Post # 1
The wedding’s taking place across the country where my parents live. Next month I’ll be trying on dresses for the first time with my sisters and mom and hope to find “the one” with their help. I would like to buy the dress there and leave it at my parents’ house for safekeeping so that I don’t have to ship it later. The downside, of course, is that I won’t be back until the week of the wedding, so I wouldn’t be able to come back for fittings. The thought of buying a dress locally makes me sad because I would have to go shopping by myself. 🙁
Has anyone had experience buying a dress out of town? Is this a good/bad idea?
Post # 2
strema: I did exactly this! I went shopping by myself a few times to get an idea of what I wanted so when I went shopping with my mom I was able to narrow down the search and go to stores that carried the designers I liked. I bought my dress where my parents live and the wedding will be held. I have gone back 2 times since I purchased the dress and had fittings. I went to do wedding stuff as well and meet with vendors etc. I don’t think it is a bad idea as I did not want to travel with my dress and I was able to use a seamstress that my friends and family have used. I think you might want to make at least one trip back for at least one fitting just to make sure your dress is perfect the day of the wedding.
Post # 3
strema: I bought my dress in a different country, never mind town!
Long story short: I live in the UK but am getting married in my native Sweden. In July this year me and FI went on holiday to the US, and I had seen some dresses online that were so much cheaper in the US than in the UK, and decided to book an appointment. Went in and tried some on, fell in love and walked out with one of the sample dresses. Because it was a very new style it hadn’t been tried on very much and still felt new.
Pros: I got my dress much cheaper than in the UK.
Cons: I didn’t have anyone there with me, so I had to completely go on my own feelings and ended up walking around in the dress for 30 min and trying it on twice before I committed 😛
Then I now have another dilemma when it comes to the alterations, because the dress is currently in the UK with me, but the wedding is in Sweden. So do I make the alterations here and bring it to Sweden with me the week before the wedding, risking lost luggage and things, or do I take it to Sweden over Christmas and then try and go over there for alterations?
I think I’m going to have the alterations done here, because I think it is much better to be able to go for the fittings easily, to make sure it really fits like a glove. So my advice for you would be to either go shopping on your own in the town where you live (though it is not as much fun you can always use Skype and Whatsapp) or buy the dress in your hometown but bring it back with you for the alterations.
Whatever you chose I hope you find the perfect dress!
Post # 4
strema: I had to do this. For the same reason, out of state, wanted my mom and sister to be there so I bought it in their state. It’s paid off but it’s still at the shop.
I go back to visit more frequently so I can typically stop in if I want to though.
Post # 5
Is the bridal shop you are going to a chain? If so, perhaps you could shop with your family, say YES to the dress, and then buy it in your hometown? I know it’s inconvenient but I’ve seen brides bring their dress on the plane with them. That way you can have your cake and eat it too 🙂
Post # 6
I did the same thing except mine was only a six hour drive. I bought my dress in my hometown so my mom, sisters and mother-in-law could all be there with me. It was a great idea and such a special day but I did regret it later on down the road. It made scheduling my fittings very hard and I ended up having to bring my dress home and take it to a new seamstress where I live now and where the wedding was so she could do an emergency surgey on my hemline. Very stressful. I would suggest buying your dress where you’ll be able to make your alteration appointments a priority and easy to manage. That was my lessoned learned…good luck!
Post # 7
I did that, but then I flew back for fittings. I had one at my bridal shower, flew in to finalize wedding plans and get my last fitting a few weeks later, and then my last one right before the wedding. I would definitely pick your dress out there- it is really special to pick your wedding dress with family. I would tell them the situation. They might be able to make your dress priority to finish in one week, or they might suggest shipping your gown to where you live.
Post # 8
Or you can find your dress with them and then order it at a salon locally to you.
Post # 9
strema: Shop with them, and either order the dress to be shipped to you, or order from a salon local to you. You will have to have alterations. There really isn’t any way around that, and I don’t know anyone who can turnaruond alterations on a wedding dress the weekend of the wedding – nor would you want to (what if it needs a lot of work?).
FWIW, I had to order my dress out of town – but because I live in a resort area where the closest shopping is 2+ hours away. I could have had my alterations done locally, but opted to have them done by someone near the dress shop. I went out 3 times (once to buy the dress, and twice for alterations). It was 3.5 hrs each way, and both times I stayed the night because she was super awesome to work with me coming from so far away. I’d go first thing in the morning, try it on, she’d adjust and make the changes during the day and I’d come back that afternoon.
Post # 10
Thanks for all the input bees! It sounds like the best solution is to buy locally, although I will have to risk snooping by my nosy fiance. (;