(Closed) Dropping E-Ring Suggestions?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I love the Tiffany setting!  Good choice! 😉  (I’m biased as it’s my e-ring!)

If you want to drop a hint without pressuring him, take him ring shopping with you and try on some rings.  That way you can see what he can see what you like and you can see what he likes.

That’s exactly what I did with my FI before we got engaged.  We would go to a variety of stores and try on rings of all shapes and sizes and also to learn about diamonds from different places. 

I tried on the classic Tiffany setting and loved it instantly. But, I never told my now FI – but I guess he could tell the way I would stare at it.  At any rate, it turns out he loved it too.

And you are right about it coming from a gumball machine even, because when he proposed, I was so happy – I couldn’t careless what my e-ring looked liked or where it was from.  I was soooo excited! 🙂  The fact my FI picked out the ring I loved…it was just a bonus!

 

Hope this helps! 🙂

 

Good Luck!!!!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I know it’s not like this for everyone but the ring my fiance picked wouldn’t have been what I would have picked for myself, but it is “MY” ring. Not because it was given to me, but because he looked down at it and knew that, that ring was meant for me. I wear jewelry a lot, always have. The rings I have were more non traditional. But my engagement ring is a very traditional solitare. I love it and couldn’t imagine having any other. I was so happy to see my ring, it was is the ring of my dreams and I didn’t even know it. Maybe I feel this way because it came from him and his heart or maybe I’m some crazy sentimental fool but my main point is to trust your boyfriend. You’ve been together this long and he knows you. He’ll see a ring in a case somewhere and it will scream “RED BIRD” to him and that will be your ring.

 

However if you don’t want to go on the old faith system then mention “This ring I saw on the internet the other day that was so breath taking” and proceed to show him a picture.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Dropping hints can be sooo awkward, and many traditional guys don’t want to go ring shopping with you. (although, you really should go to see what looks good on you! It might be different than what you have in mind!) But I have a solution!! I recently told a girl on the Waiting board what I came up with after my guy and I decided our engagement and wedding plans.

Go ahead and go ring shopping — with your best girl friend! Then, let her tell your guy next time you’re all together (or even, through a text or facebook message) that when he’s ready to buy a ring, to give her a call! My future MOH told mine at his birthday party when we were discussing future plans, “You know, you really should let me know when you’re ready to get her a ring! You know I know what she likes!!” He seemed relieved at the idea and said, “Oh, I will for sure!” What guy wouldn’t want that kind of assurance?

This way, your friend can relay exactly what you want to your future FI, but he still can surprise you based on your choices. Win-win!

Post # 6
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Helper bee

littlemissmango, thats sounds so easy to pull off but I wonder if my guy wouldn’t think that I’ve put her up to it? He’s suspicious that way Wink

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Well, I set my ring as his background on his laptop!  But if you want to be more subtle, next time you are in the mall, go to Zales, Kays or even Macys and look at some bracelets and necklaces then rings.  But be VERY careful on what you say and only comment on a few.  For the winner, say “that takes my breath away!”

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

You’ve given tons of hints over the years without even knowing it. He’s in love with you and wants to spend his life with you, so has obviously taken note of your tastes and personal style. He probably already knows more than you think. Is he a good gift giver in general? (Does he consistently pick out things you enjoy that are just your style?) With a little probing from a good jewelry salesperson, he might get it just right with no further hints from you.

I decided to leave my e-ring choices totally up to my guy. He talked with a jeweler who asked questions to help him focus (What does she do for a living? What’s her personal style? What colors does she wear? etc.). The result? A ring more perfect than anything I could have hinted for! Good luck! It’s fun knowing that a proposal is just around the corner!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

You know, probably b/c you guys are both so traditional, and your ideal ring is the classic engagement ring, he’ll probably pick that out for you. Heck, even if someone would prefer a completely out there style, it’s hard to not like The Tiffany Ring.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@champagne wishes– lmao!!

@redbird– i think hints are overrated, personally. Give him guidelines– he’ll probably appreciate it! Something non-pushy like “I’m SO thrilled that you said you’re going to start shopping for a ring for me! I know it must be a little hard on you because I don’t wear much jewelry so I thought maybe we should talk quickly about what I really like and what I really don’t like? My favorite part about a ring is if it has a tiffany setting, and I really like xyz shapes. I don’t like abc shapes at all, and I’m not a fan of halo. I’m so excited to see what you pick out for me!!”

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I made a few comments about engagment rings that our friends and family had.  My SIL got a three stone but with a sapphire, so I commented about how much I loved her ring, but would prefer a diamond center stone if it were my ring.

I think jadeblue is right, that he probably has a good idea of what you like anyways, but if you have a specific preference of yellow gold/palladium /platinum/white gold you should just tell him.

I also think it would be a great idea (like littlemissmango suggested) to have a friend that knows what you want, in case your SO wants her help.  My husband took my mom to see the ring he was planning on getting once he had picked “the one.”

Good luck!!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

Im not going to lie.. when my husband told me he was going to go ring shopping.. I made a little post it note with things I liked in a ring.

ex.

prefer round cut

ring size 5 1/2

carat doesnt matter youre asking me to marry you!

 

& he actually took it with him and he STILL has it in his wallet a year and a month after weve been married!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

@justlikeheaven – that’s adorable!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

haha thanks Melissa.

I actually got everything I wanted too & more! =]

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I had the same situation and one day while we were shopping at a nearby mall I asked if we could go into the jewelry store to get my diamond earrings cleaned. While we were in there I lingered by the e-rings and pointed out a few I hated and a few I loved.

I also suggested that I didn’t want him to get too stresed out over picking the ‘right’ ring and if he wanted he could get a ‘loaner’ ring and they we could pick it out together.

Luckily he was paying attention and although my ring wasn’t my first pick it was a very close second. Him picking it out by himself makes me LOVE it even more!

Post # 16
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Busy bee

We had the ring discussion, and agreed it makes no sense to either of us to pick out someone else’s ring and expect them to wear it until they die without having any say in picking it out. Now if he could just go ahead and propose, then we could go shopping! I already have a store picked out to start at (hoping for a beautiful opal)!

But if your dream is for him to pick it without you, then I wish you the best. Here’s my cautionary tale: I once told a man I’d always wanted a gold heart-shaped locket. He got one without my input. It had this heavy chain (not very feminine) and was really plain…I hated it. I really had liked a MUCH cheaper one I’d seen at Target! He’d already had it engraved, so I was stuck with it. When our relationship ended, I had the engraving buffed out for $10 and sold it to the woman who’d most admired it (the secretary and my daughter’s school) for half of the purchase price. Paid off a bill and wasn’t stuck with the thing. Still wishing you the best!!! 

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