Post # 1
So I’m not engaged yet (how’s that for full disclosure?) but the BF and I are pretty much set that we’re getting married and want a fall wedding. We’ve been waiting to get married for a little while so that we can save up enough money to pay for the whole wedding without accumulating any debt. Can it be done? That remains to be seen. I’ll do my best with the a little help from the Bees, though, that’s for sure!
My question for all you lovely ladies (and any gents who might be out there!) is how long is too long of a drive between the ceremony and reception sites? My BF and I are both big skiers, and there’s a mountain about an hour from the parish we’ll likely be married in. We haven’t started planning yet, but I mentioned the possibility to him today, along with the fact that it’s way more affordable than we could have imagined, and he actually got excited about it!
Is an hour too long for guests to drive to the reception? My mom says “yes.” I say “potentially, but is it a deal breaker?”
What say you, hive?
Post # 3
Personally I think any longer than 30-45 minutes is pushing it especially if you have alot of OOT people – if they stay by the resort they will have to drive to the ceremony and back. If they stay by the ceremony they will have to drive back to their hotel late at night. I will happily drive an hour to the venue if the ceremony and location is in the same place or very close together. That being said, if you think your friends and family wont mind, go for it! Or you can arrange transportation for them so they dont have to worry about driving.
Post # 4
I used to think so, but in the past few years I have been to three weddings where the ceremony was 45 minutes to an hour away from the reception. I live in a rural area and it wasn’t that big of a deal, but I know some of my college friends would have thought it was crazy.
Post # 5
I think it depends on your guest lists. If most guests are all locals to one of the two locations, they might not mind the drive so much. If most guests are OOT guests, they might not appreciate needing to drive to get to a different location. An hour doesn’t seem to bad, though.
Post # 6
Thanks, ladies! I really appreciate your feedback. Most of the guests would be closer to the ceremony location. We have a few OOT guests (almost all the likely groomsmen, actually), but not a ton. I really really really (like seriously, really) wish the mountain was closer to our house… it’s totally perfect for us and definitely affordable.
I know it probably doesn’t make sense to do this since we’re very budget-conscious, but would it be reasonable to provide a shuttle from the reception area to the ceremony and back? Or is that just a sign I should look elsewhere?
Post # 7
Think about how a timeline would work too. If your ceremony is in the evening or afternoon it could affect how much time you have. If people are hungry and ready for dinner and then have to drive an hour, they may not enjoy that. I think the shuttle or bus idea is good, especially since most guests are closer to the ceremony. You could have some great photo ops!