Post # 1
I post here daily, but I just couldn’t bring myself to post this under my normal username.
So… I was engaged, but am now single. It’s been hard, but I’ve gotten out there and met a few people. I recently moved to a new city to start school, so I’ve been trying to make friends. I met a few people at a new student orientation, and we went to one of the guy’s houses for a few drinks. At that time it was me and 4 guys drinking together. A few girls were suppose to come, but they decided to just meet us at the bar. I just had 2 beers at his house.
Around 10:30, we decide to take a cab to the bar. I felt completely normal, not even tipsy, and I remember ordering one drink, and that’s it until the next morning. I woke up on a couch at that guy’s house, but completely didn’t remember ANYTHING that happened at the bar. The guys woke up there too and joked about how I threw up in his roommate’s bedroom. WHAT? I don’t know who is roommate is. WHY WAS I IN HIS BEDROOM? I just got my purse and took a cab home immediately. I felt like crap all day Saturday (this happened Friday night), and I just slept all day.
One of the girls at the bar did text me the next day to see if I wanted to hang out again. Obviously I wasn’t up for it, but I asked her what happened, and she just said that we were all dancing and that I seemed to be having a good time. I mean, if someone put something in my drink, wouldn’t I have been acting funny?
I haven’t talked to anyone about it because I’m so embarrassed, but I’m almost positive something must have been slipped in my drink. I drink socially almost weekly, and there is NO WAY 3 beers leaves me blackout drunk. I’ve never blacked out even during my binge drinking days in college. And I am completely freaked out that I may have had sex with someone that night and don’t remember at all. I went and got the morning after pill, just in case, but I honestly don’t know whether I had sex or not. I have a physical scheduled 2 weeks from now, so I figured I can get tested for Save-The-Date Cards then, just in case. I feel so… I don’t know… violated? stupid? icky? I JUST moved here, and now a bunch of people in my grad school class must think that I’m “that girl.” The whole situation is just so horrible, and I’m embarrassed to show my face around here. I just don’t know how this happened.
Post # 3
I really think that something was in your drink. Black outs are very common with date rape drugs. I think you should consider talking to the police because that really doesn’t seem normal.
Post # 4
wow very sorry this happened to you. i know its a bit late now but for the future, going drinkin with a group of guys u just met may end in disaster.. and always guard ur drink.
Post # 5
Okay this is a little personal but it happened to me.
On my 18th birthday one of my ‘friends’ slipped something in my drink then took advantage of me. I woke up and had no idea what the hell happened the night before. I remembered the start of the night and that was it. It was very similar to what you are describing. A couple weeks later I missed my period then took a pregnancy test, tested postive even though I hadn’t been sexually active in months. I went to see a nurse and got tested for everything (luckilly it was all negative). Years later he admitted to doing it.
You need to go to a doctor. I don’t want to freak you out but if you don’t remember what happened I would assume the worst and be super careful just in case it did in fact happen. Just go to a doctor, tell them what happened and get their recommendations.
Lots of hugs
Post # 6
I’m really sorry. I think you can get a test to see if someone slipped date rape drug or something else in your drink…
But are you on medication? Did you happen to take Tylenol or Sudafed earlier in the day?
Post # 7
I agree with MissAsB. Nothing more to add, but I did want to send you ((hugs)) and remind you that, whatever happened, it was NOT your fault.
Post # 8
PS. Please don’t feel embarassed. It’s not your fault someone did this to you.
Post # 9
The same thing happened to me. I was at social club drinking night where they give you two drink tickets. I was on my first drink and the next thing I remember I am on the floor of the bathroom and 4 hours had passed. I was in the larger stall so no one saw me laying on the floor, by the time I gained consciousness, all I could do was call my Boyfriend or Best Friend at the time to come get me. I didn’t even know where I was, thankfully I had told him where I was going beforehand so he tried there first and found me standing in the valet line to get my car! Not sure why I thought I could drive, but I was sick for the next 24 hours and am convinced that someone slipped something in my drink. Scary experience that I was troubled by for quite awhile, luckily I know I hadn’t had sex but I wonder what would have happened if I hadn’t found my way to the bathroom.
Post # 10
I second MissAsB, you should report it to the police. Don’t feel guilty that you did anything wrong. When I was a Freshman one of my new girlfriends was assaulted at a senior party during frosh week. There were 20 people in the next room and we didn’t even know it happened. She was half passed out and terrified to make a noise or say anything. Please, please don’t blame yourself because some guys are pigs. I think you should also talk to a counsellor at your school if they have them available. Take care of yourself! We’re here for you!
Post # 11
Whatever did or did not happen is Not. Your. Fault.
A similar thing happened to me a few years ago on New Year’s Eve. I was at a club and had two drinks. I went to the bathroom, passed out on the floor, and ended up being taken to the emergency room. I spent the night at a friend’s house, and the next day, I felt so awful that I vomited as I was getting into my car to drive home.
If you aren’t on any other medications that could react strangely with alcohol, I’m in MissAsB‘s camp – it sounds like something was added to your drink. If it’s been a few days, the police won’t be able to do a rape kit. But you still might want to talk to them, or see if your physical can be done sooner.
I’m so sorry this happened to you.
Post # 12
I guess I should explain why I asked about the Tylenol and Sudafed.
A few years ago, I had a sinus infection and took Tyleonol cold and sinus. That night, I went to a friend’s apartment to pre-game before a law school function. I was with my long-term bf (now FI) and a few other good friends that I’d known for at least 1.5 years.
I don’t remember anything about the night, and was told that I threw up on my friend (in public, sitting right at the table with other people). I definitely hadn’t drank enough to get me black out drunk like this. I don’t think my Fiance or my other good friends would have drugged me . . . the only thing I can connect it to is the Tylenol… and I’ve heard it is hard for your liver to process alcohol on this.
Post # 13
First, I’m so sorry that this happened to you. It sounds really scary and confusing, and not knowing what happened is scary too.
Second, if someone did put something in your drink, that is a huge violation of your safety and health, whether they touched you later or not. It is not your fault, and you shouldn’t feel embarrassed about it, although I can see why that might be a natural reacton to blame yourself. 🙁 But blaming yourself is not right!
Third, I would really recommend going to see a doc or nurse before your physical in two weeks. If you call a Planned Parenthood, if you have one in your area, and tell them what happened they can get you in probably asap. I think they could be a good resource to talk to what happened and maybe run STI tests on you too.
If that’s not an option or you decide to wait for your physical in 2 weeks instead, I would even consider visiting your crisis counseling center at your college or university. This is worth talking to a professional about, and I don’t think it’s something you should have to deal with yourself or even with the bee (although this is a start).
Post # 14
First of all, I applaud your courage for sharing your story and for coming here to look for advice.
You gotta listen to your gut instincts on this one. I would call your doctor and get an appointment sooner and explain that it’s an emergency. Don’t be embarrassed, healthcare professionals are trained to deal with this, they really are and they are there for you.
Side note- Are you on any antibiotics or other prescription meds? You don’t have to answer that here but some of them interact TERRIBLY with alcohol (trust me, I know) and it can hit you like a ton of bricks.
I’m sure noone thinks of you as “that girl”. Everyone has had what we’ll call “wilder” nights at the bar and as that other girl has already told you, you didn’t stick out. I would take her up on her invite to hang out, she might know something or know the guys or at the very least, be a new friend in your new city.
Above all, don’t be embarrassed to go to a doctor. I promise you that will treat you with dignity and respect and be your advocate. But you need to go sooner than later.
Post # 15
I’m so sorry this happened.
Post # 16
I also agree with jduck about talking to a professional as well. I still have some pretty major emotional issues springing from my incident and it’s been 7 years. If you ever need to chat to someone, please don’t hesitate to pm me 🙂