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I'm getting married next month and getting ready for that awkward-but-awesome first time with my new hubster. We don't want to have babies for a few years, so I started birth control last month.
So here's my question...should we be using condoms too? I don't know if the BC covers all our bases, or if we should double up.
So...um...yeah. That's my awkward question!
If you have been on birth control for a full month then I think you should be fine...as long as you have been taking your pills at the same time everyday...didnt miss a pill etc. If you are not sure then I would just use a condom just in case...I am on birth control AND we use condoms...im pretty paranoid!! haha
It's really a matter of personal preference. I know we are fully not ready for kids (read: still in our undergrad and broke!) so we use birth control and condoms just to be safe. It just makes me feel better, even if condoms don't feel as nice.
One thing I do have to say is that it actually helps me relax to know we're using two methods. Sometimes it's hard for me to stop being responsible and worrying, but I know with a backup we're safe.
We use both as a "just in case" precaution because BC isn't always 100% effective, especially if you don't take it at the same time every day or if you forget a pill. We have been "less careful" as of late but that's only because we decided if it did happen, it wouldn't be the end of the world and condoms are kind of, for lack of a better word... messy :-S
You should be totally fine with just the BC pills. Yes, if you use condoms then you're making extra extra sure, but the pill works just fine if you take it as directed!
As long as your responsible about taking your pills every day at the same time, it's pretty much 100% effective. I wouldn't worry about a back up.
I agree, pills only should be fine. Both methods are like 99% effective, using both doesn't technically change that.
Birth control is most effective if you take it every single day at the exact same time. If you're not consistant with it, then you're probability for it not working as well rises. No form of birth control is 100% effective . . . So, it's up to you!
I know some girls who only rely on condoms and have never gotten pregnant. I also have friends who have relied on just BC and ended up getting pregnant. So, that risk is always there!
Honestly, sex is so much better without a condom, that if it was me, I'd be seriously on top of my BC and not worry about condoms. Maybe be a little more careful when ovulating.
Just the pill should be fine. That being said, my boy and I use both as we are 100% sure we don't won't babies at the moment and my best friend fell pregnant while on the pill. She had a cold and didn't realise that the over the counter meds she was takign actually reduced the effectiveness of the pill. So, I don't want to scare you so please don't be scared about this comment, but if you are taking anything else other than the pill (even if it is over the counter) check with your pharmacist to ensure they are not counteracting the effectiveness. If that's all fine then you are good to go and can get away with just using the pill.
Just bring the condoms for backup just in case you forget to take the pills one day, but you don't have to use both of them.
You may want to use both during especially fertile times of the month...just in case.
Depends on how careful you want to be
99% isn't 100%
But with that said...every single person I know who has gotten pregnant on bc, it was because of thier error, not the pill
There is the 1%, but for the most part if you use it exactly as you should, you will be fine
I'm 30 and I'm going strong.....never been knocked up once! :-) haha
hmm...Mrs.DG you out there so the facts are straight? she is really good at laying all the facts out there.
I have been using just the pill for about a year and a half and havent had any problems with it.
just the pill should be fine - but make sure you take it at the same time every day. You will need to use backup if you take antibiotics or are throwing up or have diarrhea (I know, gross, but you asked:) )
Have fun!!!
I've never had sex without a condom before... and we've been together for 4 years now. Once we're married we'll go without condoms for the first time, however I'm so terrified of pregnancy we'll probably double up!
I think it all depends on how neurotic you are :) hehe
don't be too sure the pill will cover all your angles....I got pregnant on the pill n I have OCD about taking it I took it every night at the same time never missed one pill ever and it still happ. to me n FH....so I would do both if are really worried about it.
@peanutlovespumpkin: lawlz, an awkward question gets an awkward answer! :)
Thanks for the help, everybody!! I'm the first out of all my friends to get married, and we can't really let my FI's parents we're on BC, so this helps a ton!
@ gidgett: What do you mean by
"we can't really let my FI's parents we're on BC, so this helps a ton!"
?
FFIL is staunchly Catholic and doesn't want us to use birth control. FI and I are Christians, but we have differing views. Ergo...BC can be discussed between the two of us, and my family to some extent, but not his.
pills aren't 100% effective, even if you use them correctly. You may not be fine. There is a small chance you could get pregnant. If you are the type of person that worries then it is best to double up and use condoms too. It still won't be 100% effective, but it will be a lot closer to 100% than either technique alone.
i have been using the pill for 7 years now with no problem--had consistant sex for about 3 years and never used a condom--just solely relied on the pill and never got pregnant!
@ gidgett - that makes a bit more sense! I couldn't figure out why it's anyone's business but your own what BC you're using. Let alone your parents, I can't imagine discussing this kind of thing with them :) Thank goodness for weddingbee and girlfriends hey :)
I've been on the pill for 8 years now and never had a pregnancy scare. The pill is 99% effective - so pretty close to perfect. You can certainly double up, but it's probably not necessary. Also, you don't actually ovulate when you're on the pill (if it's estrogen and progesterone) so there are no "especially fertile times." You should use condoms if you are on antibiotics or other medication that decreases the efficacy of birth control, or if you miss a pill. Otherwise, you're probably okay - though you should do whatever you feel most comfortable with.
I'm using Depo injections for a contraceptive but we always use condoms too - I think we're a bit paranoid!!! LOL I like not having that mid month "Oh I hope the pill/depo/whatever" is working moment!!! Plus, and we might be odd here, but we find the clean up so much easier with condoms. Plus, I've know far too many people who have gotten pregnant on the pill for me to be comfortable with it!
i have been on the pill for 9 years and never gotten preggers.
I've been on BC for 10 yrs (OMG - a decade!!!) and never had a problem. I've been on pills: estrostep, orthotricyclen, trinessa (generic ortho), hormone insert (same concept as pill): nuvaring, monthly hormone shot: lunelle...I shopped around till I found one I like.
Is it just me or does this make me sound like a big ol slut?
the main reason for people i know who use both is if they're not yet in an exclusive relationship, since the pill doesn't protect against stds (not the paper kind!), but that's obviously not an issue here since you'll be married ;) i've been on the pill 3 years and no issues!
it's not as much fun with condoms 
. So since you've been on BC so long (take it regularly-set a timer on your phone like I do), I say skip them and have fun!
Just like pp said, as long as your taking the BC correctly (same time each day, not missing pills) you should be ok. But, it doesn't hurt to have the back-up especially since you only started taking the pill last month. I've been on BC for quite some time now, so FI and I don't use condoms and we don't worry too much, but I remember that when I first went on them, my body and periods took at least a couple months or so to regulate (which is the initial reason I went on).
Yeah, I think it just depends how super-careful you want to be :o) We use both right now because the wedding is so close and we don't want to take ANY chances. But after the wedding, we're ditching the condoms.
I also agree with PPs though that condoms definitely do keep things "cleaner". That's the one thing I actually like about them...no yucky aftereffects hehe
Just like everyone else says... it depends! We always use both because I know that I personally couldn't have an abortion and that I REALLY don't want kids right now. After we're married I won't be quite so concerned about Oops babies and we'll probably back it down to 1. (But... we are old enough, financially stable, and have a house... so kids really wouldn't be a huge deal other than cramping our style :) )
I think you will be fine with just the pill. Like others already said, it is highly effective when used correctly. If you remember to take your pill every day at the same time (I've heard that it's best to take it at night sometime after dinner. I take mine at 8pm) then you should be fine. However, nothing is 100% effective other than abstinence.
I'm on the pill, and the only time we will use condoms is if I forget to take a pill on time (rare) or if I have a cold and I am on antibiotics (which your dr. should tell you is necessary because antibiotics interfere with the effectiveness of the pill).
Hope this helps!
If youve been taking your pill like you are supposed to then you should be fine. If you are really concerned and don't want to use condoms, just have him pull out before he cums. No, the pull out method is not a good method on its own, but when paired with BC pill you should be fine.
You could always try the skyn condoms. they really do feel better than latex condoms.
Hmm I spoke with my doctor about this because I heard "the pill is 99% effective" comments and I didn't want to get pregnant. She said that as long as I am careful about taking the pill effectly I wouldn't have any problems. And I haven't.
One word to the wise, though, if you are planning on using condoms, NEVER try sex without them. We were using condoms and the pill, and then my boyfriend suggested trying sex without a condom just once...never used a condom again. Better sex, but more of a risk...
You will be completely fine! With perfect use (always taking your pill on time), less than 1 out of 100 people gets pregnant. I have been on the pill for 5 years and have never had a close call or pregnancy.
What about the NuvaRing? Do you need to double up if you're on NuvaRing? I change mine every two weeks because I get headaches if there is the slightest dip in hormones so my doctor had me start changing it every two weeks instead of three. I only have a period once a year. Do you think we'd still need condoms?
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