Post # 1
My wedding’s in October and I’m anxious to get started on picking out a dress. I’ve been to one appointment with my mom, when I was there for Thanksgiving, and found a few things I like but nothing I’m ready to put money down on. The problem is, my mom lives in PA, as do two of my bridesmaids (my sisters), and I live in MA. My other bridesmaid’s in New Orleans, so she’s out too. I want to make an appointment to look at dresses up here, but FI doesn’t want to come with me and I don’t want to go alone. Is it okay to invite a friend who lives near me who’s not a bridesmaid? Would I have to add her to the wedding party if I asked her to come with me?
Post # 2
- Wedding: October 2015 - Drury Lane Oakbrook
uponthewaters: Yes, you can have her go with you without making her a bridesmaid. I found that it was actually better to have a friend who was not in my bridal party because she was less invested in my choice, so she gave much more objective opinions.
Post # 3
I invited 2 friends dress shopping on separate occassions. I did ask 1 to be a bridesmaid 4 months later, but I didn’t ask the other person. I think it’s totally fine. Dress shopping with you is an honor unto itself and doesn’t need to be exclusive to bridesmaids.
Post # 4
My mother passed away a few years ago, three of my wedding party live across country and the one BM that lives in my town couldnt find a sitter. So I took the two girls with me that I almost asked to be in my wedding. Figured it would make them feel a part of everything and special. And it turned out great.
Post # 5
uponthewaters: I had a very good friend come with me who is not a bridesmaid. She was just excited to be there and be apart of it. I did ask her after to be a PA, but thats not because she came shopping with me.
Post # 6
uponthewaters: Why not? You can take who ever you want!
Honestly, I think all the activities that happen before the wedding have been built up to be way more than they are. The special time is the the day of the wedding, but people now feel like everything associated with the wedding has to be a super special once in a life time experience. It is okay is you want to dress shop without your BM’s, and okay if the BM’s can’t make dress shopping/fitting appointments. Don’t feel bad in the least!
Oh, just make sure you get lots of pics to share with us on WB! I love dress posts
Post # 7
You can go shopping with whoever you want. I’d at least invite her to the wedding Lololol but I don’t think it’s necessary to ask her to be a bridesmaid… Unless you want to of course 🙂
Post # 8
I went shopping with a friend to get her dress, she was having a DW and I wasn’t going. I was happy to go with her and never once felt resentment or anything for not being asked to be a BM.