Post # 1
So…Long story short, FI wanted me to involve his mom in more of the wedding planning process, so I planned a trip to Austin to try on dresses and invited her.
My stomach is literally in knots when I think about going. She is a nice lady, but has been very open about not being happy with our wedding plans. She is dramatic and judgemental and I’m not sure how I’m going to get through tomorrow without crying lol.
I guess I’m just asking for advice on how to deal with a difficult FMIL, did anyone go dress shopping with them?
Post # 4
My FMIL refused to go with me, so I can’t really offer any advice based on my experience. Try to be as optimistic as possible because it could turn out to be a good experience. I’d have a couple “jokes” or something in case she’s out of line. You know something that’s funny but gets your point across… like if she says “I wouldn’t wear a dress like that” be like “not about you” lol… I’m going to guess that she knows how important this day is, and she’ll be quiet or be supportive.
Post # 5
Take a deep breath and remember that it’s only PART of your dress shopping experience. She may be over the top and hate something, but if there’s something you think you might love, make an appointment to come back to the shop later with a less critical crowd.
Good luck – I know it’s rough, but it’s one day, and it’ll make your man very happy that you tried!
Post # 6
This is a technique that I was taught a few years ago when I worked in ER.
Picture yourself with a veil that completely covers you-from the top of your head to the floor (a particularly appropriate visual here on the Bee)
Nothing can penetrate that veil. Not any barbs, or criticisms or complaints from your FMIL.
Just plaster a smile on your face and you will get through the day.
Post # 7
I’ve invited my FMIL shopping with me and she is making the four hour trip down here to go with me/my mom! We’ll have to meet back up and compare notes. We’re supposed to go shopping the 22nd!