now and the next few years.

Post # 6
858 posts
Busy bee

Dont do it!!! Wiat until you have the ring! Nothing like trying on dresses when you have the title as engaged. Bad luck!

Post # 7
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

@SomedayHisBride:  I’d wait.  What if what FI envisions as your wedding is VERY different than what you envision?  You may end up with a dress that doesn’t fit the feeling of your wedding.

Post # 8
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would not recommend dress shopping before you get engaged. The only exception to this would be if you and your boyfriend have offically started planning and have firmed up guest list size/season/venue but aren’t officailly engaged for some reason. But I definitely wouldn’t recommend it until you’ve had in depth discussions with your boyfriend about what you both envision for your wedding and come to agreements on the major things.

Post # 10
6525 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@SomedayHisBride:  don’t do that. just wait til you are officially engaged.

whats the point of going when you are not actually looking to purchase? and what if he isn’t proposing anytime soon?

don’t be impatient.

Post # 11
3095 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’m all for doing things ahead of time, but I, personally draw the line at dress shopping until you get a few things hammered out. Do you have a general idea of when he is proposing? Do you have a timeline about when you’ll be getting married? Do you have a venue in mind? Do you have a theme in mind? Do you have a budget?

I think all of these things have to be at the forefront of your mind before you start looking at wedding dresses. You don’t want to fall in love with a dress you can’t afford or that ends up not going well with your venue/theme. 

Bridal shops will cycle out dresses often enough that if you aren’t getting married for two or three years, the dress you fell in love with may not be there anymore!

If you’re really itching to get something done, why not start focusing in on venues or photographers or even start having hypothetical chats with your SO about a future wedding in regards to budget, etc. 

Post # 12
3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would wait until you’re engaged, have a date and venue, etc. unless you’re getting married in the next 4-6 months there’s really no need. 

Post # 13
2675 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

Yeah, I would not do this. I have seen episodes of SYTTD where women come in before getting engaged and it always comes off as weird to me. Things can change once you get engaged. You might be surprised how much what you think you want now can change in a short amount of time or once you start booking specific venues and vendors etc.

Post # 14
9 posts
  • Wedding: November 2014

WHY? Why would you do it? Why put yourself through the stress of dress shopping, the hit for the money to buy the dress…what if he doesn’t propose anytime soon? What if you put on weight/lose weight? What if he sees the dress(es!!!) and runs for the hills?


Seriously don’t take this the wrong way but i would not buy anything…it makes you look desperate for him to propose and he may feel pressured, never a good basis for a proposal.

Post # 15
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I wouldn’t contemplate trying on dresses before I knew I had a wedding to wear them to!

Take things one step at a time and don’t be in a hurry to experience things that will be all the sweeter if done at the right time. In other words, buy your dress after you are engaged and have a date for your wedding. Right now you have no idea what sort of wedding you and, as importantly, your FI will be planning. 

Leave a comment

Sent weekly. You may unsubscribe at any time.

Find Amazing Vendors