- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
So I have been engaged for two months and finally got my dress yesterday but it was not the sappy, emotional affair I was expecting. I thought it would be nice to wait to go shopping until my fiance’s parents were in town this week. His mom doesn’t have any daughters and I invited her because I thought she might enjoy being able to do girly shopping stuff. My future in laws live in Montana and I have been emailing her for weeks about going dress shopping on the Wednesday after she flew in. I of course asked my mom to come to. Plus I thought it would be a nice ice breaker for the two of them.
Well, things didn’t go according to plan. My mom accidentally misread my email and asked for the wrong day off of work. As for my future mother in law she seemed to kind of forget we made plans and had arranged to spend time with her friend that day. I had to cancel my appointment to try on dresses in San Francisco yesterday morning because I was not about to drive an hour to try on a dress by myself. I then spent a rather boring day just entreating his parents when they were not with his friends.
Then I realized that exactly how frustrating it was to wait so long and get all excited and look forward to dress shopping so much and then not do it at all. When I had dropped my fiance’s parents off at the hotel again I decided that I would at least stop into one bridal shop and try on at least one dress because I owed it to myself. Plus who knows the next time I will have a day off both work and school. I initially felt really uncomfortable because there I was amongst all these other girls who had friends and family to support them and help them decide and I was all alone.
At first I was slightly depressed, then I started to realize the advantages of not having traditional mom figures around. I didn’t have to try to please anyone but myself. I didn’t have to pretend I led things I didn’t or watt time trying on dresses that I knew wouldn’t look good on me. I was actually really refreshing.
What I definitely didn’t expect was to fall in love with a dress on my first visit to any store and actually purchase that dress without consulting anyone else first. I was completely confident in my decision. I guess even though I know that everyone will love it I dot really NEED anyone to love it. I just thought I needed guidance and encouragement more than I actually did. Sure it would have been nice to have my mom there to gush over how beautiful I looked but she can come with to pick it up and she can gush later. I surprised myself by falling head over heels in love with a Maggie Sottero gown. Here it is below.