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:( I'm so sorry that happened! Nothing like someone making you feel terrible about your size. I've been there, and it sucks. I would write a letter to their corporate and let them know what happened, including the name of the girl you were "helped" by.
As for the dress search, I got nothin' for ya. I haven't been dress shopping yet.
Ick I definitely feel like this will be my experience as well. i basically have called all of the stores to see if they have my sizes etc and to basically let them know, I know i'm not standard size and i know what size dress i want to try on (i'm a size 14/16)
I hear that maggie's make you feel the smallest and can accommodate weight loss because they can go up or down three dress sizes from where you are currently. at least that's what i am hoping you know? i
www.maggiesottero.com is the website...
Oh, boy I was dreading gown-shopping! My hips and whatnot were a size 12, and my bust only fit into a 14. At times, I got majorly down on myself. Also, those women really SQUEEZE you into dresses...they make them so tight!! I prefer to breathe. Anyways, I put on a smile and realized "I am, who I am!"
My I also add, I know you said you're on a budget, but PLEASE realize that David's has the nasiest flurescent lighting ever. I don't know of anyone who looks good in those lights with all those mirrors around. I looked like a big washed out blob there...then I went other boutiques and the lighting was much more flattering, much more "wedding-like"
oh that sucks and im sending lots of happy smilie vibes to you to help cheer you up - i dont know what the sales staff issue was in trying to force you into something so uncomfy when there where comfortable sizes availble but i hope they're not all like that out there. maybe someone can suggest a nice david bridals sales assistant for your local store to revisit and ask for her
goodluck - next time WILL be better!
Crebre - I am actually going to call the salons that I want to go to to see if they can help me out. I was surprised by this experience of not having something that fit me. I didn't need to feel that way in wedding dresses - I feel that way in my own closet sometimes and even in private it no fun to feel like a blob of fat with some satin on.
VirginiaMarie - I know about the lighting... AWFUL. I was washed out, for sure. I tried reminding myself of that while I was there. I'm looking forward to a more relaxed, have a glass of champagne and fun time boutique day.
One other thing about the David's stuff? I was trying on these beaded and lace dresses, and I was completely unimpressed with the quality of anything there that is beaded. I did find one I liked that was pretty and in my price range, but I didn't feel like it was "the one" either.
Oh im sorry you had a bad experience.
Keep us posted and i hope that smile comes back on your face soon :) Im sure tho you will find your dress, dont give up hope!
Wow, I am so sorry you had that experience there. I was also dreading dress shopping anywhere and ended up going to Davids because I didn't want to have dresses held up to me in a boutique store. I am a bridal size 20 and my consultant at Davids was really accommodating and never may me feel weird or uncomfortable.
I tried on a handful of dresses and did fall in love with one and ended up buying it. But if I would have had your experience I am sure I wouldn't have. Good luck on your next shopping trip!
You are not the first person to leave David's Bridal in tears. Some people have great experiences there, but more often than not it's described as an awful place. You are not a blob of fat -- don't let anyone make you feel that way! It's not true. That has more to do with that saleslady than anything else.
Is there an Alfred Angelo store near you? They have many more sizes and their dresses are a bit more stylish. I went there this weekend and there's a 20% off sale going on.
Good luck! There are a million dresses out there -- you're bound to find one that's perfect! :)
Ditto, you have never been a blob of fat dear :D You are a beautiful woman, and it's not your fault you dealt with nasty folks...
Boo, what a way to start your dress shopping! I'd totally write corporate, but it's not like you want anything from them now....God that makes me mad! Here's to hoping you got your bad experience done and out of the way, and may all your shopping expiditions from here on out be everything they should be!
I can totally relate. I haven't started dress shopping, mostly because I want to get some weight off first.
I am the perpetual yo-yo dieter since the age of eight (yes, eight. I won't bring y'all down with my upbringing). I am so sensitive to the comments like ones you mentioned. I have to say, i think that sales person was unprofessional. She should be commenting on what works on you and focusing on the positive.
I hope this doesn't discourage you. At least you're one step ahead of me! I don't even have the courage to step in a dress shop!
I don't know if David's is the same as regular bridal salons but my bridal gown was much bigger than my usual size. I'm so sorry you had a bad experience. I'm not sure about you but I wouldn't be able to buy a dress without seeing how it looks on me. You probably can afford to wait a few more months to go and buy a dress if you think that you will feel more comfortable with it then.
Yyyyyyyyyyyyeah I've had that experience in dressing rooms many times. Boo on that.
I'd like to second the Alfred Angelo suggestion. They really do have some decent stuff and (maybe it was just the store I went to), the ladies there were really nice and helpful.
HUGS!!! Don't let those ladies get you down. You will find an amazing dress that you look stunning in!!
So sorry you had a bad experience. I made sure to stay away from David's Bridal when I went shopping for a gown. I went to Lady Margaret's, in Puyallup, and she and her staff were very nice. I am a 12 street size on top, so a couple of the gowns I tried didn't fit me, but they got me in them anyway and did not make any rude comments or anything. My budget was the same as yours when I went in. I ended up going a couple hundred over including alterations and a crinoline. I also got a sample gown that was being discontinued, so I got really lucky. I have been to visit my gown several times. And they do not mind. I just call them in advance, so they can make sure they have it handy for me. They did not pressure me into purchasing at all. If you think you might get an opportunity to go there, call ahead and make an appointment. Let them know what you are looking for and I am sure you will have a wonderful experience.
I am so sorry you had such a bad experience I know how much of a downer that can be.
I too had a terrible experience at David's Bridal... MORE THAN ONCE!!! I kind of have the opposite problem but still kind of the same i am under 5ft tall under 100lbs and they made me feel like finding a dress for me was hopeless.
Well the second time I went in looking for accessories and shoes and wanted to try on a birdcage veil... well I will admit "I DIDNT HAVE AN APPOINTMENT" but heck who knew you needed an appointment just for that??? Well apparently if you dont have an appointment you get a snarled look and a turned up nose and litterally pointed in the right direction ... Its back in the back. We couldnt get anyone to help us... I bet 5 different workers walked by and they just glared at us as if we were doing something wrong.... After finally tracking someone down when i asked about if they had a shoe in a certain size or could get it in a certain size i was simply told "I am not sure sorry" and she walked off... It honestly ruined my entire day and my entire night
I am sorry to say it but I went into alot of Bridal Boutiques and Davids Bridal really needs to hire some people with some better customer service skills because they all seemed like Stuck up Witches to me
Oh do not get me started on Davids!! Just as a bm I wanted to tear the store apart because I had such awful service. Okay, I'll start..
1. Tried on bm dresses, found one that fit like a glove, that was the one I wanted, should be end of story right? No! At the counter checking out the girl was like we have to measure you... so she starts yelling my measurements out (IN A BUSY STORE)... and when she got to my hips she said "You don't want me to say this one out loud" I was just thinking "No biiiiiii I didn't wan't you to yell any of them out loud!" UGH
2. My friend and her hubs made it legal in a courthouse ceremony then a year later was a big vow renewal ceremony/reception with family friends bridal party etc. When we went in I wasn't sure if she had given them her maiden name or married name and when I told the girl this at the front desk she acted like it was the biggest deal for her to have to maybe search for more than one last name in the system.
At least they treated her well enough. Unfortunately in Dayton that is the only real choice unless you wanna drive to Cincy or Columbus a bunch of times. But the good news is an Alfred Angelo opened up here last weekend. Exciting!
I'm so sorry that happened - completely ridiculous! I'd advise going to smaller shops where you'll probably get better customer service. At David's, it's really hit and miss. I lucked out and had an awesome consultant, but I was totally expecting bad service!
I know i was uber sad face when I started wedding dress shopping. Largely because I had no idea what I wanted in a gown, but don't worry eventually you'll find it :o)
I'm so sorry about that terrible experience 
Maybe it would help to know you're not alone. There are a lot of "bridal consultants" out there that can be anything from insensitive to downright rude. Good thing I'm not consulting them on other aspects of my wedding because that would make me not want to get married! I don't think they realize what a personal and intimidating experience this can be to young women. First you're completely putting your trust in their hands because you're stripping half naked in front of them, they see your body very close up with all its faults, and they must not realize what their insensitive comments can do to the ego. I sometimes think some of them enjoy it, I don't know. Just know this happens to a lot of people...I'm a teeny tiny size 2 and I felt like crying after some of my store visits. There were two different stores where the managers kept yelling loudly in front of everyone about the size of my chest. One asked me (with a smirk) from across the room if they're fake . Then there was the store where I unfortunately ended up buying my dress. After my consultant who was actually very sweet asked her manager on my behalf if the bodice can be shortened, she yelled at both of us "No it can't! If you're short, you're short, that's how all the girls buy it and wear it!". No wonder I'm still having doubts about my dress and my body.
Hugs and wishes that it'll get better. Just try to let it not get to you. After all they're just selling dresses for a living, they didn't invent a cure for cancer or anything and are not better than you; and they probably have their own share of body issues.
Im so sorry! I went to David's as well and while the girl didnt say or do those things, she hovered so much i felt uncomfortable! I did howevere go to 2 local boutiques..and they were very accomodating..I too have gained weight and could lose 20-30 lbs..i was actually able to find a Winnie Couture.for 499..check your local places because one near here is having a half off sale all through Jan (it is in Tupelo MS) Im sure you can find something within budget!
Im sorry and i hope your next experience is a lot better!
I had a similar experience at Davids. They made me feel so fat and awful about myself, when really i think it was the quality of the dresses. They also had the nerve to tell me that a dress my size two sister tried on "didn't come in my size" are you kidding me? I'm an 8! Not like I need a plus size or anything....
I'm sorry you had such a horrible experience at Davids....I bought my dress there and didn't have any of these problems you ladies speak of. My consultant Judy was fab.
Now I will say that I went back there for BM and Judy was not working so we were forced to work with someone else who I totally didn't care for. Her attitude sucked and I let that me known.
When I go there I only work with Judy.
Ugh, I am sorry you had such a sad face experience! I do have to say though, try somewhere else! Let them know that you want only the size you requested, not like what they did there at DB. Ask around about local shops that might be more friendly and accomodating! No one deserves a yuck experience dress shopping...it's supposed to be fun!!
im so sorry that you had such an awful experience. i had a decent experience at davids after finally getting thru her head that i wore a size 18! she asked my information (bra size, pant size, ect) but then she said well you should wear a size 16 in dresses here then! that made no sense because i wear a 16/18W in street clothes and my bra size is 40DD.
It took me a couple of times telling her but then she finally got the hint. i dont understand why they treated you the way they did but you should write a letter to corporate.
I had a bad experience at a wedding consignment shop. i went in and was looking at dresses. they were sorted by size, so i was at the 16-24 end. a lady that was working came up to me and asked if i have ever tried on dresses before. i said yes i have. she said well you do know they run small dont you? i said yes, i have been fitting in size 18 dresses pretty well. she said well i just did not want you to waste your time here because there are not many dresses your size here. so pretty much she was telling me to leave because nothing there would fit me! Yes, there were only about 15 dresses in that area of "plus size" but that was totally rude and uncalled for! the store was in evansville indiana called anelles twice choosen consignment shop! dont go there! I was so upset i left immediatly..i was so shocked that someone would say that to someone. i mean its not like i am a freaking 500 lb person!!
they lost my business and i have spread the word...
Davids didn't even have the dress I wanted to try on in my size, it majorly sucked I couldn't believe it, you know? and they couldn't get one in at all for me, do you have an alfred angelo in your area?
Oh my dear how I understand!
David's, my experience was much the same! I felt ICKY there, The dresses fit ehhh so so, and the lighting, yes was not much help added to the fit of there dresses. like someone else has said though also, the fact that the dresses, like ALL WEDDING DRESSES run small, so its not the normal number you are use to looking at when you try the darn things on! I took pics and what not of some of the dresses I tried on there and MANY other places. I dont even want to know how many dresses I tried on before I found mine. With that looking back I cant even STAND how I looked in there dresses. I mean I am like a 12/14 in wedding dresses and street size 10. since I bought my dress I have probably gone up a size, too afraid to weigh myself but I know I have! Ugh! Anyways, I am short so a 12/14 is kind of big for me, at least I feel that way. Like someone else said MAGGIE (Maggie Soterro) is AWESOME and all her dresses always looked and seemed to fit much better, much of that can probably be due to the corset backs which are an AWESOME way to go and I am glad mine is! It gives you extra room both ways, Mine is a corset back and even if I gain or loose some weight (hope to be the second one of the two) i will still be golden. I just cant imagine wearing a zipper dress unless I was like a size 6, corsets fit and alter naturaly to YOU!
Do not let DB and that experince get the best of you, go some place else and try on some corset back or just any other line and you will look at yourself and look FAB!!!! Best of luck doll!
Also, if you have any questions about places to go in the area let me know! I live in Oak harbor and have gone North up to bellingham and all the way down to Seattle and all around! ; )
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So, in anticipation of hitting up a dress dash this past weekend, I went with my MOH's to David's Bridal last Thursday to try on dresses and get a sense of which style might best suit me. What ended up happening was not much fun...I'm about to say some not so nice things about the worker at David's. I'm well aware that with a chain store, you will have good and bad experiences.
First off, let me say that I had no intention of trying on any dresses right now because I am overweight. I've gained (ugh, can't believe I am admitting this while eating a slice of pizza and having a beer!) about 45-50 pounds in the last year. I know why I gained it (see my dinner choice? add some depression and a loss of job in there too) and I can easily change those issues. I've lot weight in the past and while I'm not too worried about actually losing it, part of me is really upset about my weight in general.
I was given undergarments in a size that didn't fit me. When I asked about a different size, I was told I was wearing the largest one they had. Now, this doesn't make sense to me - I was wearing a 16 standard sized but their dresses also come in 16W-22W or so. I'm a street size 12-14 right now. And yet, there I was, wrong fitting garments. She then tried to squeeze me into 4 different size 14 dresses - pulling the backs together and saying things like "Oh, SO CLOSE!" and trying to tell me things liek "well imagine if it was fitting you though?!" I asked her to please stop, and just go get me a 16 in everything. Instead I got told "well, in the corset styles you can go a size smaller... so try this..." and jammed into my 5th size 14. When she finally got me a 16 in the gown I liked the most, it fit like a glove. Go figure...I guess where I am going with this is that nothing about this experience made me feel good. I felt huge. I felt tired. I felt defeated. And more than anything, I really felt like an imposter. Without having a single moment of bridal happiness, we left vowing not to buy a dress for me from David's.
I have a small budget (Hoping for $600 including alterations?) Has anyone else had this type of sad-face experience? It made me want to give up dress shopping entirely right now. I have until April to slim down and find something suitable AND in my price range... but I'm so down in the dumps about this that I can't even fathom finding something that is pretty and will be in my range WITHOUT buying from David's.
Thoughts?