durable wedding band for the FI

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
8677 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’d go with tungsten or stainless steel.


My husband is in the Navy and we have a stainless steel one for him and it’s still in beautiful shape.

Post # 4
975 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Gold (I’m assuming any type but I know regular gold) is really durable especially in lower karats like 9k, 10k or even 14k), if it’s a plain band it won’t show wear as bad as something with a design that could eventually wear off (over decades).  It may lose the glossy shine over time (though it can be cleaned and polished).  That’s just my personal opinion though. I like gold :).

My dad has had the same wedding band for over 40 years (14k) and he was super active and always working with metal, tools, etc with his hands until the last few years.

DH’s grandfather wore the same gold band (14k) for 60 years, and he worked hard with his hands until he retired.  His hands have arthritis too bad to wear his ring so he gave it to DH when we got engaged.  It’s been resized larger for DH and he plans on wearing it forever too.

I’ve heard good things about tungsten and stainless steel too like @Hyperventilate: said .  And I absolutely adore her husband’s ring.  I want one for myself just for fun!


Post # 5
229 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Definitely tungsten carbide! Alhough I can’t vouch for it personally (FI is not wearing his yet), I’ve read wonderful reviews anlut tungstem carbide. It was the only type of ring my FI wanted, because a gold ring would not last with him. 

Post # 6
2581 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

Platinum is very durable, or equally Palladium, which is very similar chemically to Platinum but usually a bit cheaper because it doesn’t have the same reputation. I’d personally avoid things like tungsten because if you catch it on something it can’t be cut off, so your hubby could lose/damage his finger! I know that’s an extreme result, but I know a number of jewellers we looked at refused to stock tungsten or titanium rings because of these factors!


Post # 7
851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church

I got DH a tungsten ring. He’s in construction and they’re virtually indestructible. Also very affordable:)

Post # 8
352 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would go with Palladium. Super durable and unlike Platinum, it’s much lighter and will never fade in colour. 🙂 

Post # 9
5248 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

My DH has a tungsten ring. He is a mechanic and works with his hands alot so gold was out of the question since it scratches so easily!! Also the tungsten ring was a great price so if he does lose it its not breaking the bank to replace it .He loves his ring and wears it all the time 🙂

Post # 10
8847 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I’d go with platinum or palladium if you want something pricey, and tungsten or steel if you want something not so pricey.

My guy is the same way and has a cool Damascus steel ring with a wood grain pattern.  $250 from etsy…



Post # 11
8847 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

oops double post…

Post # 12
2129 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Tungsten is very durable, however, if your husband is left handed he may have issues with the ring scratching everything from his phone’s screen to paint on car doors. My husband is left handed and has these issues, which is why I am looking for an alternative now. Probably gold.

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