Post # 1
It’s shark week in our household and last night DH and I got into a large fight about food/dinner that while overtly may be stupid I am stubbornly still upset at the principle of the thing.
Never the less to the casual observer him not choosing a place to pick up food may be one of the lamest reasons to fight and certainly not a big enough deal for me to get as upset as I did and not even close enough to being a good enough reason to sleep part of the night on the couch. I did, I did that too and to me it was absolutely a good enough reason.
We can’t possibly be the only ones that fight over seemingly dumb things. What is the silliest thing you and your DH/FI/SO fought over?
(PS after working on a food menu and spending my lunch shopping for the food and then going to the gym, coming home cleaning the house and prepping a million fruits/veggies and food for the week, doing three loads of laundry and sweeping the porch my agrument was he could at least pick and choose the place to grab food from considering it was his fault as he stayed out to have a drink with his boss. Must I do that too?)
Post # 3
Our biggest fight was pretty similar to your situation, and equally dumb.
Neither of us really like calling to order food/make reservations, if there is a restaurant we can order from or make a reservation online we usually pick that one. Two years ago we were going to order a pizza and you had to call the place. I always end up making the calls because FI flat out refuses to do it. I was tired of always having to do it, if I can suck it up and call so can he once and a while. We got into an absolute screaming match about it. So, so stupid to fight over!
Post # 4
We had a dumb fight that resulted us sleeping on our sides away from each other and not cuddling last night!
DH got a gift voucher for his birthday and when we were shopping I put it in the bag with things he had purchased. I didn’t tell him and he threw it away.
I now see that I should of told him that is what I did with it but last night I was all like “it’s your voucher, yourresponsibility to look after”.
I felt so mean this morning!
Post # 5
@Treejewel19: I think you were fighting about him being inconsiderate versus the fact that he didn’t choose a restaurant. There is usually a deeper issue that makes us fight about stupid things.
My husband and I agree on all the big things in life so all of our fights are about stupid things. I don’t think I’ve ever looked back and thought, “wow, that was so smart of me to argue about that.” Generally it happens when I am grumpy and picking at anything he does. Luckily he doesn’t play ball and just ignores me until it passes 😛
Post # 6
@MrsPanda99: I think you were fighting about him being inconsiderate versus the fact that he didn’t choose a restaurant. There is usually a deeper issue that makes us fight about stupid things.
And there it is, absolutely. That is exactly why I am still upset about it today versus being over it. We will definitely have to talk about it more tonight.
And yes overall the bigger things we are totally in agreement on but the smaller things that force him to be more considerate often leave us in a tizzy.
Post # 7
HE KEEPS POKING MY FREAKING TABLET SCREEN AND CLICKING ON THE FREAKING SIDE BAR ADVERTISEMENTS STOP IT DH YOU SUCK
Post # 8
We fight about towels. I have a body towel and a face towel. The body towel is blue. The face towel is yellow. I only own blue and yellow towels. When he’s at my place, I like him to respect my towel rules and use the blue towel for his body. IT HAS TAKEN HIM 3 YEARS TO REMEMBER THE COLOR CODING! I told him once we live together our bathroom is just having two towel racks. He will also leave his wet towel on the bed, making everything damp. For some reason he’s been way better about that since we’ve been engaged. Maybe he’s just being more serious about living together type things now that it’s definite. Or maybe because we’ve been long distance for most of our relationship it really has just taken 6 years for my preferences to sink in.
Post # 9
We got in a fight on Sunday night because I was annoyed that he didn’t assume I needed help with the groceries, and he was annoyed that I didn’t just ask. It was pretty ridiculous. That’s only the most recent of many totally ridiculous arguments.
Post # 10
@MsJ2theZ: Ha ha! That reminds me of the movie The Breakup. “I want you to want the dishes.” “Why would I want to do the dishes?” LOL
Post # 11
@Treejewel19: yup. I was mad before I even walked in the house that he didn’t come to the door. Frankly the guy couldn’t have won with me at that point lol!
Post # 12
The majority of our fights happen because one person gets mad at the other for something small, then that person gets mad at the other for being mad in the first place. It happens on both sides and by now we realize when it happens and we make jokes about it.
Post # 13
My DH works at a grocery store and I always ask him in the morning to grab me coffee creamer when I’m out. I hate going myself for 1 stupid thing and he always forgets by his lunch break. I literally remind him 5 more times when he’s back at work and everytime he claims he doesn’t “get my messages.” Then I get all huffy puffy about it and end up going myself and then he turns around and asks me to grab stuff for HIM!! I always do it but it drives me crazy… we fight about it a lot lol.
Post # 14
@Treejewel19: Silly fights are the WORST. SO and I used to fight about where to eat-I’ve started nipping that in the butt by being very assertive and specific. Last night, for example, I went with my SO to get a suit at the mall and it this place is right across from Ruby Tuesday. Totally not my fav place to eat AT ALL but it was there, easy, SO kept listing every single place to eat in the mall and finally I was just like ‘Wow I really want Ruby Tuesday all of the sudden’ hahaha even thought I didn’t really but it was better than starting ANOTHER arguement about where to eat-which usually ends with not eating out and making sandwiches at home (so not exciting!!).
We’ve also fought about the dogs. I like to take the dogs on loooong walks (one is a great dane mix), and he feels bad that I do it all the time so he will ‘take them out’. Which means he will put said dog on a leash, let him potty, bring him right back in (this dog needs excersie!!!!). So, instead, I’ve learned to compliment him on taking the dogs out (Thanks so much sweetie, you’re awesome!) and then later just walk them myself hahahaha. Much better than a 1 day or longer fight about who is right!!!
Post # 15
@BrandNewBride: +1 my SO does this for my S4 phone and my nook….so friggin annoying!! haha
Post # 16
My FI and I fight over the dumbest things, but like you said OP it’s usually the principal behind it that pisses me off! This morning FI and I got into a tiff because I saw that he was taking his uber expensive cannon camera with him out the door. When I asked why he was taking it he said that someone wanted to borrow it and that he was going to MAIL it to him. WTF?! That “someone” is a college freshmen kid who used to help him doing odd jobs during the summer, and now that he’s in school he has a school project and wanted to borrow FI’s camera — which my FI bought for US to use and it was VERY VERY expensive with all the lenses, etc. I got really upset because WHY is FI letting a college freshmen borrow the most expensive camera for a school project, especially when we are SO strapped for money and FI uses the camera for his job and if anything happened to it we would be royally screwed. On top of that this kid goes to school about 300+ miles away so FI will have to mail it to him, what if something happened?! The clincher is this kid’s father is RICH and is a multimillionaire, so his dad can easily buy his own son a frickin’ camera — WHY is he borrowing OURS?!
I am SO mad at FI and him being such an f*in’ dumbass. We are living paycheck to paycheck at the moment and in NO way can we replace that camera if something happened. When I expressed shock and displeasure it pissed FI off. I’m still really mad about it. FI grew up being spoiled by his rich older sisters and it drives me crazy because to him, he has no self discipline and thinks that whenever he needs something it will just magically appear.
Sometimes we fight over dumb stuff, but most of the time we fight because FI is the BIGGEST f*ing dumbass.