Duplicate gift at shower

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@rcac1208:  don’t say anything to anyone about the dup, just write her a heartfelt thank-you note for the slow cooker itself, and explain why you’re so excited to have a slow-cooker. the thought was the same either way, so if you exchange it for something else you, in fact, still have a slow cooker. 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

You tell no one and do what you like with it. It’s a gift, not an imposition – you can do what youlike with it after you receive it.

Write the thank you note for the slow cooker (or just be vague), not for what you exchanged it for.

Post # 5
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215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

You write a thank you for the gifts she gave you. You can then return/exchange whichever one you can. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

@rcac1208:  I’d exchange it if you can but still send a thank you note thanking her for the quilt and slow cooker.

She probably saw you registered for one and went out and bought one somewhere else.

Post # 7
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7797 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Write a thank you note for the slow cooker and exchange it.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Don’t say anything, just return it. Thank her for the one she sent you.

I do actually use two crock pots sometimes, but I owned one and then really wanted a digital one so I got a new one, and have found it useful to have both. Wedding wise though I’d return it, there are so many things that you won’t get that you’ll want that credit for.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@rcac1208:  post a pic or give us the name etc of it? I bet anything someone can find it and figure out if you can exchange it or if its an old model… you know grandmas… lol

Post # 11
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1063 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

yep agreed, thank her for it all the same then go return it yourself w/o ever mentioning it. the thought from both you and her remains the same.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Can you try looking for the make and model online?  Some stores might let you exchange it without a receipt for store credit.

Post # 13
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1011 posts
Bumble bee

@rcac1208:  Many items (besides electronics I think) can be returned without a receipt. Does Grandma have a go-to shopping place? Like wal-mart or Target?

Post # 14
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1011 posts
Bumble bee

…at least for store credit

Post # 15
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1911 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

@Apple_Blossom:  +1 if Target sells it I know they will give you store credit 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

What about returning the one from your registry and keeping grandma’s?

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