Dress shopping…The wait game.

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@eecuadrado:  Can’t offer much help but can empathise. We’re gunning for Nov 2014, not engaged yet (but it’s soon!). I just want to plan already! I feel a bit silly without a ring, planning away. But the reality is there’s not many chances left for me to plan until it’s too late to secure things for the date we want 🙁

ETA: I bought my dress for $50 at an op shop when I was single! That didn’t feel weird – just seemd logical cos it was gorgeous and so cheap!. It would have been weird if I went into a wedding dress shop. Strange how it feels different when you’re anticipating a proposal

Post # 4
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1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m planning without a ring, if both of you are on board with it, just go for it. It was a decision we made together. You’re engaged if you’re planning a wedding though, and I know some people don’t like to do that without the ring. FI proposed on the telephone during a visa crisis. Our ring is in the safe, we’re making a formal announcement this Christmas.

Dress shopping without the ring was great, I took my mom and we had an amazing time. It was so special.

Same situation, we wanted a specific date. We wanted to hold off the formal engagement until I met his parents. We came to the logical conclusion that if we really wanted that date, and also really wanted to wait to do the whole ring thing until this Christmas, that we would have to start planning now. 

We haven’t gotten any guff from anyone! Vendors, my parents, anyone. We explain the situation, they go “how lovely” and gladly (in the case of vendors) take our money. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@eecuadrado:  Do you know about how long until your proposal?  I think you have time to look for a dress, I think ~7 months is pretty standard for a dress to come int.  One consultant at a store asked to see my ring, but at the other store she didn’t.  So if you are wanting to try on dresses before you get the ring you could explain it is being made.  If you don’t feel comfortable trying on dresses without a ring you could look online for the dresses you like, which dress shops in your area carry the designers you like, and make a wish list of dresses to try on when the ring arrives.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@eecuadrado:  We aren’t starting the ring buying process until August, but have started visiting venues and planning our wedding! We actually have two dates on hold at our possible venue. We are planning a late May/early July wedding though.

I haven’t and won’t try on dresses until the proposal is “official” and I have the ring on my finger. For some reason, that’s where I draw the line! We have been open with friends and family about our plans, too.

I think that if you are shooting for October, you still have a TON of time. That is 15 months away! I think you can start getting stressed if a proposal hasn’t happened 8-9 months before you are planning to get married. If the proposal is coming before then, wait to try on dresses 🙂 I see no problems with you trying to secure a venue asap though, as long as your SO is on board.

Post # 11
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606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

doesn’t hurt to shop around and get some ideas now…but if he proposes by the end of the year, you’ll still have plenty of time, IMO.

Post # 12
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Helper bee

@babycakes24:  I agree

 

i think you will have time if your proposal is in the near future. I have been looking online to get ideas of what I like. Congrats on your impending engagement!

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