drinks at rehearsal dinner

posted 4 years ago in Parties
  • poll: do we pay for everyone's drink at the rehearsal dinner
    yes : (27 votes)
    51 %
    no : (18 votes)
    34 %
    other, explain please : (8 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
    1941 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I would just let everyone know that the food is on you but if they would like an alcoholic beverage thats on them. Lots of places and people do this. I think it is fine! 

    Post # 5
    659 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @mrsztobee:  you could only offer beer and wine at the rehearsal dinner. That can help cut down costs. Or consider handing out drink tickets to limit drinking? Though I think if it comes to something like that, you might just want to shave a dry rehearsal. Another thing to think about is the rehearsal dinner is usually a couple hours and isn’t a time with lots of heavy drinking. 

    Maybe cutting the guest list? Rehearsals technically should only be those at the actual rehearsal… Though we’ve got a ton of people coming to ours so we’re not really following that rule…

    Post # 6
    1257 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We are paying for the first beer or glass of wine at our rehearsal dinner and then they have to pay for anything additional. 

    ETA: The venue for our rehearsal doesnt serve hard liquor. They just offer beer and wine.

    Post # 8
    2554 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @mrsztobee:  We went to a really nice restaurant (one glass of wine can be +$30) for our wedding reception. The menu stated something like “dinner and champagne toast will be served, cash bar available on request.” After dinner we noticed people hadnt gone crazy with the booze so we ended up paying for it all anyways. You could always just buy everybody a beer and then let them pay for the rest.

    Post # 11
    700 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We provided water, iced tea, coffee with cake, and a champagne toast, and everyone paid for their own drinks beyond that. I think it’s a perfectly acceptable solution. If people want something else, they can get their own drink.

    Post # 12
    1400 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @mrsztobee:  Provide whatever drinks you can afford. If that’s pitchers of water, soda & ice tea, that’s fine. If you can extend it to beer and/or wine, that’d be nice. I don’t think not providing alcohol for the rehearsal dinner is a big deal. Give the party you can afford.

    Post # 14
    297 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Asking everyone to pay for drinks at the rehearsal dinner is the same thing as having a cash bar at your wedding. Just don’t do it. FI’s sister got married last weekend and we all had to pay for our drinks at the rehearsal. Everyone commented how tacky it was.

    Post # 15
    11169 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I would work with the restaurant to select a limited menu for your guests that evening and then design and print menus specific only to your event that list the appetizer choices, salads, entrees, desserts, and beverages that will be available to your guests that evening.

    On those menus, simply include “iced tea, soda, and coffee” as the beverage choices available. 

    Post # 16
    634 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @mrsztobee:  I would have a set menu where alcohol isn’t written on the menu.  We are able to get away without having issues because the restaurant we are going to doesn’t serve alcohol.

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