Post # 1
Am I meant to put guests names on invitations? If so how do I do it with online thingos? Or can I just put them on envelopes (outer invites seriously what’s up with me?!) I am totally blanking and have no idea…Help?!
Post # 3
Just the outside of the envelope (the outer) has their names and their address. If you do an inner you can put their names on that one as well. There is a bit of a format change inbetween but there are thousands of ettiquete articles on it to see the differences:
Post # 4
@suburbian: thank you! i am tethering from my mobile at the moment (one more week until internet is installed) and nothing with lots of pictures is loading (including most of the articles i was trying to read on them).
i am going into freak out mode because we set a date last night and i thought we would have much longer to actually plan our wedding.
Post # 5
@ms-valentine: I am getting married in August and we got engaged on NYE of this year. I started planning with less then 300 days to go. It has been a rush but I don’t think I would have it any other way. I mean could you imagine – some brides spend two years of their lives planning this and we only have to do it for a few months!
Nome notes: Stay organized in any way you can. I have about eight lists I use, a calandar I made and budget sheet in excel (all inside One-Note). I have heard the guest list planning option from the knot is very useful. I also used their website and I love it a lot! If I had the choice to do it all over again I would buy my invites off of Wedding Paper Divas and save in budget elsewhere. And most importantly, ‘Don’t sweat the small stuff’. If it is getting close to your date and you don’t have the ‘perfect’ earrings – go for a simple set of pearls or something. Most of the time the small details aren’t even noticed by guests anyways. Remember you are here to get married not put on an entertainment spectacle of the year. 🙂
Good luck and congratulations!
Post # 6
The most traditional invitations actually had the guests’ names included on the invitations themselves. However, you are fine writing guests’ names on the outer and inner envelopes, and many people these days do not even choose to use inner envelopes. I did, however, and am a strong advocate for their use.
The outer envelope, for example, should be in the format of “Mr. and Mrs. John Edward Doe,” or “Ms. Jane Emily Smith and Mr. John Doe” (married and wife kept her maiden name) or however an individual person or couple prefers to be addressed and with appropriate honorifics (Mr., Mrs., Miss, Doctor, The Reverend, The Honorable, etc.) The inner envelopes in these examples would be “Mr. and Mrs. Doe,” and “Ms. Smith and Mr. Doe,” respectively.
There are books with sections devoted to the proper manner for addressing correspondence, and some are very helpful.
Post # 7
Just adding on to the excellent post by @Brielle:
The Outer Envelope might say Mr & Mrs John Smith Senior and Family
While the Inner one could say… either
Mr & Mrs John Smith Sr and Family
John Sr & Mary, John Jr, Louise, and Sally
If you are particularly close…
Uncle John & Aunt Mary, John Jr, Louise, and Sally
The Inner Envelope tends to be less formal than the Outer
And if you were inviting a Single Guest and giving them a Plus One, then the Inner Envelope is where that would be noted.
Outer = Ms. Susan Greene
Inner = Susan Greene & Guest
In the event that there is NO Inner Envelope, then you have to spell out specifically who you wish to attend on the Outer Envelope, and that can be problematic / messy cause it can make for a very busy presentation considering Titles, Guest Name(s), Addresses, Mailing Info / Stamps etc.
Hope this helps,
Post # 8
@This Time Round: Thank you all so much for your information! It has helped so much. 🙂 I am much more chilled out I just had a massive freak out because I couldn’t load any articles on it!
Post # 9
@suburbian: i am with you on short engagements. we got engaged in february and getting married in october – 244 days total.
i could not imagine planning a wedding over the course of 1 year or more, it would drive me crazy.