i just got my wedding dress today! YAAY! its beaaaautiful (renella defina), buut, its reaaally tight! i got it at a trunk show, so they "customized it to my body" -- exceept its a little loose from above the bust (you can kind of see down), the below bust down to hips is too snug, and its too long.
the big problem is that i can't really take a good normal breath...although, i have to say it looks awesome and really well fitted..... do people usually have the wedding dress that "snug" or should i loosen it to feel more comfortable? i think back to prior bridesmaid dresses that i have had altered by seamstresses to fit my body and they have all been that snug/tight (where i can't take a deep breath), so i'm thinking thats how it should be? i think i've gained like 2 or 3 pounds since i bought the dress and to be honest, there's not that much fat around my rib cage..i don't feel like i can lose much more weight to fit into it..
I think you should try to do what you can to get the dress to fit because although it may be only a few hours, it will seem like an eternity in a dress that's super tight. How are you going to sit down? Use the restroom? Dance? Just think of those things that you would like to do which your dress may restrict you from doing. Good luck!!!
I think you will lose one pound the day before your wedding but I would definitely get someone to take it out just a bit, no matter what they can find a little bit in the seams. I am used to wearing ultra tight clothes because I work as a model but once in a while...without rhyme or reason..I start hyperventilating! Its one thing to get wardrobe to unzip me and fan my neck while I catch my breath but NOT on my wedding day-NO WAY!
thanks for the replies so far! i'm concerned whether the seamstress can even let out the seams without messing up the look of the dress since its lace/silk underneath with a ribbon sewn to the waist and well-fitted already..
***have any of you had success or horror stories from having the dress "let out"?
(i have to say i'm surprised they made the dress so tight, rather than making it slightly looser, allowing me the opportunity to take it in...)
This is such a simple task for anyone who does dress alterations, the only time you are going to have trouble is if someone doesnt even know how to adjust the tension of their machine--which could still be fixed. Stop trying it on! so that you dont stretch the fabric where the side seams are. And stop worrying! I am surprised they made it that tight as well--I think its funny that you called yourself puffykins!
This is such a simple task for anyone who does dress alterations, the only time you are going to have trouble is if someone doesnt even know how to adjust the tension of their machine--which could still be fixed. Stop trying it on! so that you dont stretch the fabric where the side seams are. And stop worrying! I am surprised they made it that tight as well--I think its funny that you called yourself puffykins!
This happened to me, too - trunk show, fit fine ordered it, came in way too tight, had only gained two pounds and certainly not in my ribcage. My measurements were exactly the same, too! I was so, so, so upset.
I had moved in the meantime, so I found the local dress shop that sold my gown. I explained to them the situation and asked them for a recommendation about where to go. They recommended a fantastic seamstress who, frankly, saved the day. Look for a seamstress with lots of experience who can look at the problem and within a minute figure out how to fix it. If he or she hems or haws, seems uncomfortable, or doesn't problem-solve ("I can move this seam an inch and get fabric here..."), trust your gut and move on.
My alterations were pricey, no doubt. But at that point, I needed to be able to be comfortable in my dress, so I just didn't worry about it. I took some money from another pot, decided to make my own veil instead of buy one, and there you go. Problem solved!
My dress is pretty snug through the ribcage, although it's a corset-back style so that's adjustable. Maybe you could have your seamstress do something like that, which wouldn't involve touching the side seams, and it could give you a little extra breathing room.
You don't say anything about the style of the bodice - if it's strapless, it is the area below the bust that essentially holds the dress up - and if there is boning in the bodice, it will feel really different than a normal dress (more restrictive). The very top is sometimes quite loose, as you have less of a tendency towards unsightly bulging around the top of the dress that way.
I second that you need to try it on with your undergarments of choice; they may make a big difference one way or another. Maybe this is part of the problem? When you were measured before, did you have the same undergarments? And I also find that the Spanx tend to give you some extra room in the dress (kind of like the difference between wearing a dress shoe with bare feet and wearing the same shoe with nylons). I would definately pin down the underwear issue before you do anything, as without that a seamstress is not going to be able to get the fit right for you. But you should definately be able to breathe!! Good luck!
i just got my wedding dress today! YAAY! its beaaaautiful (renella defina), buut, its reaaally tight! i got it at a trunk show, so they "customized it to my body" -- exceept its a little loose from above the bust (you can kind of see down), the below bust down to hips is too snug, and its too long.
the big problem is that i can't really take a good normal breath...although, i have to say it looks awesome and really well fitted..... do people usually have the wedding dress that "snug" or should i loosen it to feel more comfortable? i think back to prior bridesmaid dresses that i have had altered by seamstresses to fit my body and they have all been that snug/tight (where i can't take a deep breath), so i'm thinking thats how it should be? i think i've gained like 2 or 3 pounds since i bought the dress and to be honest, there's not that much fat around my rib cage..i don't feel like i can lose much more weight to fit into it..
what do you all think?
posted by puffykins Worker bee: 86 posts 6 months agoI think you should try to do what you can to get the dress to fit because although it may be only a few hours, it will seem like an eternity in a dress that's super tight. How are you going to sit down? Use the restroom? Dance? Just think of those things that you would like to do which your dress may restrict you from doing. Good luck!!!
posted by MsVanessa Newbee: 23 posts 6 months agoI think you will lose one pound the day before your wedding but I would definitely get someone to take it out just a bit, no matter what they can find a little bit in the seams. I am used to wearing ultra tight clothes because I work as a model but once in a while...without rhyme or reason..I start hyperventilating! Its one thing to get wardrobe to unzip me and fan my neck while I catch my breath but NOT on my wedding day-NO WAY!
posted by ju1244 Helper bee: 254 posts 6 months agothanks for the replies so far! i'm concerned whether the seamstress can even let out the seams without messing up the look of the dress since its lace/silk underneath with a ribbon sewn to the waist and well-fitted already..
***have any of you had success or horror stories from having the dress "let out"?
(i have to say i'm surprised they made the dress so tight, rather than making it slightly looser, allowing me the opportunity to take it in...)
posted by puffykins Worker bee: 86 posts 6 months agoThis is such a simple task for anyone who does dress alterations, the only time you are going to have trouble is if someone doesnt even know how to adjust the tension of their machine--which could still be fixed. Stop trying it on! so that you dont stretch the fabric where the side seams are. And stop worrying! I am surprised they made it that tight as well--I think its funny that you called yourself puffykins!
posted by ju1244 Helper bee: 254 posts 6 months agoThis is such a simple task for anyone who does dress alterations, the only time you are going to have trouble is if someone doesnt even know how to adjust the tension of their machine--which could still be fixed. Stop trying it on! so that you dont stretch the fabric where the side seams are. And stop worrying! I am surprised they made it that tight as well--I think its funny that you called yourself puffykins!
posted by ju1244 Helper bee: 254 posts 6 months agoHave you tried it on with a long-line bra or spanx? The Spanx actually suck me in so clothes fit looser.
posted by vyeta7 Helper bee: 221 posts 6 months agoThis happened to me, too - trunk show, fit fine ordered it, came in way too tight, had only gained two pounds and certainly not in my ribcage. My measurements were exactly the same, too! I was so, so, so upset.
I had moved in the meantime, so I found the local dress shop that sold my gown. I explained to them the situation and asked them for a recommendation about where to go. They recommended a fantastic seamstress who, frankly, saved the day. Look for a seamstress with lots of experience who can look at the problem and within a minute figure out how to fix it. If he or she hems or haws, seems uncomfortable, or doesn't problem-solve ("I can move this seam an inch and get fabric here..."), trust your gut and move on.
My alterations were pricey, no doubt. But at that point, I needed to be able to be comfortable in my dress, so I just didn't worry about it. I took some money from another pot, decided to make my own veil instead of buy one, and there you go. Problem solved!
Spanx also help :-)
posted by JuneBride Newbee: 13 posts 6 months agoI agree with june bride - a great seamstress can work wonders as can spanx! Good luck!
posted by kpenn Worker bee: 60 posts 6 months agoI had my dress let out slightly in the hips, and had great success. (And the Spanx helped too...)
posted by dahlia Helper bee: 406 posts 6 months agoMy dress is pretty snug through the ribcage, although it's a corset-back style so that's adjustable. Maybe you could have your seamstress do something like that, which wouldn't involve touching the side seams, and it could give you a little extra breathing room.
You don't say anything about the style of the bodice - if it's strapless, it is the area below the bust that essentially holds the dress up - and if there is boning in the bodice, it will feel really different than a normal dress (more restrictive). The very top is sometimes quite loose, as you have less of a tendency towards unsightly bulging around the top of the dress that way.
I second that you need to try it on with your undergarments of choice; they may make a big difference one way or another. Maybe this is part of the problem? When you were measured before, did you have the same undergarments? And I also find that the Spanx tend to give you some extra room in the dress (kind of like the difference between wearing a dress shoe with bare feet and wearing the same shoe with nylons). I would definately pin down the underwear issue before you do anything, as without that a seamstress is not going to be able to get the fit right for you. But you should definately be able to breathe!! Good luck!
posted by suzanno Bumble bee: 2,425 posts 6 months ago