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    Birdie Love    May 7, 2011   CA

    As some of you may or may not know, but I wore Jenna by Maggie Sottero for our wedding yesterday.
    Now, I'm not a tiny gal(5'6 size 12), but one of the things I like about my dress, especially when laced at the dress shop, was it really locked me in an showe off my small
    waist.
    I'm looking at photos from my fittings and I look pretty good. I'm seeing friend's photos from yesterday and I look AWFUL!!!
    I had a feeling something was wrong and my dress seemed a bit loose. I felt like my chest was falling out. My relative didn't lace me in properly! She kept saying that the sides of the dress in the corset were touching so she couldn't do more, but judging by past and present photos, she didn't do it right and the dress only got looser as the day progresses.
    I am sick with anxiety that the money I just shelled out for professional photos are going to look like crap because sadly, I was an ugly bride. I feel so awful and selfish that that is the only thing I can think of at the moment.
    You know people say every bride is beautiful? But every once in awhile you see a bride that just doesn't look so hot? Yeaaaaaa...that was me.
    I am so sad right now and feels like a major a-hole for that too.

     
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    sparkles_10    July 30, 2011  

    Awww, don't worry! Wait until you see your professional photos.  Friend snapshots at the wedding are never as nice (or flattering) as your photographers.  

     
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    Elarissa    June 18, 2011   Toronto

    Aw, I'm sorry. I'm sure its not as bad as you think. It could have just been an unflattering photo that you saw? Wait and see when the rest of the pictures come back. I bet you looked beautiful!

     
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    Miss Sardine    October 2012   Nebraska

    Usually when I see someones unpro pics they dont looks ANYTHING like what the pro pics show. I wouldnt worry about it, that why we pay photogs, they now how to take a good picture!

     
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    Loribeth    December 1, 2010   Michigan (Married in Savannah, GA)

    Congratulations on your marriage!!

    We're always far more critical of ourselves than others are.  When I look at my wedding pictures, I can pick out all kinds of things about myself that I wish looked better... DH looked great in all the pictures, but he can pick out things he doesn't like about himself in them also. I'm sure when you see the professional pictures, you'll be much happier.

    I hope you enjoyed your day, even if you don't like the pictures you've seen.

     
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    PurpleUnicorn    April 19, 2011  

    omg, i wore Jenna too and since i had no one with me at my fittings that were going to be at my wedding, i was super paranoid about this.  i even had someone videotape the seamstress lacing up the dress so i could show it to my BM who would lace up  my dress. and it helped, but i still didn't think it was tight enough either.  however, i also didnt realize this till we were walking around and my chest (that is very small) kept falling down out of the position i pushed up into (to fake cleavage, lol).  so i kept saying "it should just stay, i shouldnt have to keep fixing it", and we planned at some point to go tighten it, but never did.  in the end, i think it was because i was moving around a lot more than i ever did at my fittings.  so maybe that is the case with you too.  it may not have been as perfect as the fittings, but i am sure it cant be as bad as you think. plus the front of that dress is so stiff, i don't see how it could look out of place!

     
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    sorrycharlie    July 2011  

    aww I'm sure you look great! do you have a photo we could look at? sometimes we are more observant of small details like that on ourselves than other people. I bet you looked fantastic :)

     
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    noritake22    March 31, 2011   Seattle

    I am so sorry. I know just how you feel. My gown wasn't put on me correctly either. It should have been pulled up more. My planner was with me at the fittings, so she should have known something was wrong. She helped my girls hlep me into my gown, but no one said anything about the "boobies", so I thought I was fine. I was so scared and nervous about the ceremony that I didn't notice anything in the mirror. I tried later on in the day to get someone to help me get my gown undone and then redone up, but my planner said I was fine. Looking at a lot of my pictures just makes me ill. I am so embarrassed. Of the people that have seen the pictures, they have said that I look beautiful and that I am being too hard on myself, but I am not. I am not a young lady and I rarely, if ever, show any cleavage at all, so when I look at a lot of my pictures all I see are the girls.... I am very  sad over this, but what is done is done....

     
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    PurpleUnicorn    April 19, 2011  

    @noritake22:  aww i am sorry to  hear this.  i think we can probably start a support group on here on how our pics are not what we wanted for various reasons. i just started my own thread because of some major photo disappointments i had as well after getting my pictures back.   i wonder if you can photo shop some extra coverage into your photos?

     
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    sfchick    May 7, 2011   Los Angeles

    I agree about photoshop - there is a lot that can be done.

    If it makes you feel any better, I too got married over the weekend and had dress problems. Things got crazy and I got dressed too fast, putting on my waist cincher upside down - it bruised the top of my thighs during the ceremony and I almost fainted dancing to David Bowie b/c it started to slip "upward" -----by the time we got to the hotel, I could feel the boning b/c it was riding up inot my chest area.

    Lots can be done to save photos. Try to get some sleep and you might feel differently in the next few days :) Laughing

     
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    piglet_625    January 1, 1991  

    My dress didn't fit correctly on my wedding day either... :(

    I haven't seen enough of my pro photos to tell yet, but I was really uncomfortable most of the day.  My corset and slip seams/wrinkles were showing through, and the back of my dress kept slipping so the corset was peeking out. I think overall it *looked* ok, but my main memories are being super uncomfortable.

    My mom also kept running around and adjusting my dress while I was talking to guests or whatnot and that REALLY pissed me off and embarrassed me.  I'm really sorry that happened to you, but at least you're not alone!!

     
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    Birdie Love    May 7, 2011   CA

    @PurpleUnicorn: People kept telling me that no bra would be needed with the dress (don't know if one would have even worked with that style), but halfway through the day I felt like I was falling out! I was constantly adjusting my chest! My relative tightened the laces once, but was still only concentrating on the lower portion of the corset even though I kept saying it needed to be tighter across my back.

    Thank you bees for your kind words and for sharing your dress-stories too. I spoke with my friend who got married a couple of months ago about her dress. My friend is my height, but about 50 lighter and smaller bone structure. Lo and behold, she told me that she hated the way she looked in wedding photos and that a lot of unflattering shots were taken of her too. It does help to know that I am not alone in my experience!

    Over the past few days I have started seeing some better shots. I swear to gawd, why do people feel the need to post unflattering/bad photographs??? Do they think that every shot looks good or are they just excited to post a pic on FB???

     
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    Zinzerena    April 14, 2012   Virginia

    Ugh, yeah, most people do NOT know how to properly lace anything corset.  I'm lucky that almost ALL the girls who will be around me on our wedding day know how to lace a corset properly... mostly because they wear them frequently! But, alas, the gown I fell in love with is a zipper, NOT corset gown.  and I soooo wanted a corset.  ah, well.  

    So sorry you had to deal with that, and on your wedding day, too!!!!

     

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