Post # 1
Good morning Hive,
Looking for some advice on our upcoming wedding and our bridal party. We each have 2 (2 groomsmen and 2 bridesmaids). Our one groomsman’s wife’s due date is 1 week after our wedding. Our wedding is not local, it is 8 hours at least from our current home (and theirs too). Originally we didn’t think this could be an issue, but the more we sit on it, the more we think there is some massive potential for things to go sour.
Is it inappropriate for us to ask said groomsman to step down and take part as a reader so that we don’t scramble at the end? Thoughts?
Thanks for the help!
Post # 3
Don’t replace him. First of all, it is saying to him that he isn’t good enough to be there anymore, and the person you ask to step up will feel like, well, a replacement.
If he can make it to the wedding, that’s wonderful. If he can’t, leave him in the program, carry on with uneven sides (I promise, it won’t make your marraige invalid) and maybe say a little something or pass along via word of mouth that “as much as so-and-so would love to be here to celebrate with us, his wife is having a baby and we understand that he needs to be there for his new little one!”
Post # 4
Yes, it is inappropriate to ask him to step down. I mean, the worst thing that could happen is he doesn’t make it and you have uneven sides. And that’s no big deal really! =) If he doesn’t think he’ll make it or can’t commit – he’ll let you know. Also, if he decides to step down, please don’t replace him. It will only lead to hurt feelings, since all parties involved will probably feel replaceable.
Post # 5
I agree with the pp’s. The number of people who are in your wedding party is such an insignificant issue in the big picture.