Post # 1
I was running late to work the other day and left my dress search open on my computer when I left. When I came home that night my fiance looked at me and said “there’s something we need to talk about”… yeah a bit dramatic. What he wanted to discuss was my choice in dress. He happened to open the computer and see the dresses I was thinking about. He thinks they’re very casual and wants something more formal.
I reminded him that when we first started discussing the wedding he said he wanted something low key and casual. Not thinking what that entailed. I envisioned him in khakis and a blue jacket and me in a tea length dress. He envisioned… our guests being comfortable while we stood up looking stuffy. (alright, that’s not what he said). He envisioned our guests being less dressed up than the average wedding, while we were all decked out… I thought the missmatch would look strange.
We agreed that everyone will be dress semi-formal attire, but now I don’t know what dress I want.
I have been thinking about this wedding for months, even though I’ve only had the ring for a week. What I’ve always seen in my head was a lacy tea length dress with cap sleeves. That doesn’t tie into a semi formal wedding.
The fiance and I decided we’d go dress shopping together. I’m actually quite relieved! I always ask his opinion when getting ready for a big event. Why should it be any different on the biggest day of our lives?
Have any of you gone dress shopping with your fiance? Any thoughts?
Post # 3
My FI didn’t help me shop for dresses, but that doesn’t mean that yours can’t! It sounds like you have great reasons for taking him with you. 🙂 Have fun and let us know what you two pick out!
Post # 4
Yes! In fact, FI was the only one with me when I bought my dress. We’d flipped through lots of bridal mags together and had come to realize that we had verrrry different tastes in dresses. I didn’t want him to hate my wedding gown, so I had him come with, and we picked one we both liked. He hasn’t seen it (or pics of it) since then, per his request, and knowing him I’m sure he’s already forgotten what it looks like, so I think we’re golden.
Then again, we live together so will probably see each other the morning of the wedding, and will do a first look, so we’re somewhat bucking traditions all around.
Post # 5
I would take my partner if I knew he wouldn’t get bored faster than a three year old!
I think that as long as you both do some “homework” before going (and show each other dresses you like etc) that it could be a really great experience. 🙂
Post # 6
i didn’t take my FI shopping with me because he really wanted to wait until I walked down the aisle to see me in it.
HOwever, he did have some picky tastes. He told me that he did not like any tulle, the ballgown silhouette or the mermaid silhouette. he also said he didn’t like anything that looks like a prom dress, no ruffles, and no tiers. he also said that he does not like long veils.
i was freaking out when i went shopping because i was so afraid i would fall in love with something he wouldn’t like. however, i ended up finding something that i love and i think he will love.
deciding to take your FI with you is entirely up to you! i think it could be a really special moment between the two of you!
Post # 7
I didn’t go shopping with my fiance either but would have done had I not found my dress on my own, we had a couple of appointments booked for after the holidays.
Just thinking about how to formalize the dress you had in mind, there are plenty of floor length lace dress, a lot of them are sleeveless but it’s easy to add cap sleeves. Could be a way to stick with your original idea but making it more formal.
Post # 8
I was just told
“White – not ivory, and not big and poofy”
And he didn’t want any clues whatsoever.
Post # 9
Thanks everyone! I’m glad to have some support on this subject. My mom flipped out on me when I told her. I was really upset that she’s been fighting me every step of the way on this even though she’s not paying. Even if she was paying, it’s still MY wedding… Now I know why my sister eloped!
Thank you everyone!
Post # 10
I would actually prefer that he go dress shopping with me since I trust his opinion more than anyone elses. I don’t believe in superstitions. If he sees the dress before our wedding, it will not be bad luck. That whole concept is just ridiculous. Besides, the odds of him remembering what the dress looks like by the time our wedding rolls around, is pretty slim.
I mentioned this to my mother and she just about had a cow. Everyone thinks its a bad idea but they’re all very traditional and FI and I are not. I haven’t entertained this idea with him yet, but I plan to in the next few weeks since my next dress shopping excursion will be at the end of January.
Post # 11
I think you should make the decision–it’s your dress. I find it a little strange when the guy is really wrapped up in what his bride wears, to be honest…but I’m sure even if what you pick isn’t what he imagined, he’ll still think you’re beautiful!
Post # 12
My fi won’t go shopping with me and wants to do a first look, which I mostly love that idea of. The only thing is we have very different taste. He loves ballgowns, the more tulle and poof the better. He also wants a lot of beading. I am a simple a line type of gal. I’m not sure what will happen when I go shopping in a few weeks…but I know I won’t leave until I am happy!
Post # 13
Honestly, I think he will love anything you are wearing no matter what it looks like because it will be you and you will look gorgeous! Buy what YOU want!
Post # 14
I took FI the first time but he fell in love with a dress I wasn’t crazy about! haha I do show him lots of pictures but I won’t be taking him with me again.
Post # 15
I haven’t been dress shopping yet but I will be taking him a few times, definitely. 🙂
Post # 16
Fi would kill me if I took him dress shopping. He doesn’t like regular shopping with me, but at least when we go to the mall, he can go to Game Stop and look at video games while I look at clothes. He wouldn’t know what to do with himself in a dress shop, and he’d be bored in about 30 seconds.