Post # 1
So my FI and I are starting to look at dresses for our wedding in May of next year! After months of contemplating I finally decided that I will wear a dress too. Now that i have finally decided this I told my FI i do NOT want to see her dress because i want the sudden breath-taking, world stops turning, amazing experience of seeing my bride for the first time. the only problem with this is that we don’t want to have clashing dresses… any suggestions for how to handle this situation or am i being silly about not wanting to see her dress?
Post # 3
i don’t clashing dresses should be a problem. a friend bought her dress after her partner bought hers. they didn’t see each others dresses until the day of. they chose very complimentary dresses maybe because the two of them compliment each other.
Post # 4
I agree with the PP; however, if you ar concerned could you go to the same store/salon and work with the same person. If you both went together and met with the person first and told them the situation maybe they could help when you each went on your own to pick out the dresses.
Post # 5
The only issue that I forsee is the colors clashing. If one of you wears a whiter dress, it might look the other one’s yellowish. Other than that, I think they will look great together no matter what
Post # 6
I think it’s great you want to be surprised! Totally understandable 🙂
Post # 7
They did a couple on SYTTD where they did not want to see each other’s dresses. Both tried on dresses in the store at the same time with different consultants who were aware of making them coordinate and the same shade of white ect. Maybe you two could decide on a fabric and designer together? That way the shades will match perfectly. Or you can both wear matching sashes with nonidentical dresses, that will make them look purposefully put together.
Post # 8
Have a mutual friend help.
Post # 9
I think it’s totally normal to want to keep the dresses a surprise, and I don’t think you have to worry about the dresses clashing. Take a look at the Dress + Dress section of A Bicycle Built For Two. You can see that some couples obviously matched their dresses and others did not. Both ways look great!
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House
I posted a blog about this. I think that its safe to just stick with the same color. My FI’s dress is a Mori Lee Ivory dress and mine is a Maggie Sottero Diamond White dress. So we chose similar colors. But really, really different dresses!
I think the fact that they are two wedding dresses is enough to keep it looking “together”!
Post # 11
You don’t want to lay down too many “rules” because you want your dresses to reflect your own individual personalities – so I would say agree on a color and just let it fly from there.
Post # 12
I’d say use the same color and style and try to get a friend to help. FI and I wanted to make sure we coordinated instead of clash so we did go together, but we did end up chosing complimentary gowns.
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2012 - Boulevard Brewery
We were a bit concerned about clashing colors (though we are not a 2 dress couple). I had my dress before Sweetie Scone went in to select her suit so I sent her in with a detachable part of my dress that I won’t be wearing. The tailor made sure the colors match. We are excited to do a first look though!
Agree with PP’s on ideas to coordinate! Good luck!
Post # 14
@LittleRiver: I love this site. I can look at the gorgeous pics for hours!!
Post # 15
i definitely agree that you could have a friend or sibling go with both of you to ensure that they coordinate – i kind of like when the dresses are a bit different from each other (you don’t want to look like you got the same dress!) 🙂 but i agree that the same color/shade – might be important.
FW and I saw and INCREDIBLE (like WOAH out of our budget – haha) two lady wedding that had a bride in black and one in white and we LOVED the look and FW said she wanted to wear black -so another option could be to wear a “color” if one of you would like to do something like that (some people think black is a super bad idea, so I am not saying that color, but just any color) good luck! you are both going to be breathtakingly beautiful!
edit: i was going to post a picture from the photogs blog, but i felt kind of weird since i don’t know them! 🙂
Post # 16
@MissKabers: Would you post a link? I’d love to see how that looks! Sounds amazing!