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Dress shopping is definitely an unforgettable experience, good and bad...and sometimes stressful. While I spent my months window, online and magazine shopping, I, like you, was waiting for the big "A-HA!" moment. Like a bolt of lightning. It wasn't like that for me, but I did find a dress, much later, that I couldn't stop thinking about. That's when I bought it, and I haven't looked back since. Hang in there, and trust your gut. I'm looking forward to seeing what you choose!
I just started looking for my dress too. I have tried on at least 30 dresses in the past two weeks. There were a couple of dresses that I liked, but I was hoping I would have that feeling "this is the one" but I haven't yet. I am going to try on some of my favorites again this weekend. Maybe you don't always get that feeling right away.
I've been to three stores already and I'm pretty sure I haven't found the dress yet... the problem is they're all so beautiful! I go in to every store with an open mind, and just put on what catches my eye.. i've definitely been able to weed out some types of dresses, and at least i know what I'm not looking for, but to be honest, i wouldn't worry that you haven't found THE dress yet, you've still got time... I think my favorite contender is the very first one I tried on too, but I don't know if that's just because it was the first one or what... so maybe give it some more goes, and sleep on it, and if you keep wanting to go back to the store and try on the one you almost bought, then maybe that's a good sign it's "the one." Good luck!
i just started shopping and tried on about 15 dresses in one weekend. After ward I am more confused then ever The first dress I tried was one I keep thinking on but still arent sure so I'm taking a few weeks to think on it then will probably go look at it again and see if I still like it
If you havent bought it yet give yourself some time and if you did buy it dont worry about it best thing to do would be remember its still a georgous dress and perhaps that special feeling wont come until the big day
I wasn't looking forward to dress shopping actually. I went with some friends and my mom and stated picking dresses I thought I liked. However, when I tried on something the complete opposite and actually liked it more. My friends and mom did too. However, i weasn't sold at that moment. But for the next few weeks, I was always thinking about this dress. And when I tried more on, I always compared each one to this dress. And that's how I knew. There was no crying or anything like you see on "Say Yes to the Dress"
I just bought my dress and had a similar experience. The first store I went to I fell in lust with a dress...completely different from what I thought I wanted. It was a ball gown with jewels for goodness sake. No where near what I originally wanted! I left the store dreaming of it. Two weeks later I had an appointment at another shop. I narrowed it down and really liked one dress. But still, it wasn't what I thought I originally wanted. I once again thought of the ball gown. And then I thought of the new dress. Back and forth. I'd be happy with either. Seriously! So, I posted on weddingbee, how did you know?!?! And everyone was so nice and said, go back out there. I made another appointment and low and behold I found my dress at the third store, one month after I began my search, after about 40 dresses (between the 3 stores), I was like this is it!!! And it wasn't too far off from my original vision. I got blindsided with all of the glitz and glamour of wedding dresses...the different shapes, textures, colors, etc. So just sleep on it for a while, and try another store. As corny as it sounds you really will just know. - sorry this was so long.
I have three that I really like and I think I look very good in, but I'm not "holy wow!!" *tears* about any of them.
Maybe that will change and I'll get the ONE feeling but I doubt it. I don't think I have that in me... must be the jeans & geeky-tee wearing tomboy in me.
BTW there was no crying by me, my mother, or my grandmother. Just a lot of "oooh that's really nice" and "i like it."
So ladies I'm pretty sure I found my dress!!!! I tried it on over the weekend with my mom and am thinking i might take my sister, soon to be sister and mother in law to see it this weekend. I didn't cry when i tried it on but i can't stop looking at the pictures on my phone and I know this has everything that im looking for and definetly could be the dress I wear down the aisle. (And it made my plus size self look skinny! BONUS!) Tell me what you think!!......its Sottero & Midgley ASM3265 in Ivory. (the pics are big and the lighting was dark in some)
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I actually got my dress yesterday. For months I've been looking at the internet and kept dreaming about this one dress but I felt like I needed to try on a few before making up my mind. I went to David's Bridal on Saturday and didn't find anything I like. I thought they were pushy and overpriced being that my dream dress costs less than any of the one's I tried on there. On Sunday I drove 2 hours to Alfred Angelo to try on the dream dress. They put me in in first and when I was myself in the mirror I got choked up. Still I wanted to try on other dresses so I tried on about 10 more dresses but kept going back to the first one. After trying it on 3 times and getting the same emotional response each time I knew it was "the one". My heart knew all along which dress was for me.
Omg that dress is gorgeous, congrats on finding it!! Love how the sash pulls in at your waist, so flattering, and that beading is to die for!
I had a very difficult time dress shopping. I went to 3 different bridal boutiques (some multiple times). The second place I went to was Davids Bridal... after trying on all the dresses I had picked out, my consultant offered her suggestion. It was nothing like what I had wanted. But I really liked it! It fit my body perfectly, and made me look great! I passed and kept looking at other stores. Each time I would try on a few dresses. A lot of times I thought the dress looked nice, but didnt give me the "feeling" I was looking for. I would always compare it to the consultants Davids Bridal pick. After 3 months went by (and no dress), I went back to davids bridal. Tried a bunch of dresses on.. then decided to try the "consultant dress" back on. Low and behold, I put it on and I just knew that it was the one. It was comfortable, I felt comfortable in my own skin, it was flattering and it made me feel like a bride! I didnt cry, but I knew it was the one that was best for me (and my wallet!). I was set!
So moral of the story: Don't get discouraged, go with your gut, and let the consultant give you some of their options! They know the dresses better than you do, so be bold and give their suggestions a shot! If I hadnt, I would still be searching for the one! :)
This thread sums up exactly how I feel! I am at the point that I have probably tried on around 40 dresses, and while I have found several that I think look beautiful and could wear down the aisle, I haven't had that moment when I just KNOW. I don't know if I just will never get that feeling, or if I just haven't found the dress yet!
I think I have been having a really hard time (and I know this sounds like a stupid thing to complain about) but I am a street size 6 and am 5'9", so a lot of dresses are designed around my body type, and so many look good! Seriously, I think I have only tried on like 1 dress that legitimately looked bad, the only other things I have been able to eliminate are nit-picking style things that I don't like as much. Much I am not even sure what silhouhette to go for because several look really good!
It's so hard! Anyone else have a similar experience trying on dresses?
LOL i love this post, it so reminds me of mine (Its under full figured) I tried on quite a few dresses and am no closer to finding the "one" I do not even know what sillouette i want, or anything... I want to be happy and I want my husband to be happy (oh we are having VR) But now i am more confused than ever! I thought at least I would have some idea, but well, if you see my post, you will see all the different ones... and i'm still no closer, but the good new is... I have time:)
I think most people expect to look exactly like the pictures they see of the dresses they're drawn to, so set themselves up for disappointment when it's completely the opposite. My daughter had a list of dresses she wanted to try on, and was really unimpressed with all of them. Most wedding gowns seem to be designed for 20 somethings and many lack in sophistication for anyone older. Not everyone wants to look like a cupcake or a cake topper bride. I completely understand the frustration.
I think it also has to do with how you normally dress and if you want a wedding gown in a completely different style or not. Frills and ruffles and bows and lace may just be too much for you, but you should try on everything to see what style draws you in. While thinking you want something lightweight and flowy, you may be disappointed to find that some of them just look like nightgowns.
Isn't it the same when you clothes shop? I know I have to feel comfortable, want to camouflage my flaws as best I can, and feel like I look my very best in whatever I choose. I had the exact same problems when trying on evening gowns for the weddings as MOB. Why would I want to have so much junk on my dress in all the wrong places? A giant bow on my rear? Why? It was like a giant arrow pointing to the largest thing on my body. UGH.
I'm sure you'll find the dress you don't want to take off and feel fabulous in. It just takes time and some work!
I really don't think that everyone has that "feeling". I had the problem that dresses I thought I wouldn't like, I did. And I found my mom's lack of enthusiasm leaving me feeling nervous about any decision. I decided to go back by myself and look again. This time I focused on what I felt most like myself in. Not what gave me that emotional reaction, I never had that. So I would suggest to focus on that. How do you want to look on your wedding day and which dress feels most like your style and personality. If you don't get that "Ah hah" moment, ITS OKAY!
EDIT: I just saw you found it! YAY!
I had my wedding, loved my dress, but to this day, I would like to be able to get married more than once just to wear other dresses that I have since seen.
Shopping was not great, I tried soo many dresses and they were mostly great but it's hard to make a choice. Many great dresses that didn't go with the DW (to big to carry, to warm, etc.); and with all the stores I went to, there are still styles that I didn't see out there that I found later on Weddingbee...
BUT, all in all, I did love my dress and hubby thinks it was perfect, so I have no regrets.
I tried on about 40 dresses at 5 different stores. The ONE was the very last I tried on on the last store I went. The lady at the store gave up on me after not being able to find something I loved. I refused to leave without seeing at least one more, and there it was. As soon as I put it on I was like OMG this is it. I love everything about it and it looks awesome on me. I bought it right then and there.
@loveknows: funny how the lady was giving up on you; for me it was the opposite.
I wanted to give up after trying on about 60 dresses, 30 on that day alone, and the lady begged me to try on one more after I told my mom and friend we were leaving. I had seen it but didn't think anything of it on the racks... Then when I tried it, I though "maybe"... It was the first dress that wasn't a "no", so I thought we were on to something, because I was soo exhausted and confused, that "maybe" was a pretty darn good sign!
I went back a few days later to try it on without being exhausted, and really loved it, it was a "yes". Then my mom forced me into going to another store where we had already made an appointment that I wanted to cancel; I tried one dress that made me hesitate; then just broke down and cried because I was so confused and tired of trying on dresses.
Right then and there, she brought me back to the other store where my "maybe-yes" dress was, and I tried it on again, to compare both dresses on the same day. And I chose that one, we bought it and I never tried on another wedding dress again!
I always thought dress shopping would be a fun experience, but for me it wasn't at all. To the OP: hang in there!
LOL yes! totally confused... check out my post from when i went dress shopping
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/dress-frustration-good-newsbad-news-pictures-though
and then i tried on a couple more... its just crazy, what we think we want... turns out to be the opposite of what looks good... (at least for me)...
@Ms. SciFi: Ahahaha *high-five to fellow tomboy* (Well, at least half of my life I was, anyway, still new to this girly-girl self). I'm 4'11" and asian-skinny and will be rocking a ballgown with a fitted bodice. Boo ya! Barbie princess for a day for this tomboy! :D When the consultant put on the veil and handed me a bouquet, I had a "moment" where I could envision myself at the end of the aisle :') After another hour (and risked my consultant ripping her hair off due to my stubborn-headedness), I finally decided to go for it and put down the deposit! Can't wait for that phone call!
OP, I'm so glad you made this thread cuz I was going bananas about posting that I finally BOUGHT -THE- dress! It wasn't my dream dress, I've been swooning over a dress I tried on in Paris that a fellow bee had posted up (Suzanne Ermann!!!). It took me a few months with little in the way of dress shopping and a lot more thinking about the commitment part, and now that I'm sure I want to get married, it was sort of easy to say yes to the dress! I've only really tried on less than 15 over many months, and I keep going back and forth to what other people say looks best on me, or which ones I feel the best in...i.e. mermaid vs. everything else. I'm so glad I only had my mom, and that the salon didn't let me take pictures, cuz I'm so fickle and keep second- and third- guessing dresses! This way, NOBODY knows how it looks like except my mom :) I've gone dress-shopping with FI, have been showing pics to co-workers of runner-ups...etc. Now I can look forward to that moment where the doors open for me and my sweetheart's eyes are focused on me walking down that aisle :)
I might be the rare cliche, but I went to 5 appointments in one day and no matter what, said I was leaving with a dress purchased. If 5 big stores can't help me, then no one can was my thought. And there were 2 I would have been happy wearing, but I wanted to fulfill all my appointments. And at my last one, the last dress, I knew. I mean, everyone crying, total cliche moment, I knew it was the dress for me. Handed over my credit card and haven't looked back. I absolutely love my dress.
I personally don't understand brides who keep going and going. Especially if they find 'the one' and they just keep going back to make sure. Either, it's not the one, or throw the card down.
I think I might just be a-typical, because not only did EVERYONE doubt I was ending the day with a dress purchased, they also doubted we would all agree.
But overall, I loved the experience, and the feeling hit me like a sack of rocks.
I went to the first place and was TOTALLY overwhelmed! My mother didnt make it easy at the time, making me feel awful when at the begining they asked how much we were looking at spending and i looked at her as she was the one paying for it!!!
But in the end I managed to get through it! As im sure you did too!
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So I went dress shopping for the first time over the weekend and it left me a little stressed. I went to this shop to try on my favorite dress out of the all the ones I've seen online. I tried it on and I loved it but didnt really "feel" anything at first like i thought i would (especially bc i'm an extremely emotional person and cry at anything). There was a second dress that was totally opposite in the style that I was going for that my mom and sister both loved just as much as the other dress. It made me feel like maybe I was forcing my love for my fav dress and convinced myself that it was going to be THE ONE going in. I tried on about 10 dresses and decided the one Ive loved from the start was it but when we went to the counter to order I felt lost and so not ready to commit. That other, totally different but beautiful dress threw a big fat wrench in my brain. Do I continue to look for what I thought I wanted? There are so many gorgeous dresses out there but whats the difference between a great dress and the dress you decide is YOUR DRESS. Looking back on the day it was kind of a blur and surreal, like I was just trying on pretty dresses not shopping for my WEDDING GOWN. I'm going out again to two more stores this weekend and want to go without this cloudy feeling and be in the moment. Any bees have a similar experience??? Am I overthinking the whole thing??