Dress Shopping with the Groom

posted 3 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Would you go dress shopping with your FI?
    Yes! His opinion is most important to me : (48 votes)
    25 %
    No way! I'm too traditional : (113 votes)
    59 %
    No, but I would show him pictures of the dress : (22 votes)
    12 %
    Other (please explain below) : (8 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    454 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I actually did go dress shopping with FI. It was actually a lot of fun. I’d call it a real bonding moment. I picked out 2 dresses that I wanted to try on and I asked him to pick out 2 that he thinks would look decent on me. Yeah, his 2 choices were… Uh… Not so great.

    I had no intention of buying immediately but it gave him the opportunity to tell me what he thinks looks good on me. I do want to look super hot just for him on the day and I swear, at one point there were tears in his eyes. I also figured I will have some say in what he wears on the day so he should have some idea of what I plan to wear.

    But… We are a kinda strange couple like that… FI is generally my partner in crime when it comes to clothes shopping anyway. My dress is also just a reception dress and kinda low down on the list of priorities. Those random traditions don’t really mean anything to us.  

    I’d take him with so you have an idea of what he likes on you in terms of style. You do not have to buy a dress immediately but it will help you narrow down choices.


    Post # 4
    2057 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

    I offered to take my FI along, but he’s the traditionalist, where he believes it’s bad luck if he saw my dress before. He’s not going to like my non-full length dress, I think, but he’s not the one wearing it. 🙂

    Post # 5
    1102 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    personally i wouldn’t go with the groom… I just feel that is so much of the wedding when you come out and he sees you in it for the 1st time … if your having trouble go alone … 


    this might sound strange I almost am planning a solo trip b.c. everyone liks something different on me … my best friend sees my as a cupcake my mom just wants me to dress up over and over and she and i tend to hate and love the oppsite things 


    you should try alone and if your really stuck then try to find someone 

    Post # 6
    135 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I wanted to but people told me I was crazy, but I would love to show him the dress, I truly feel like i’m keeping a secret from him, I don’t like that feeling! 

    Post # 7
    571 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    If his opinion and input means a lot to you, then go ahead and bring him dress shopping. Personally, I wanted that moment with the big reveal to happen only on our wedding day so I went dress shopping alone when no one else could go with me. The other thing was that I often felt uncomfortable in the bridal salons when there were other people’s menfollk there, entering the changing rooms and such, especially when the changing rooms were in full view of the store and not big enough to accommodate the sales assistant when they needed to zip up/clip you into the dress.




    Post # 8
    2167 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    No, I didn’t go dress shopping with my SO but if I wanted his opinion I would show him dresses and see what he says.

    Post # 9
    52 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I did go shopping with my partner, having his opinion was nice and not a having to keep it from him in the lead up to the wedding has been good because I probably would have cracked anyway lol I never really believed in the not showing him the dress tradition though so for me it was an easy decision and he loved being able to come 🙂

    Post # 10
    5087 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I’m taking my FI dress shopping. I really want him to love my dress & I really value his input. 

    Post # 11
    2614 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @JazzyGemini:  I did! We picked out a dress together but later I went with family. The trip with him was somucjh nicer so I’m glad we did it 😀

    Post # 12
    3835 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Nope.  But we did watch a few episodes of Say Yes to the Dress so I could get an idea of his preferences.   The style he liked didn’t look good on me, but as least I was able to give it a shot!!  

    Post # 13
    226 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @JazzyGemini:  Maybe if you want to bring him out for the first time to get his opinion on what dresses turn him off or on. For example, my DH didn’t like OTT dresses. Get his opinion on the different dress styles but do not try anything on for him to see!

    There really isn’t much in terms of surprises anymore before people get married. Its common that couples will have moved in already, have had premarital sex, etc. At least just keep this one little bit of suprise for the day and that is how you would look in any wedding dress. I say any because to a guy’s eye, the dresses all look the same! 🙂

    Post # 14
    2365 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    He usually goes clothes shopping with me – he’s got a great eye for shape and what looks good on me.  However, my Mom really wanted that Mom/daugther bonding experience over the dress.  She had no input on my dress when I married my ex, and she was very hurt that I didn’t ask her to go shopping with me the first time.  In all fairness, I didn’t go shopping that time, I had a dress custom done, but either way, she was hurt.  So this time, it was the whole shopping experience with just Mom.   My fiance suggested silhouettes, bling level and requested no feathers and no see through corset tops (thank you SYTTD).  And he was dead on about the shape and bling.  He hasn’t seen it yet, because he figured it might as well be a surprise now.

    Post # 15
    1333 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    We considered it, but when we decided against it (forget why) we decided to go totally in the other direction and have it be a surprise.

    Post # 16
    1068 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @JazzyGemini:  I’ve been dress shopping with my FI, and it’s WONDERFUL.  This is a man who couldn’t even buy a pair of shoes for himself a year ago and still hates clothing stores.  Who would have known–he actually thinks it’s kind of fun!  He has great taste, is very supportive and constructive, and is super enthusiastic.  He even has a favorite bridal salon.

    I also don’t think it will take away from the specialness of the first look.  His face when he saw me in the first dress was priceless, and I’m kind of glad that got to be its own special moment, not mixed in with all of the craziness of the wedding day itself.

    We always call the salons ahead of time and ask if the shop is set up in a way that can accomodate men without making the other ladies uncomfortable.  So far we haven’t had any problems.

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