Post # 1
I’ve seen my fair share of Say Yes to the Dress episodes to know that I probably shouldn’t bring a HUGE group of peeps with me 😉 On the other hand, I would like someone with me….
I’m having a relatively short engagement… 6 months. So I need to get a move on the dress shopping. My bridesmaids are all out of town. I am new to the town I live in and while I do have friends I’ve made here, they won’t be bridesmaids. FI’s mom lives here and I’ve asked her to come along (my family all lives out of town as well) but should I ask the one girlfriend I’m closest to in town, even if she isn’t a BM?
I should have scrapped the wedding party all together. It is turning into such a PITA. Sigh.
Also … wasn’t sure if this was a Dress topic …
Post # 3
I am having no bridesmaids, and all my guests live out of town. I went dress shopping alone. I found it to be very efficient! I know what I like and I know if it looks good on me or not. I didn’t feel the need for much input. If it’s the right dress, you’ll feel like you won’t want to take it off.
I have female friends in town, but they are not close enough to be invited to a Destination Wedding so it would have been rude to ask them to go with me if they weren’t going to the wedding. If they are going to the wedding, then sure ask one if you want.
I was hopping all over the place from shop to shop. I would hate to drag someone along for all of that!
Post # 4
A good friend and your mom. At least one to two people. More then that, you get way too many opinions and you’ll get pulled in different directions. lol
But above all bring who you trust and u know will give their honest opinion and help. Good luck.
I had a friend come to help and take pics of me in the dresses.
Post # 5
I would just bring your SO’s Mom if I were in that situation. I wouldn’t bring a non-bridal party friend, just would be a bit odd. But that’s just me!
Post # 6
Whomever you think will be supportive. I went dress shopping 3 times and found that I had a better outcome when I went with just 1 person as opposed to 3 or more (too many opinions)
I would reccomend that if none of your bridal party is in town that you just go with your Future Mother-In-Law….it will give you two a nice bonding moment
Post # 7
I’ve gone against advice and am taking my mum, Maid/Matron of Honor and my Aunty who hasbasically grown up with me (she was 16 when I was born) who has had all the kids she is going to now and only had boys. So mum and I thought it was nice to it only have a buffer between mum & I (we are very different ppl) but to also involve her so she can experience the planning like a MOB usually would….
But this is all happening Sat next week…So I may have further things to say on this topic after that lol
Post # 8
I actually went twice. Once with my mom, my sister (who had to fly in from another state) my sister in law (drive 8 hours) with my neice, and one of my best friends. I wanted to include all the women in my family. unfortunately none of his family lives in state, and could not afford to fly in.
the second time around, all my BMs except 1 and not my Maid/Matron of Honor (my sister) and absolutely my mom came along with me again! I had already chosen two dresses for the Bridesmaid or Best Man to decide between and it was perfect to have them all try them on and see them and be apart of the wedding dress shopping! 🙂 🙂 🙂
Post # 9
I had planned a day with my Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor to go dress shopping and one day while taking my mum out to the city i tried on a few and found my perfect one. Now i wouldnt change that for the world. It was so intimate and i didnt have all these opinions around me, just mine and my mums and she was happy with anything. So all up i liked that it was about me not about them.
Post # 10
The first time I went my Maid/Matron of Honor (my sister), my mom and my Future Mother-In-Law came. Since I also recently moved to a town where I didn’t know anyone, made mom/MOH drive 4 hours and Future Mother-In-Law drive one to come. They seemed more than happy to do so. I was very clear (as I watch wayyyyyy to much say yes to the dress as do the three of them) that I would not be tolerating them pulling dresses outside my budget.
The second time I went (when I purchased) I went in my parents hometown and just my mom and sister went with me.
To be honest, I have some serious self esteem issues (recently losing ~35 pounds) so I really needed people who were going to be as supportive as possible. These women were awesome telling me how thin I looked and encouraging me to try on things I didn’t think would fit. Ended up actually being a really nice experience and I’m so thankful they came 🙂
EDIT – I should also note that asking my Future Mother-In-Law was a huge hit, she told my Fiance how included and special she felt that I asked her to come with me.
Post # 11
I used it as an opportunity to bond with my FSILs, and they were flattered that I asked them. I already had a strong idea of what I wanted so I think that helped, but I was so happy I didn’t have to go alone! One of them was already married, so she was great in giving advice and keeping certain sales associates from getting too pushy. So…I vote Future Mother-In-Law.
Post # 12
I went dress shopping with my mom, and no one else. It was important to me that my mother be with me for this, and we just happened to find the perfect dress while it was just the two of us. Too many opinions will confuse you. Bring along one or two trusted women who will give you an honest opinion, and leave it at that.
Post # 13
I can’t make decisions without others opinion. I almost need confirmation of my thoughts. I brought my mom and my sister (MOH). I say bring your Future Mother-In-Law and no friend. Good luck! Happy shopping!