Post # 1
Sooo I didn’t entirely intend for this to happen, but somehow people just kept getting added onto the group for my first dress shopping trip next week, and I’m worried that chaos and/or conflict are going to happen. There’ll be a crowd of 7 people! Any chaos reduction tips?
Post # 3
Oh geesh. Well, I guess it really depends on the type of people in your group. I only brought 3 people with me, my mom, MOH and grandmom, and that was perfect. They are all honest yet understanding that this is my dress and they don’t have to love it. I was really happy I had them there because it made me feel even more confident in my decision. However, had they not been so supportive and open minded, I think it would have been a who different story. Do you absolutely HAVE to have everybody? I think too many voices tend to overshadow the one that really matters, yours. Also, check with the salon you are going to, mine had a 4 person limit!
Post # 4
@sunflower22: No chaos reduction tips, but I will suggest NOT making a decision with that many people around!!! Go back later, or to other stores, with fewer people.
Post # 5
@sunflower22: Tell everyone to give you one full minute in the dress without any opinions being said. That way you get a brief minute to process what you think – then let the 7 other opinions fly hahaha I found this helpful and it also kind of gave people a minute to see my reaction so no one was like OMG YES when I came out and looked and started frowning hahaha
Post # 6
With a group this size, I just think you have to be very direct on a few things:
1) Discuss with everyone that there is no pressure to actually buy that day. You’re all there for the general experience, to enjoy each other’s company and to get some general impressions on how you might look on your wedding day; you don’t have to make a decision that day just because you are all together. And don’t get discouraged if you don’t find your dress in this outing.
2) Do your research. Do you know which salon(s) you are going to? I would call up ahead of time or go on their website and find out which designers they carry. If you can go into the appointment with one or two specific dresses you would like to try on in mind, that will allow you to better control the appointment, especially if you have any “dominant” personalities or very opinionated people in your group who will just grab any dress in the store for you.
3) Decide if you have any dealbreakers. Are you getting married in a church and really don’t want anything sexy? Are you gettng married in a garden and don’t want a huge satin ballgown? Are you especially opposed to a certain kind of neckline? If you feel strongly about any of this, stick to your guns. And stick to your budget if there really isn’t much wiggle room there.
4) You should all eat beforehand, even if it’s just a light breakfast/brunch. I’m totally serious! You don’t want anyone becoming cranky or restless just because they’re hungry.
5) Follow your instincts, not just their reactions. You should be prepared that some people might just cry at the first sight of you in a wedding dress — or a dress that they envision for themselves. It’s great if people give a supportive reaction, but if you aren’t sure about the dress, or feel like you just can’t see yourself walking down the aisle in it, then that’s not it.
Good luck! I think this can totally work, as long as everyone in the group has your best interest at heart and is generally supportive of you in the rest of your life. If you already know of anyone who might be a bit of a Debbie Downer or is, for whatever reason, jealous or mean-spirited, I would go ahead and tell them you’ve decided to go with a smaller group. Sure, you don’t want to hurt any feelings, but you’re also entitled to have this be the best experience it can be.
Post # 7
@sunflower22: I had 5 people. My mom, dad, brother, grandma, and FMIL. Everyone of course had there opinions, but it wasn’t overwhelming. Everyone pretty much agreed on every dress I tried on. No one got into arguments and they weren’t running around the store picking out dresses either like you see on SYTTD. I looked with my mom and my consultant pulled some as well. Some people would probably say 5 is too many to bring with you, but it was just enough for me. I had a wonderful experience and I hope you do too! Good Luck