Post # 1
I have been dress shopping with two friends, and am also going with my mum this weekend, and also another friend later in the week…
… but nothing feels right without my fiance there.
Dress shopping has been a bit overwhelming for me, and the one person who I would usually seek support from, reassure me or make me feel so much better about everything can’t come… (i think I feel worse not even so much because I need him there, but because I can’t have him there). He is the person that I usually do all these type of things with…like laugh at bitchy sales people or at myself in hideous dresses, pick out the right sized high heel so that I don’t end up taller than him, or simply believe him when he tells me that the dress is right…
Has anyone else felt like this, and how did you deal with it?
I’ve shown him a photo of myself in the dress that I like, and I asked him if he would come shopping with me, but he doesn’t want to because of tradition & what he thinks we are supposed to do… 🙁
What would you do?
(I voted for a hessian sack… )
Post # 3
I would talk to him about your concerns and explain just how much you want him there. Do you really think he’d care more about tradition and what you’re ‘supposed to do’ more than you??
Don’t just come out and ask him. Sit down, explain what you’ve just explained here, and hopefully he’ll just want to support you. Traditional or not.
Post # 4
I kind of felt the same way when I went into stores..I usually ask him opinions on clothes I buy and its odd not having his opinion this time, but just trust yourself!
He will love whatever you pick!
Post # 5
Also, I found it really hard not to tell him anything. He usually has such a big opinion about what I wear and I worried that he might not like it – but I haven’t shown him ANY photos or described ANYTHING. My mum loves it, I love it – and he will, too.
But that feeling of wanting to tell him went away after a week or so. That said, I had a positive experience dress shopping. If you’re struggling then he should go with you to calm your nerves xx
Post # 6
How about you offer a comprimise.
Try and get him to come with you, promise to try on at least say 5 dresses and that you won’t actually buy it or tell him which one you’ll get (although if you find one you love it will probably be obvious)
Or alternatively book two more trips, one with him and then a later one with friends. Again don’t actually buy one when out with him so that he won’t be certain which dress you ended up going for.
Post # 7
I sat him down, explained it and he was like ‘lets go tomorrow…’, so thats what we ended up doing today!…
…. and I found a dress! 🙂
It was one that I had tried on before, but I am just so much more sure of it now