Post # 1
Hello everyone! I’m getting married next November and don’t know when I should go dress shopping. I don’t really need to lose any weight maybe just tone up a little so that isn’t an issue for me. I just don’t want to go to early where I regret my decision. What do you guys think… Also, my sister who is married did her engagement pictures like 3 to 4 months before the wedding (awhile after the engagement). I was just wondering when everyone else did them so I know what to do! lol
Now… onto the dilemma. My Fiance and I reallllly do not care for his brother’s (the best man) gf. They have been together now for about 2 years and we do not see her going anywhere anytime soon unfortunately. This girl is just really rude, she just recently made comments while we all were out to dinner with his parents that totally was a slap in the face to me. (We were all talking about the lifting of the chairs thing they do at Jewish weddings and she was like that would be really funny if they just did that to Kirk) she has also said many many other rude comments I just can’t think of exactly how they went because I try to forget about them. Anyways, I’m inviting my FI’s mom to do everything with me (including getting ready the day of) because she only has 2 boys and she wants to really experience everything about the wedding. This means that his brother’s gf will have nothing to do while we all are getting ready together (his brother/her bf will be with my bf getting ready and so will my FI’s dad). So does she just sit in the hotel (that is what I would want). However, I just have this feeling that my FI’s mom will ask if we can invite her to tag along so she won’t be by herself. OR my FI’s brother is going to ditch him to hang out with her. OR I’m going to look like the bad guy for not inviting her/saying no to his mom because his mom doesn’t know how much we really hate her… UGHH. Sorry if this is confusing at all lol. I’m trying to not use their names!
Post # 3
Your dress: I’d check with different bridal salons since some dresses have to be ordered and can take several months to arrive. I bought mine maybe 8ish months before the wedding? I ended up buying off the rack which save a ton of money and I just sort of held onto it until 2 months before the wedding when I started looking at alterations. I’d allow yourself a good 8 months just in case you order a gown, but don’t get to stressed about timelines!
Engagement pics: You can do these whenever, or skip them. For us, it was a way to test out a potential wedding photographer as well as an opportunity to have some great photos of us. Many people do engagement photos to use for newspaper engagement announcements or for save-the-dates. I had a particularly long engagement (2 years) so we had our E photos a few months after getting engaged but decided not to send out Save-The-Date Cards or do announcements. We are cheap 🙂
FBIL’s gf: You are not obligated to include her in anything, but she should be invited to the wedding. I gather from your post that you do intend to invite her, but you don’t want her tagging along dress shopping or getting ready the morning of, right? Just explain to your Future Mother-In-Law that you would really prefer to include only those to whom you are very close as this is a very special and exciting time in your life. Or, use the space excuse: “The area I’ll be using to get ready is really only so big, and we’ll have the bridesmaids, mom, Future Mother-In-Law, hairdresser….etc” and just say it will be too crowded and you want to be able to relax and not stress the morning of the wedding. You have plenty of time to deal with that situation, so don’t stress!!
Post # 4
Welcome to WeddingBee!
Just a tip: when you have questions on multiple issues like this, you might be better off posting them as 2-3 separate posts under the various boards. For example, these questions could easily be 3 separate posts under the “Dress,” “Photo” and “Emotional” categories. It’ll just help you tap into the Hive’s expertise a little more efficiently.
Post # 5
@DaneLady: Yes.. I do intend to invite her but only because I have to! lol She really isn’t a nice girl. I just don’t want my Fiance to be bummed out either because if she isn’t included then I feel like my Future Brother-In-Law will ditch him to hang out with her. I do agree with the advice you gave as far as talking with my Future Mother-In-Law though…. if only I could figure out a way to ensure that she isn’t tagging along with me and that my Future Brother-In-Law doesn’t ditch my Fiance… hmm?