So..on Saturday – I ended up buying a dress.
I tried on a corset/sweetheart/satin dress with lots of beading – but it had gold beading. Gold is a big dislike for me. On to the next one.
Tried a drop waist with sleeves. On my 5’6″ and size 22 frame – awful.
Tried on a sweetheart, corset, beaded, satin ruching, ivory dress – LOVED IT. But – I’m not convinced on ivory for my day. This was a big “yes, this is the ALMOST dress” moment
THEN, I tried on a white sweetheart/taffeta layered bottom dress. It fit well and was so much lighter than the satin ruching dress (#3) – I walked out of the fitting room, and right away of my 6 people with me, 4 were a definite “that’s the dress.” My problem was it had no ‘bling’ and i wsn’t loving the bottom. We added a belt on the bottom and top to see what the bling would look like if added, and then the tears started to come from 3 people. Everyone was all “this is the dress, you look stunning” – so my thought process was “If they love it, I should too.” I was scared to say no because having everyone agree on it was overwhelming, so said “yes to the dress” and put down a $550 deposit to order it.
I tried to uptalk the dress (in attempts to talk myself into it, I think) over the next 24 hours, and couldn’t. We did bridesmaids dresses at DB on Sunday – and one of my BMs and her fiance came over that night to mine and FI’s house. Around 7pm we were tlaking about the dress and I said I realllly liked dress #3, and she goes “honestly, are you happy with the dress you got?” I started crying, and had a major meltdown to the point of being sick to my stomach. I was so worked up because I realized this dress was what everyone else wanted, not what I wanted.
FI and I went to my parents around 11:30 at night – my mom was texting me and they live 2 minutes away and I told her how I was feeling. She agreed that I need to get married in a dress that I love, but was flabbergasted/floored that I hated the dress I got – apparently I’m pretty convincing when I need to be, lol. 9:30 a.m. Monday morning she was at the bridal shop when they opened to talk to them – my eyes were beyond swollen and I still felt nauseaus thinking about it.
She said that the shop was amazing to deal with. Luckily for me, the order hadn’t been placed yet. I do have to use the deposit money there to buy a dress (or towards accessories) – but at least I’m not stuck with “that dress.” It was a Bonny dress, but I don’t know the style name/number. The shop said it’s happened before, and that if I come back in they’ll help me find something I do love.
Also lucky for me: the shop sells many brands, Essence of Australia, Alfred, Maggie Sottero, Bonny, Allure, etc. So even if I find it somewhere else in a size that actually fits, I can still order it from them.
When we go shopping again – probably 2 weeks – it will just be my Mom and I. I talked to 3 of my bridesmaids about it and they understand. I’ve yet to tell the 4th and FMIL – 4th is her daughter/FI’s sister. That’ll probably happen this weekend.
Word to the wise – as much as you think you want your whole bridal party there, it’s overwhelming and YOUR opinion is what matters most.