(Closed) Dress shopping with the man

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
Hostess
16217 posts
Honey Beekeeper

My FI didn’t help me shop for dresses, but that doesn’t mean that yours can’t! It sounds like you have great reasons for taking him with you. 🙂 Have fun and let us know what you two pick out!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Yes! In fact, FI was the only one with me when I bought my dress. We’d flipped through lots of bridal mags together and had come to realize that we had verrrry different tastes in dresses. I didn’t want him to hate my wedding gown, so I had him come with, and we picked one we both liked. He hasn’t seen it (or pics of it) since then, per his request, and knowing him I’m sure he’s already forgotten what it looks like, so I think we’re golden.

Then again, we live together so will probably see each other the morning of the wedding, and will do a first look, so we’re somewhat bucking traditions all around.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would take my partner if I knew he wouldn’t get bored faster than a three year old!

I think that as long as you both do some “homework” before going (and show each other dresses you like etc) that it could be a really great experience. 🙂

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

i didn’t take my FI shopping with me because he really wanted to wait until I walked down the aisle to see me in it.

HOwever, he did have some picky tastes. He told me that he did not like any tulle, the ballgown silhouette or the mermaid silhouette. he also said he didn’t like anything that looks like a prom dress, no ruffles, and no tiers. he also said that he does not like long veils.

i was freaking out when i went shopping because i was so afraid i would fall in love with something he wouldn’t like. however, i ended up finding something that i love and i think he will love.

deciding to take your FI with you is entirely up to you! i think it could be a really special moment between the two of you!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I didn’t go shopping with my fiance either but would have done had I not found my dress on my own, we had a couple of appointments booked for after the holidays.

Just thinking about how to formalize the dress you had in mind, there are plenty of floor length lace dress, a lot of them are sleeveless but it’s easy to add cap sleeves. Could be a way to stick with your original idea but making it more formal.

Post # 8
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529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I was just told

“White – not ivory, and not big and poofy”

And he didn’t want any clues whatsoever.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would actually prefer that he go dress shopping with me since I trust his opinion more than anyone elses. I don’t believe in superstitions. If he sees the dress before our wedding, it will not be bad luck. That whole concept is just ridiculous. Besides, the odds of him remembering what the dress looks like by the time our wedding rolls around, is pretty slim. 

I mentioned this to my mother and she just about had a cow. Everyone thinks its a bad idea but they’re all very traditional and FI and I are not. I haven’t entertained this idea with him yet, but I plan to in the next few weeks since my next dress shopping excursion will be at the end of January. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think you should make the decision–it’s your dress. I find it a little strange when the guy is really wrapped up in what his bride wears, to be honest…but I’m sure even if what you pick isn’t what he imagined, he’ll still think you’re beautiful!

Post # 12
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161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My fi won’t go shopping with me and wants to do a first look, which I mostly love that idea of. The only thing is we have very different taste. He loves ballgowns, the more tulle and poof the better. He also wants a lot of beading. I am a simple a line type of gal. I’m not sure what will happen when I go shopping in a few weeks…but I know I won’t leave until I am happy!

Post # 13
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Honestly, I think he will love anything you are wearing no matter what it looks like because it will be you and you will look gorgeous!  Buy what YOU want!

Post # 14
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6351 posts
Bee Keeper

I took FI the first time but he fell in love with a dress I wasn’t crazy about! haha I do show him lots of pictures but I won’t be taking him with me again.

Post # 15
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654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I haven’t been dress shopping yet but I will be taking him a few times, definitely.  🙂

Post # 16
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Helper bee

Fi would kill me if I took him dress shopping.  He doesn’t like regular shopping with me, but at least when we go to the mall, he can go to Game Stop and look at video games while I look at clothes.  He wouldn’t know what to do with himself in a dress shop, and he’d be bored in about 30 seconds.

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