Post # 1
Hi, everyone! My very best friend in the world is going to be one of my bridesmaids and I’m trying to do anything I can to make her feel comfortable in this process (she’s very insecure about her weight). In dress size shes probably a 22 or 24, she is small on top and bigger on the bottom.. so i guess she’s a pear in the shape department. :p the bridal shop we are getting the dreses from doesnt have anything in stock passed an 16 for her to try on.. i think davids bridal is the only place that carries all sizes in stock. so ive even gone as far as going back and forth between the Allure website and the Davids Bridal website and finding similar dresses that she can try on at davids bridal then buy the “same” dress by Allure at the other bridal shop.
She is totally fine with this (especially since I have another size 22 bridesmaid who has to do the same thing). I guess I’m having trouble with this because it seems like there are next to NO pictures of plus sized bridesmaids out there to see which style would be most flattering. I’m scared that the dresses ive found for her to try on will be horrible and just discourage her from shopping.
Ive tried looking through the threads with NO luck and im sick of trying to figure this out while looking at 110lb 6ft tall models.. where are the real bridesmaids? I know youre out there! Show me your pictures! 😀
Post # 3
@TheWagners1112: hi there! I’ve been a bridesmaid countless times. I’m a size 6/8 now, but used to be a size 26. (I lost 180lbs 6 years ago and destroyed most of my old pics!) I found a-line dresses worked best on me. And whether it was more flattering or not, I wanted sleeves or a cover up option. Also being able to wear my hair down kept me in my comfort zone. 🙂 You are a really great friend to consider her insecurities. 🙂
Post # 4
@TheWagners1112: I think that is a good idea, but I’d be open to buying at David’s. We were there yesterday and there were some dresses that looked amazing on our size 18-20 girls. They were way more flattering than the other designers.
If you go to the reviews on the David’s site, you’ll see actual btidal party photos. We went with an a line dress with a defined waist– for us, the thick, defined waistline was key to us all looking good.
BTW– the bridesmaids in the picturs are 5’7 and about 110, which would be 150 on a 6 fot girl (as someone who has the inseam of a 6’3 man and is a size 2…They dont fit me either! My tall, leggy bridesmaid problem was far more difficult than the plus size problem. I looked like a hooker, everyone else looks adorable, regardless if they are a 4 or 24. So as long as you dont have giraffe legs, your bridal party will be fine!
Post # 5
I would think your girtls know what shape they like best to wear.
There are quite a few pics if you just Google “plus size bridesmaids”
Post # 6
I’d say talk to your bridesmaids about what dresses they normally like to wear. What styles have you seen them wear? Something similar to what they’re already rocking would probably be good, unless they say they want to try another shape.
Since I’m plus-size myself (although I’m not bottom-heavy) I can recommend a couple shapes as supposedly “flattering” on all plus-size girls (well, they worked on me and I was told they should, but people are all different).
- A-line – one with a defined waist that floats away from the body and ends at the knees is really pretty and comfortable
- Loose sheath – I don’t know the actual word for it, but if you want a long dress, please don’t go with empire waist; everyone says that it “hides flaws” but what it tends to do on me is make me look even bustier and also very very pregnant; instead, a dress with (once again) a defined waist and a skirt that skims along the hips and legs without clinging looks really nice
- Mermaid – for those who are really confident, mermaid is super fun and flattering to the curves, but once again . . . you need confident bridesmaids and to shut down any nay sayers (seriously, I’ve had people badmouth me basically to my face when they thought I was “too confident for my body” or whatever)
- Belts are always fun, and bold ones will really define the waist
- Sleeves – I tend to dislike them unless they’re from a jacket, but that’s me
Post # 7
@TheWagners1112: I’m a 12 street clothes, which is definitely plus size in the bridal world. On every shopping trip I really couldn’t zip up any dresses. My main issue is my large chest, and most dresses would not zip closed once they got to that area. We went to a bridal salon and our consultant was the same size as me, and happened to personally own most of the dresses from the designer (Alfred Sung) we were looking at, as she wears them for work. She brought in her own personal collection for me to try on. So awesome! I found most the dresses to be very flattering – and I actually have to wear two different ones in weddings a month apart this year.
One of the other BMs is plus size, if I had to guess I’d say around a 22 street clothes as well. While searching for Alfred Sung dresses online, I came across a wesbite that sells them much cheaper (and apprently, after reading thousands of reviews, they are a legit authorized retailer with a brick and morter store). On top of that, they also do a try-before-you-buy program. You can request as many dresses (for $1 each) to be sent to you to try on. You get 3 days, and then you ship them back and order your dress. (www.weddingshoppeinc.com) I just sent in an email yesterday (hoping to hear back soon) with the styles I wanted to try – and their website shows that they carry sizes 00-16 and then 80W-30W in the plus sizes. I think we’re going to have the other Bridesmaid or Best Man order some for herself to try on in her size too!
Post # 8
@TheWagners1112: My girls are all wearing the same color/fabric/designer but each chose a dress that best flattered them. My girls are all different sizes and the style of dress can be a huge confident booster or depressing. It’s super hard to know how a dress will look just by looking in pictures.
Also, I think the whole wedding industry is such an a-hole when it comes to dress sizing. One of my bridesmaids has a tiny frame and is very slender. She usually wears a 0-2 and she was a size 8 bridesmaid dress. What is the point of this??
This thread also has some pictures of real life bridesmaids:
Show me your girls 😉
Post # 9
@Tess63110: thank you for your suggestions! I agree with the a-line dresses. 🙂 I’m also looking into textured/layered skirts to hide the areas shes most insecure about. I love her and want her to have a great time instead of worrying about what she looks like the whole time 🙂
@Pollywog: we initially were going to buy the dresses at DB but their customer service from our consultant right up to the cashier was rediculous (for lack of a better word lol). So everyone decided they’d much rather spend their money at the shop where I got my dress. Also at this shop alterations are included in the price of their dress and unlike davids bridal they only need to put half down to order instead of paying in full. It sounds like you have the same “problem” as my sister. Im 5’1 130lbs while she is 5’6 100lbs.. there is nothing to her and she is just as insecure about her weight as my friend is about being plus sized. I have a lot of things and feelings to consider! Lol I didnt know about the reviews.. im definately going to check that out! Thanks!
Oh and just to give a better picture… I have a Maid/Matron of Honor and one bridesmaid that are size 22+, 2 bridesmaids that are size 14 and one bridesmaid that is less than a 2. Im dealing with all shapes and sizes so I chose the color (waterfall by allure) and chiffon fabric.. other than that they have free reign as to which dress they want.. they can even do short, tea length or long. Im not picky.. just trying to make everyone happy. 🙂
Post # 10
My bridesmaids ranged from bridal size 6 to bridal size 22. We found that Ivy & Aster offered to make their tops a different size than the bottoms for a small fee. They weren’t inexpensive but not too bad. We did the Lierre in ivory and added our own sparkly belts. You can check thephotos in my recap, the girls looked beautiful.
Post # 11
@julies1949: her “shape” is usually sneakers, work boots, jeans, tshirt, hoodies. Its like pulling teeth to try to get her to try on a dressy shirt. So I cant really go by her usual style.
@zumbaista: like I mentioned ^^^… she isnt the dress wearing type. She is an EMT and is either in uniform or wearing jeans and a tshirt. I’m with you on the whole empire waist thing. In theory it should work for plus sized girls but I agree with the pregnant look. I believe the opposite to be true.. my sister is tall, slender and in most dresses looks like she has broad shoulders because her hips look nonexistent. ? But she looks GREAT in an empire waist because it gives her the illusion of hips and really balances her out.
@starfish0116: how lucky are you!? Lol thats awesome that she did that for you. Ive never heard of that website so thanks for letting me know.. ill be checking it out. 🙂
@Kir32: im doing the same with mine! Same color and fabric but choose whichever dress you want. Sounds like we’re in the same boat. 🙂 thanks for pointing that thread out!
Again..Oh and just to give a better picture… I have a Maid/Matron of Honor and one bridesmaid that are size 22+, 2 bridesmaids that are size 14 and one bridesmaid that is less than a 2. Im dealing with all shapes and sizes so I chose the color (waterfall by allure) and chiffon fabric.. other than that they have free reign as to which dress they want.. they can even do short, tea length or long. Im not picky.. just trying to make everyone happy. 🙂
Post # 12
@TheWagners1112: Sounds like every experience I have had at David’s! We actually walked out twice (once with mine, once where I was a BM) and ended up ordering online. But, if you get free alterations somewhere else, go for it! Mine really added up.
We had a 2, 4, 6, 8, 18, and 20 this weekend. What worked well on all of us were these dresses:
http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Short-Chiffon-Dress-with-Ruching-F15603_Bridal-Party-Bridesmaids-All-Bridesmaid-Dresses (If you are all older. It looked a little too mature on the 18 year old and it made no one look great. Even me as a size 0 waist looked chunkier than I was, but it wasn’t horrible).
http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Short-One-Shoulder-Crinkle-Chiffon-Dress-F15608_Bridal-Party-Bridesmaids-All-Bridesmaid-Dresses — This looked surprisingly okay on the plus sizes and great on everyone else. I hated it (it looked great on, but I would never wear it again).
http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Short-Crinkle-Chiffon-Dress-with-Front-Cascade-F14847_Bridal-Party-Bridesmaids-All-Bridesmaid-Dresses — This is the dress that we got. It looks really great on everyone. We didn’t feel our slimist in it (any of us), but looking in the mirror and on the other girls, it was the clear winner.
http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Strapless-Chiffon-Dress-with-Layered-Skirt-F14169_Bridal-Party-Bridesmaids-All-Bridesmaid-Dresses — This was a runner up and looked really good on everyone. But it has a Tinkerbell skirt and I think it looked more ballerina than bridesmaid. It would have gone to my neice for dress up after the wedding.
http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Short-Cotton-Dress-with-Y-Neck-and-Skirt-Pleating-83690_Bridal-Party-Bridesmaids-All-Bridesmaid-Dresses — We had this dress for my wedding in a different fabric and it is an excellent modest choice. It looked fantastic on my plus sized girls, the fellow giraffes, and the sticks with no curves. I would recommend trying it on. It doesn’t do justice here, but Y neck looks so good on so many people.
Post # 13
@TheWagners1112: We’ve got the SAME problem with bridesmaids of all sizes. We’ve got a 00, several that are in the 4-8 range, a couple of us in the 10-14 range, and then one who is 22+. It’s definitely NOT easy to find a dress for everyone. The first thing we all agreed on, including the bride, right off the bat….NO STRAPLESS. Those of us with a chest NEED to wear a bra, and strapless doesn’t cut it when you’re a 38D or larger. 😉
I just did a search on that website, and narrowed it down to Allure in Chiffon – and came up with 4 pages of results!
Post # 14
@Pollywog: no joke, I think every dress you sent me is on the list for my friend to try on! Lol
@starfish0116: I followed your link and BOOM there were all of the Allure dresses! Lol but Im looking on the site and apparently only the Kennedy Blue dresses are for the “find-try-buy” 🙁