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To be honest, I'd be super careful about ordering a dress you can't try on. You never know how it will look on your body versus the model. I can't see the picture (probably because I'm at work), but my advice is if you have enough time to try to find your dress somewhere else.
I'm so sorry you had such rotten luck, but it is great (like you said) that you got your money back. Good luck!
Firstly calm down. Im a proud beleiver in everything happens for a reason, so if the store is closed, maybe it wasnt the dress for you.
Take a couple of days and explore all of your local bridal stores, try on dresses in all the stores, im certain you will find something you love maybe even more than the first. Buying a dress of the internet may be fine but i think you should try on different shapes and styles first so you know that the one you buy online will suit you.
As far as the cost is concerend you should obviously only get what you can afford but if you can afford it go for it - its going to be the best day of your life so why shouldnt you wear an expensive dress.
@sara- I completely agree with you on the cost thing, the dress came in under the budget that my FI and I agreed on and then my mom out of no where agreed to pay 700 towards my dress so then it came way under, but I think my mom thought that the 700 was going to actually pay for my dress =) And thanks for the advice, so supportive!
The dress is from a girl that doesnt live to far away from me, maybe 3 hours and I informed her if I were to purchase the dress it would be a cash and carry kind of deal and I would want to see and try it on before I purchased it and she was ok with that.
I don't want to play sides, but I kinda agree with your mother. I would take it as a sign that I didn't need that $1500 dress. But I've always been a bit on the conservative side as far as spending goes. I got my dress discontinued floor model from David's Bridal for about $200... but it happened to be the dress I loved! If they told me it was $1500 I would have kept looking, but I do know how you feel about having THE DRESS that you want.
What if there is something similar out there that you can get? At least you have $1500 in your hands to go buy the second best dress of your dreams! By the way if you're getting married in October, I know you're feeling impatient, but you still have heaps of time. It would be different if you were getting married next week or even next month. Just relax, and what always helps to settle my mind is making a list of Pros and cons, as goofy as that sounds. The pros of using all $1500 to get that dress, the pros of not using $1500 on that dress. Maybe you could convince yourself to compromise. You can spend $1000 on a dress, and $500 on shoes or something lmao...
Shannon, I'm so sorry!! If you can try on the dress before, then it sounds like a fantastic situation! I do agree with your fi though that things don't have to be settled RIGHT NOW, but trust me, I get how you feel and share that sentiment on MANY things (aka, I can't take my own advice sometimes).
Maybe chill out for tonight, look at other dresses online, and make an appointment to see the other dress for the weekend. Then you'll have some time to look around and make sure that there isn't something out there BETTER than your original or this new one that caught your eye!
Good luck!
i think u do what U want. It your day and u wana feel beatiful. I would not listen to anyone else, there is not a nother shot, this is your day for a life time. 1500 its good price i think, or if u wana save some money buy pre owned gown, just furgot about replicas from ebay,i learn my lesson.
I agree with you ladies and seriously, thank you so much for your insight. I take everything in and it gives me a new perspective. I guess the reason I am feeling so much panic is because any dress shop I went into told me I would have to order my dress by mid-to late Feb and here it is almost the halfway through March, bc I need 6 months to get my dress in and you arent suppose to count your wedding month bc of alterations. Is that not an accurate time line?
@sanmon- I dont think that dress is a replica, the tags are still attached. I agree that you only get one shot at this and I was just telling my FI the same thing. I would also definitely be selling any dress I bought after the wedding to help build the savings back up. Sorry to hear you had such bad luck with replicas tho =( that is never a fun feeling!
Time lines vary from store to store - one will say 10 months before your wedding, some six and others only two. It depends on where they stock their dresses. I ordered my dress in Oct for my August wedding and it arrived begining of Feb, so now its just sitting there.
I think as you can try on the dress before you buy what have you got to lose, give it a go. Alternativly is stick by my other comment of taking a few days and trying loads on.
Keep me informed i would love to know how you get on :)
I bought my dress from ebay, but that's only because I actually tried on the same dres in the store and I fell in love with it but just couldn't afford a new dress.
The ebay seller actually was the same size as me in street clothes so I was pretty confident that it would fit me. Plus, it was a maggie sottero dress so it had the lace up in the back so I know I had some wiggle room with the size. The ebay seller used it for her wedding and she only wore it for a few hours and then got it professionally cleaned afterwards.
I'm so sorry that happened to you, but try to be calm. You still have good timing...I have not ordered my dress yet. I say look around at other shops and see if you find anything.
@sara - I have decided to wait it out a little bit and let myself calm down and not make any rash decisions, I do that a lot. We are also busy with moving this weekend so that forces me to put it off until the following weekend which is a good thing. I will surely keep you guys posted. thanks again!
7 months is plenty of time, don't panic. When stores tell you 9-12 months they're 1) trying to rush you into making a decision, 2) covering their behinds, 3) taking precaution against something unforeseen, like the store closing! I doubt that lightning will strike twice in your case so you should be able to order a new dress with no problem :)
If you get to try on the eBay dress and you love it go for it, but otherwise no need to feel guilty about going after (again!) your original dress. $1500 is not that expensive and it is well warranted for a big occasion as your wedding.
Thanks again ladies! I feel a lot better, especially about the time line. I may take @yrret107 up on her suggestion on finding the dress in a store and trying it on. It is a pretty popular designer but I think it is from a few seasons ago so it may be hard to find. As for the $$ of the dress, that is a price that FI and I do truly feel comfortable with but it would be awesome to find a cheaper dress and have some extra money elsewhere...(ring perhaps? =) hehe)
aw, you have plenty of time! Just keep browsing. Trust me, I did the whole "I found a dress and it's too expensive so let me buy this one that's 1/3rd of the price"... i'm selling that cheaper one now. Don't make my mistake!!!
I don't think you should feel guilty for loving your $1500 dress, or take the store closing as a "sign" that you need to be more frugal. If you love the dress, and can afford it, then it's the one for you.
I'm sorry this happened!
@Labor - Ugh I am sorry to hear about that, I was worried for the longest time I would be a 2 dress bride because I am so indecisive and sometimes my frugality rears its ugly head and gets the best of me. I truly hope you sell your dress soon!
@Chillmer - I agree with you and I dont feel guilty about it, maybe just every once in awhile when my mom makes those little comments but the FI is completely okay with it and his feelings are "at least you didnt fall in love with a 7k dress" which is true because he is terrible about giving me what I want, I am actually the that is usually telling him I dont need it.
And Thanks for the advice, as mentioned I take it all in and it helps me look at things in a different perspective, which we all need sometimes.
While I DO believe in signs and for me it would give me the back out to get a cheaper dress; I say it's your call. If YOU love the Dress and you CAN afford it and still want it; order it again. It's all in what YOU want. Everyone has a different perspective on the dress. Some think it's the most important aspect and some don't. Some are willing to spend the money and some aren't. Thats why your always (unfortunatly) going to get mixed opinions on this. But I think everyone can agree that you have to LOVE your dress no matter what the cost! Since the cost doesn't seam to be an issue as far as "budget" goes; or for you u and your FI; I say go with what you Love.
I ordered my dress in April last year for an OCtober wedding. It was in in, in July. It was a Casablanca. No rush fees were involved.
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As I fight the pouring rain to go out to my mailbox today, I see a letter from the salon that I ordered my dress from. The letter informed me that the store was closing and enclosed I would find a check for the amount I had paid to order my dress. I wanted to cry! They could have at least called me!!! =( I called and the line has already been disconnected. I am super grateful that I got my money back from them because have heard of some that dont but I am still sad. My FI said just find another store that sells the same line of dresses and that was my initial reaction and that I need to do it asap, but my mom seems to think its a way of telling me I dont need a $1500 dress lol And then my frugality got the best of me and now I just dont know (dang you mom) I browsed e-bay for a bit and found a dress I cant stop starting out but I still love my original dress so much. This dress is listed at a phenomenal price...so what do I do hive!?!? I can't do anything at all about ordering my original dress today because I would have to drive 2 hours away and my daughter will be home in a couple of hours and FI said maybe thats a good thing because I am "the most picky, precise OCD person" he knows (exact words) and that sleeping on this would be a good thing. Well my mind runs like a mad man on a treadmill when I cant solve a problem them and there, I am super impatient (poor FI, he is so good for putting up with me) I have posted a pic of the "other woman"