Dumb question about invitations…

posted 3 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
1631 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Just the outside of the envelope (the outer) has their names and their address. If you do an inner you can put their names on that one as well. There is a bit of a format change inbetween but there are thousands of ettiquete articles on it to see the differences:

Post # 5
1631 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@ms-valentine:  I am getting married in August and we got engaged on NYE of this year. I started planning with less then 300 days to go. It has been a rush but I don’t think I would have it any other way. I mean could you imagine – some brides spend two years of their lives planning this and we only have to do it for a few months!

Nome notes: Stay organized in any way you can. I have about eight lists I use, a calandar I made and budget sheet in excel (all inside One-Note). I have heard the guest list planning option from the knot is very useful. I also used their website and I love it a lot! If I had the choice to do it all over again I would buy my invites off of Wedding Paper Divas and save in budget elsewhere. And most importantly, ‘Don’t sweat the small stuff’. If it is getting close to your date and you don’t have the ‘perfect’ earrings – go for a simple set of pearls or something. Most of the time the small details aren’t even noticed by guests anyways. Remember you are here to get married not put on an entertainment spectacle of the year. 🙂

Good luck and congratulations!

Post # 6
10906 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

The most traditional invitations actually had the guests’ names included on the invitations themselves. However, you are fine writing guests’ names on the outer and inner envelopes, and many people these days do not even choose to use inner envelopes. I did, however, and am a strong advocate for their use.


The outer envelope, for example, should be in the format of “Mr. and Mrs. John Edward Doe,” or “Ms. Jane Emily Smith and Mr. John Doe” (married and wife kept her maiden name) or however an individual person or couple prefers to be addressed and with appropriate honorifics (Mr., Mrs., Miss, Doctor, The Reverend, The Honorable, etc.) The inner envelopes in these examples would be “Mr. and Mrs. Doe,” and “Ms. Smith and Mr. Doe,” respectively.


There are books with sections devoted to the proper manner for addressing correspondence, and some are very helpful.


Post # 7
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Just adding on to the excellent post by @Brielle: 

The Outer Envelope might say Mr & Mrs John Smith Senior and Family

While the Inner one could say… either

Mr & Mrs John Smith Sr and Family


John Sr & Mary, John Jr, Louise, and Sally


If you are particularly close…

Uncle John & Aunt Mary, John Jr, Louise, and Sally

The Inner Envelope tends to be less formal than the Outer

And if you were inviting a Single Guest and giving them a Plus One, then the Inner Envelope is where that would be noted.

Outer = Ms. Susan Greene

Inner = Susan Greene & Guest

In the event that there is NO Inner Envelope, then you have to spell out specifically who you wish to attend on the Outer Envelope, and that can be problematic / messy cause it can make for a very busy presentation considering Titles, Guest Name(s), Addresses, Mailing Info / Stamps etc.

Hope this helps,


Post # 9
6173 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@suburbian:  i am with you on short engagements.  we got engaged in february and getting married in october – 244 days total.

i could not imagine planning a wedding over the course of 1 year or more, it would drive me crazy.



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