Driving myself insane… for no reason?

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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124 posts
Blushing bee

futuredoctorbee:  I think everything you’re describing is healthy, and I don’t see any reason to drive yourself insane (even when we can’t help it). I think taking a trip together doesn’t have an ulterior motive, but is more likely just something that he wants to do with you because he loves you and wants to make some memories with you. I would be excited and happy! Sounds like you’ve found a good fish!!

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Post # 3
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283 posts
Helper bee

My BF and I are very similar to youguys from your post. He used to talk hypothetically about getting married allll the time. Used to freak me out when we were younger. And he used to take me on a romantic trip every Christmas. But I will warn you, when it came time to actually walk the walk (we’ve been together over 4 years and met in middle school) he suddenly became the one who was unsure*. 

 I talked to my bf before moving in but I regret not doing it sooner. If I could do it over I’d have layed down expectations to be engaged about 4 months sooner so he would’ve had plenty of time to plan it BEFORE moving in. Then I wouldn’t be in the situation I’m in now (living together with a promise he will propose). So my advice would be to let him know you are uncomfortable living together without being engaged as soon as possible. Hopefully at least 6 months before plan on signing a lease so he has plenty of time to propose before then. 

*of course I don’t really know youguys and maybe this does not apply to your situation in which case disregard it 🙂 Good Luck!

Post # 4
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283 posts
Helper bee

futuredoctorbee:  

My BF and I are very similar to youguys from your post. He used to talk hypothetically about getting married allll the time. Used to freak me out when we were younger. And he used to take me on a romantic trip every Christmas. But I will warn you, when it came time to actually walk the walk (we’ve been together over 4 years and met in middle school) he suddenly became the one who was unsure*. 

 I talked to my bf before moving in but I regret not doing it sooner. If I could do it over I’d have layed down expectations to be engaged about 4 months sooner so he would’ve had plenty of time to plan it BEFORE moving in. Then I wouldn’t be in the situation I’m in now (living together with a promise he will propose). So my advice would be to let him know you are uncomfortable living together without being engaged as soon as possible. Hopefully at least 6 months before plan on signing a lease so he has plenty of time to propose before then. 

*of course I don’t really know youguys and maybe this does not apply to your situation in which case disregard it :)  Good Luck!

Post # 5
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375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

As a fellow 20 something in waiting, I have one word of advice. Breathe. <br />But if you don’t want to move in before getting engaged, let that be known. Thats what I did. My SO KNOWS that for me that is something I will not budge on. So he knew not to bring it up until he was ready to propose. He now has the ring in his possession and I’m just waiting for the proposal and we are looking for a place for him that I will be moving into in July 2015. But, seriously, the way you are describing the pace of the relationship, it sounds like there could be a proposal on the horizon. But, just enjoy the beautiful moments with your SO. Dont stress it. 

Post # 6
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2566 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

futuredoctorbee:  Don’t think about it! I know it’s hard… just enjoy things being extra special. You don’t want to over think things, such as expecting a proposal over a trip, and it not happening. Just enjoy that he’s so excited to have a future with you and see where time takes your relationship! 

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