Post # 1
So in the name of keeping the peace with my parents because they are paying most of the bill for the wedding…
The reception is going to be dry.
It is booked from whenever the ceremony ends (all in one location venue) roughly 4:40-9:00
The groom and I are planning to depart at 8:30
There will be hors d’oeuvres being served from whenever people arrive in the reception area until the photographs are finished, we are hoping around 5:45ish.
Salads will be served when we arrive
dinner served after salads are completed and cleared.
We will be severed first so after our dinner is eaten we will be walking around and greeting guests..ect.
After the last plate is cleared the servers are bringing each guest sparkling cider
The head table is getting champagne though, anyway and we will be doing toasts at that time.
We are planning to also have the flower and garter toss
our first dance
and the shoe game.
Is there going to be too much down time?? We know there is not a ton of time for dancing, and since there is not going to be booze we did not bother paying for a DJ since, we doubt anyone dances short of our first dance.
But now I am getting worried that there is going to be akward down time?
1. Do you think there will be?
2.If so what are your suggested remedies?
Post # 3
Why wouldn’t anyone else dance? I think a lot of couples go to weddings wanting to dance a few romantic songs together.
Post # 4
I always expect dancing, and all the weddings I’ve gone to in the past I haven’t drunk at. You dont’ need to hire a DJ, try asking a friend to help out or worse comes to worse plug in an ipod to a speaker.
Post # 5
Are you warning guests that it is dry?
Post # 6
@PinkMagnolia: my baptist parents highjacked the guest list, most attendees will be hard core non dancers.
It’s not that all guests won’t but I feel like thepresence of the others will stiffle the mood.
@danicalifornia: As far as music we are doing that =]
Post # 7
@bridenj12: those that would not faint at that thought that it wouldn’t be..yes.
but it’s not like we put it on the invitations.
Post # 8
aww this sounds awful. It is possible you and your Fi can host an after party and cover a few rounds for your friends. It nice they are paying for it, but it sucks that they are hosting a wedding that sounds like it more for them rather then you and your Fi. I never been to a wedding like that so I wouldn’t know. However with some weddings the dancing doesn’t start until after nine or even ten so I don’t think it will be a lot of down time.
Post # 9
@TwoCityBride: We are actually planning an after party for our friends…
and yes, my parents like to use the fact that they are paying as a power tool. So I just said forget it, we want to buy a house and get married soon rather than waiting to save money to throw our own, so I’m just going with it.
Post # 10
I’ve always kinda wondered what non dancing, non drinking baptists do at weddings.
What about wedding games? Like the one where the bride and groom hold up their shoe when people ask questions?
Post # 11
We are having an early afternoon “dry” reception, followed by an after party-with alcohol, at our home. That was our compromise. Our reception hall is connected to the church, which does not allow alcohol. We are going to have a little dancing, mainly just our first dance and all the mandatory traditionals, but we are planning some other things, too. We put together a sort of Wedding Guest Bingo/Scavenger hunt. This was our icebreaker for guests to get to know each other. At the top of the sheet is instructions to find the corresponding guest and get them to initial the box. The first one with a completed sheet wins a price. Some of the boxes are
Find the Guest who ….
Is a Roller Derby Queen
Is a WWII Veteran
Was born in Argentina
Has been married for more than 50 years
Attended University of Nebraska
Has the middle name “Louise”
Has a blackbelt in karate
Appeared on Jeopardy
Has more than 5 children
Travelled more than 300 miles to be here
etc… you get the picture.
We are also doing a version of the Newlywed game with 3 generations of couples. I think that should be very fun, and entertaining.
We are also putting out wedding mad-libs for people to fill out, we figure if things get boring we can pull them out and read them.
Post # 12
Ah, so your parents & their friends are the “no dancing” baptists? I think an after party is a fab idea, you could just go storm a club together. You’re wedding is so early I think this would work out well. Maybe you & your friends could even leave earlier to go to the “real” party haha.
Post # 13
@PinkMagnolia: Well we are planning to play that I thought I mentioned that …but i may not have….but yes we are planning that =]
Post # 14
My FI’s family don’t drink and don’t dance, my side does. What we did is make sure there were a lot of tables and chairs, so that people can sit down and chat and we’re also having a hot drinks station so that people who don’t drink can get tea and coffee if they want. We also have lawn games set up in a different area of our (outdoor) venue than the dancing so people can go and play croquet or whatever if they want to get away from the dancing, depending on your venue you could come up with a non-dancing activity like that.
However it sounds like your wedding just won’t be the sort of party you enjoy, I don’t drink or dance so I’m glad a lot of my geusts don’t either with you it sounds like this is the sort of party your parents throw, not you. If this was the way your grew up think of what if anything made get together’s fun for you when you were younger if you had to go to a lot of dry events.
Post # 15
Just went to a wedding this weekend that was like this. No alcohol and no dancing and it was fine. Like you and other mentioned there was an after party we went to which was fun. I don’t think you need to explain to anyone about the no alcohol or dancing the day is about you and your groom.
That being said although my Fiance and I are having dancing at our wedding there isn’t going to be any alcohol (too expensive and I don’t want to deal with people who go overboard)
Post # 16
Think on the bright side of your parents hijacking the wedding list: older friends= bigger gifts 😉