Post # 1
I always have had body issues. I’m super thin, barely any curves to me. I’d been called out on my flat chest in Middle School many times… anyway, meeting my FI was the best thing that happened to me because he makes me feel beautiful and he says (and believes) I’m perfect. It’s done wonders for my confidence.
Dress shopping has started to bring out those feelings again. My mom is also tiny, but has a big bust. I barely fit an A cup. It’s so hard in the stores when I try on a dress and the reason it looks bad is because “I don’t fill it enough on top”. And the my FMIL is very vocal and loud, and will agree with my mom and start shouting (unintentionally), “She needs to fill it more. It needs more filling. She’s not big enough”
Ugh, it’s so hard! It feels super embarassing to even say anything though. But even though I’m super thin and stick-like, I’m still going to look beautiful right? People won’t be thinking I’m anorexic or anything? I’m not. In fact, I would love to try to gain weight for my wedding. I just don’t know if I can. I’ve been the same since like, 9th grade.
Post # 3
@Stressed_Bride15: Don’t worry 🙂 First of all, the alterations process will help get the dress to fit you in a more flattering way, and they also can sew cups into the dress. I wore a strapless bra AND used the sewn in cups as well! I was marathon training at the time and didn’t exactly have a lot up top so the extra “assistance” helped me look more balanced on my wedding day.
Post # 4
Bridal consultant: ‘Honey you can be whatever size you WANT on your day! We have a whole drawer of cup sizes that can be sewn right into the dress!”
My SIL doesn’t wear a bra, she has so little… but her wedding dress just had natural cuppage that just stuck out on its own, which added shape.
Don’t worry, you’ll look fine I’m sure. I have no idea what your height or weight is, but I doubt people will think your anorexic… I can’t give you an honest answer though because I have no idea what you look like.
Your fiance will think you’re super beautiful, and he’s the one who matters ^_^
And if you want you can always add some cuppage. lol
Post # 5
don’t listen to your mom and FMIL!! you know you’re beautiful and your FI knows it too. don’t even worry about what anyone else is going to think (which they will probably think “wow, she looks stunning!”) if you do feel insecure about your chest, you can have cups sewn in but i think you should embrace your true body.
Post # 6
Can you ask your mom to stop commenting on the bust?
My mom is small-busted, and I’m larger-busted, so every time we would go into a store, the first thing she would say is “we need something to suit her bust!” I was finally like “mom, seriously, no more of that please” She had no idea it was bothering me, and hasn’t said anything about it since.
Post # 7
Ughhh… I know your pain. Im barely an A, too. My dress has a sweetheart neck and is also very structured – and it gave the illusion of nice curves. I’m having cups sewn in, too.
Post # 8
@Stressed_Bride15: from one flat chested bride to the next I feel you!
There are ways around this of course….one is to get a dress with sort of like a fan like top that gives you more of a hour glass shape….
This dress above is an EXAMPLE of a type of fanned out top that actually fully COVERS the chest area and fanning out, making your top look a little porportional with your hips (even if you have no hips, but I assume your hips a bigger then your bust). Do not forget to add padding to the bust during alterations…
Also for the neckline, I found deep v-necks were UNFLATTERING,you see I have this problem with my chest, when the light hits it from overhead you can see the bones inbetween my tiny bust in pictures and it makes me look very sick and anorexic (See I know exactly how you feel)Another option to cover up your chest (if the bonyness is a problem, like it is for me) is to get an illusion neckline that covers up your chest area…and remember DO NOT FORGET YOUR double push up! (lol jokes…the VS double pushup is my helper)…
Also try to get a dress that fits your waist…VERY VERY TIGHT….bring that shape in!!! Give yourself an hourglass shape…
The shilouette of the skirt is up to you! If you are ok with your slender hips go trumpet, the trumpet actually makes you look taller…if you are tall and slender go mermaid, adds to the hourglass shape. If you want to make your waiste even tiner and want to cover your slender hips go for a princess ballgown.
BUT the best advice I can give you is to ROCK YOUR BODY and be confident!!!! Wear your leaness like you meant for it to ‘look that way’ and you love it that way (as you should)….when you are confident people get jealous (lol 😉 ). Lets be honest….SOME high fashion models have no to little curves (believe me I used to work as one, and I seen many types of slim, some not as bad as you think though) but when you see them walk down the runway you see how good the dress looks…and how it moves…so treat your wedding like your catwalk and strut…believe me it will make your dress look the best on your body!!!! :)))
Post # 9
Take heart from all the supermodels who have been bullied for being too thin/flat-chested/tall since the start of time. You are going to look amazing on your wedding day, you just need to find the right dress for you and make sure it’s fitted perfectly. I bet your figure actually looks amazing in most dresses. I am personally envious, because there are so many styles that I can’t pull off because they make me look too busty.
Off the top of my head, I think you could totally rock a really sophisticated 1920s/1930s silhouette. Jenny Packham dresses, for example – really fluid and sleek and they look great on slim frames (think the Duchess of Cambridge). You could look to Michelle Dockery on Downton Abbey for inspiration!
If that’s not your style, what about a dress with a crumbcatcher bodice detail, like Vera Wang’s Fawn? I adore this dress but could not do it because it really accentuates the bust. Kate Hudson’s Marchesa is along the same veil, lots of detail at the bust (and it’s structured like an open flower), and conversely it makes her look a lot more hourglass than she actually is.
I would also look to Keira Knightley for inspiration – she wears a lot of incredible gowns, ones with a lot of detail and elaborate design around the bodice that adds a little bit of bulk. I would consider a gown with a lace overlay, similar to her black one (or Ivanka Trump’s Vera Wang Esther wedding gown).
Good luck! I hope your mom lays off the snarky comments. Embrace your body type – you can always add sew-in cups and push-up bras and padding if you really want, but I think you should rock that slim silhouette.
Post # 10
I second looking to designers like Jenny Packham for inspiration. And also Googling celebrities with smaller chests to see what looks good on them.
I have a smaller bust as well and did 2 things: I had cups sewn in and also had the straps of my dress shortened to give them lift. You might also want to look into corsetry that will do the same thing.
PS – The illusion necklines on Keira Knightley above look great!
Post # 11
@peonyinparis: GREAT OPTIONS YOU SHOWN HERE!!!! I 100% AGREE WITH YOU!