Post # 1
Okay so I just made a few appointments to go shopping for my dress, and I am SO SO excited. Which is funny because until I actually made the appointments, I felt like it was no big deal, but I guess now that there’s an actual date it feels real.
So I’m excited to say the least but I’m also a little nervous. As many times as I’ve been a bridesmaid, I really have no clue what goes on during a bridal appointment (most of my friends have wanted their dresses to be a surprise to EVERYONE).
So I’m looking for tips and advice from those who have been there. Anything you think would be helpful, or that you wish someone had told you going in, I’d really love to hear it!
Post # 3
I only went to one place, but I just took a couple of people with me. They gave me a longline bra and slip to wear and let me mark dresses that I wanted to try on. The consultant helped me into each dress, clipped it, and had me walk out and talk about what I liked/didn’t like.
Post # 4
I just had my first appointment last week, and my experience was very similar to Vorpalette’s (except I didn’t wear a bra, which was a little strange, but I realized the consultant has seen a million boobs before). Talking about what I liked or didn’t felt strange and a little egotistical, but it helped both me and my consultant to figure out what I want. Keep an open mind! (I wanted a nontraditional dress, but my favorite, and probable winner, was the most traditional! I also wanted a natural waist ballgown and discovered they make me look like a stumpy midget.) Be ready to give some general ideas to your consultant about what you like (lace? bling? etc). And have fun! I will have several other appointments, but I think the first one is the most exciting. It’s fun to try on ridiculous dressses!
Also, don’t forget to wear nice underthings 😉
Post # 5
My first piece of advice would be to try on one dress in every possible silhouette. That way you can narrow down what looks best on you. Once you have the silhouette that flatters you best, then you can start to look at dresses in that category and further narrow down (train length? ruffles? bling? lace?)
Post # 6
@LilySarah: I would go with your heart! Don’t worry about what anyone else thinks or says and just go with what feels right. Also I’d suggest wearing your hair in a somewhat similar fashion as to how you think you’ll wear it on your wedding day. I mean obviously don’t go out and get a formal updo, but if you think you’re going to wear it up, then put it in a bun/topknot that day. I would also bring along a pair of heels (although a lot of wedding dress shops carry heels so you can try on). It just makes your posture look different in heels than if you had on flats. Good luck!!!
Post # 7
Thank you girls so much!
@vorpalette: How many people did you take with you? I’ve only been to one appointment with a friend, but she had like 8 people there and she seemed completely overwhelmed. I’m planning on bringing 3 (MOH, mom, and a very close relative).
@BlushingBrideNYC: Do most shops let you do that (try on all the styles)? Or would that take too long? I’ve been thinking of taking Maid/Matron of Honor to DB with me to try all the styles, even though I”m not planning on buying a dress there, because I know that they’re ok with trying on multiple dresses.
@Karenina: THIS — feeling strange and egotistical talking about my likes/dislikes. I’m worried about this because usually I’m pretty passive and I can see myself not wanting to hurt the consultant’s feelings! I am also really worried about ever coming off as a bridezilla, I don’t want anyone to feel uncomfortable.
@AshleyR83: Great advice about the hair–thanks so much, I never would have considered that.
Post # 8
@LilySarah: Just two, my Future Mother-In-Law and one of my bridesmaids. I had really intended it to just be a fun one-off experience because I was going to wear my grandma’s dress, so I didn’t ask my Future Sister-In-Law to come (though I’m not sure how Future Mother-In-Law would have taken that, since it’s her ex’s kid with his second wife), and my Maid/Matron of Honor and fourth Bridesmaid or Best Man live out of town.
Post # 9
@LilySarah: Trying to not hurt the consultant’s feelings is counter productive. They are there to faciliate your shopping experience. By being honest with them you are making it easier for them to do their job which is to make a sale. Also I can’t say I ever felt that a consultant was invested in a particular dress or anything when I was shopping.
Post # 10
Try to pick people to go with you who have similar taste as you. It’s good to try on some things you never considered, but once you decide a certain silouette isn’t what you want then stop trying them on. Limit the number of stores you go in one day. I was absolutely exhausted after a big shopping day that I went straight home to bed. Wear nice underwear definately. The only jewellery I wore was my engagement ring and I liked that because you could imagine yourself with different options for jewellery. Take a camera and ask if you can take pictures. There are still lots of places who won’t let you, but I went to 2 places that did let you take pictures.
Post # 11
@lilysarah Yep! I did this as David’s Bridal. In advance I had the styles that I wanted picked out (mermaid, fit and flare, a-line, princess, ballgown) and they were able to accomodate my request. The reason that I think this is so important is because often, what we think will look best on us, may not. Get the style narrowed down first. Perhaps you could let them know in advance to have those styles ready for you.
Post # 12
I would have to say don’t bring too many people, but do bring a few because its always nice to have a few opinions. I would suggest trying on different silhouettes because you never know what will and won’t look good on you. I brought my own strapless bra to try on with the dresses, but they did have crinoline for me to put on under the dress for me which was great. I showed my consultant pictures of what I liked and I explained to her what I didn’t like. She pulled dresses that I had pictures of and also some she thought I might liked by what I told her. She let me see each one out of the bag to see if it was worth trying on. I’m so glad I let her suggest dresses to me because the one I chose I had a pic of, but didn’t show her because I wasn’t quite sure about the bow on it. It was a bit big, but I found out it was detachable which worked out great. Also you may not have that “moment”. I thought I would have it and I didn’t so I had dress regret at first until I tried it on when it came in and I knew it was the dress for me. Just have fun. Good luck!