(Closed) Dummy ring… yay or nay?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Yay or nay to the dummy ring (explanation below)
    Sure why not : (44 votes)
    44 %
    Nah, be proud of what you've got! : (53 votes)
    52 %
    Other : (4 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    4714 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1998

    In my opinion I think you should be proud of what you have and wear it everyday. It shouldnt matter what your job is. If you still feel strongly then just wear your wedding band at work when you are married.

     

    Post # 4
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    1306 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    If it makes you uncomfortable, then I say go get a dummy ring. I am getting one so I can still wear a ring to the beach without being scared it will fall off (this happened to my aunt and she was devestated!)

    Post # 5
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    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Honesty is the best policy.  Just be yourself, and that includes your ering.  I never judge people for their rings.  Any ring could be fake, or an heirloom, or who knows!

    Post # 6
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    2889 posts
    Sugar bee

    Having worked for a non profit, I totally get where you are coming from. I’m not sure if it will help but I recently found Swarowski has an almost exact replica of my ring and have been thinking about getting a replica for beach and other outdoorsy type vacations where I am nervous to lose my ring. I talked to DH about the idea, afraid he may be offended and he is absolutely encouraging that I get a dummy ring. If it makes you feel better and is not a large investment or offensive to your FI, I don’t see why you wouldn’t. Taking off your ring to flirt for work purposes would be a totally different story (not saying you do this, just giving a counter example) but just reducing its presence in order to not stand out makes sense to me. 

    Post # 7
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    2 posts
    Wannabee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I interned at a non-profit for a year, I was assinged to this agency through the master’s program I am attending and I could not pull myself to wear my engagement ring. It to sparkled with every ray of light that hit it. The concept of working for a non-profit (a facility established to help others) and wearing flashy jewelry or clothes did not sit well with me. We actually had a discussion of this during one of my classes, it is a hard choice, but you can only do what you feel is comfortable for you.

    Post # 8
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    41 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    If you feel more comfortable with a dummy ring, I say go for it.

    I’ve worked food service on and off since before I was engaged and since having my ering on I’ve often switched it out with a simple band that I usually wear on my right hand. Dummy rings in general are good when you go to the beach like most of the above bees have said.

    It really ends up boiling down to what makes your more comfortable in the end.

    Post # 9
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    2981 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I can see where you’re coming from with your line of work. Sometimes, certain things may feel sort of out of place or inapproprate for certain occasions, so if you feel that wearing a different ring would make you more comfortable, then go for it. I don’t think that makes you look ashamed of your ring or anything like that! Like cbee said, some people wouldn’t judge you for your ring, but sadly, many people may, so you have to do what makes you feel the most comfortable.

    Post # 11
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    290 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Hermm…..

    I’ve thought about it lately. I work with men who live in half way houses. While I trust none of them to steal from me, I would never “tempt” any of them too either.

    Post # 13
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    1663 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I hear you!  I am in social work and have worked for nonprofits for years.  I wear my engagement ring to work, but was definitely self conscious when I got it.  I think you should do what makes you comfortable– so if that’s a dummy ring, then do it.  What would it look like?  Sounds like different from your e-ring, but still an e-ring rather than a plain band?

    Post # 15
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    1506 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I say go for it.  Being comfortable is the most important thing. 

    Post # 16
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    3618 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    @GelaMac:  agreed!

    I never understood the point of a dummy ring.

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