Dress too small – help!

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Are adult diapers an option??

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

July10:  She is your sister and will probably be the ONLY bridesmaid that will stick around from the beginning of your marriage till it’s end. If she wants to wear shapewear then she shoud probably stick a pad on to catch any possibly accidents. If she doesn’t want to wear shapewear let everything stay as is because I am sure the dress will hold (assuming that it is good quality). 

I am sure this whole situation is embarrasing so just stop and listen to her. Let her give you opinions/options instead of you giving them to her. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Just put her in a different dress, if she’s the “chief bridesmaid/maid of honor” nobody will think twice.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

July10:  I agree with soy, a different dress sounds like your best option right now. She’s your MOH so it won’t look silly at all I think. Maybe a similar style dress in a slightly different shade of pink or your other wedding colour if you have more than one? There’s really no point in torturing your sister with tiny shapewear and making it impossible for her to enjoy your wedding because she’ll be looking for the loo all the time. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I truly don’t think you can ask an adult to wear incontinence pads just because they can’t squeeze themselves into their dress! However, I do think she was silly to commit herself to getting a dress that was always likely to be too small. If it is as tight as you describe, the likelihood is that the dress will split long before the end of the day which is going to cause huge problems too.

I’d really consider hitting the shops as soon as possible and getting her a different dress that does fit. That way she’ll look nice, feel comfortable and you won’t have to worry about “wardrobe malfunctions”!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Putting her in a different dress will have zero impact on you or your wedding. Continuing to humiliate your sister and/ or kicking her out of your wedding will quite possibly ruin your relationship with her forever. 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Get a different dress ASAP. I don’t think a too tight dress, too tight shapewear or kicking her out of your wedding party are viable options. You probably don’t want to ruin your relationship with your sister over a dress, and her dress ripping/her wetting herself would look much worse than a different dress.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Why not buy a dress that compliments the bridesmaids dresses?  My MOH wore a dress that was the same shade, different style.  I would at the very least consider that.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Just go to the store and pick out a different dress for her.  A pale pink dress, or even a different shade would work…. The MOH is often in a different dress than the regular bridesmaids.

Potentially Putting your sister through the humiliation of wetting herself is absolutely cruel.  And making her wear a too tight dress that might split is just humiliating.  Be the bigger person here and show your sister that she matters more to you than some silly wedding photos and let her wear a different dress.

what is the dress?? I’m sure the bees can be helpful in locating an off-the-rack dress that would be similar or complement it well.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

July10:  Liquid diet starting NOW.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I agree with getting a different dress that coordinates. Lots of people have the MOH in a different dress and it would look fine.

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

This is why you NEVER order clothes in an “aspirational” size!

Just put her in a different dress- the original is clearly not going to work.

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

July10:  The MOH is allowed to stand out from the rest of the BMs. Do you have another accent color? Can she get a dress in your other color from a department store maybe?

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