Post # 1
Ok, so I have some concerns about people ‘overindulging’ themselves at our reception including some close family members. I was thinking that we could perhaps have a ‘limited bar’ that serves soda, bottled water, bottled beer and wine (no hard liquor unless they want to pay for it). My friend did this at her wedding and it worked out fine (I didn’t hear any complaints). My FI thinks that his friends should be allowed to drink whatever they want at the reception, but I just can’t get over this thought that some of our friends and someone very close in the family will be drunk as a skunk (past experience). Do you think it’s ok to have only soda & water, bottled beer & wine at the reception, or do you think it looks cheap and that we should have a full open bar with liquor… despite my concerns and fears? It’s also nice that it’s certainly less expensive to do it this way.
Post # 3
I have similar concerns… especially because of the costs! I am thinking I will just do beer and wine, and have 2 beverage tables with 2 drinks – one blue and one green (our colors) we will have a bunch already made in a pretty display on the tables, so people can take them if they want to drink liquor, but there won’t be an unlimited supply. I think this will be a nice setup with a beverage station table, I am going to have those big glass containers of iced tea, lemonade, fruit infused water and blue kool aid. It’s a cheap and easy way to have liquor and make the drinks fun for everyone.
Post # 4
To be quite honest… I don’t see how it will make a difference. If guests intend to get over-intoxicated, they will regardless. Having to pay has never stopped anyone at cash or limited bars I’ve been to.
I’d say if you can have an open bar and your guests would appreciate it (re: your guests will be drinking more than not), then do it and ask the bartender to kindly keep an eye on people who may possible get a little too loose. Bartenders should be keeping an eye on people anyway and stop serving if a guest has had enough
Post # 5
I agree with both sides. I have some alcoholic family members, one of which is wildly inappropriate when drunk, not to mention loud and obnoxious. We limited the alcohol at our wedding to just beer, since that’s what we drink and it’s a day time wedding. And we are providing things ourselves. But if it will be available either way, the guest just has to foot the bill to get liquor, they will. Or they’ll drink a lot of beer and wine and get wasted anyway. I think the best bet is to have the bartender watch out for those drinking a lot, and not worry about it too much.
Post # 6
I kinda have the same fears about some of my FI’s friends and family – and I don’t really want that kind of drunkeness at my wedding!
We’re doing the same as you – beer and wine, plus non-alcoholic drinks. We’re also having a bartender serve them so he can watch everyone and determine if someone needs to be cut-off or wait a while. Sad, but necessary. (Plus, we didn’t want to pay for liquor!)