Post # 1
Hi bees, as of now our wedding date is December 14 lands on a Friday, I was wondering though, if we were to change it to say a Wednesday do you think people would show up? Reason why I’m thinking about it is because my dad being a musician knows a lot of musicians who he was planning to ask and come and play at our wedding, but because of the date none have said yes because they would just be helping out at our wedding and would be missing an actual day of getting paid. Many have told my dad that if the wedding was during the week they would gladly help, but I dont want to risk changing in and then not have any guest show up because of school/work. I know that those that really care about us will be there, but lets say if its family from out of town, do you think they would still come? Would you go to a wedding that landed on a Wednesday?
Post # 3
@lioness_89: I attended a Thursday wedding once. It had mediocre attendence due to the day of the week and a lot of us left pretty early in the evening, around the 9 PM area because we had work. I was really close to the couple, but might not have done so for someone I wasn’t so close to.
While having musicians is great, I think you’ll lose up to a quarter of your guest count and have people leaving much earlier on a Wed than a Friday. I think you need to decide what’s important to you and decide from there.
Post # 4
I think it largely depends on your guest list. For example, my brother got married on a Wednesday out-of-state. The majority of their guest list comprised of family, and they had a pretty good showing.
Similarly, we are having our wedding on a Monday (in-state), and again, the majority of the guest list is family. We are expecting almost everyone to attend–we are inviting 175 and expect 150-160 to show.
Post # 5
Personally I would only attend a mid-week wedding if I was extremely close to the couple. And I mean extremely close family (a sister or the like) or best friends.
Post # 6
Thank you ladies for responding, most of the guest list is either family or from our area only a couple out of towners, but I’m sure that if we change the date I will lose a lot of the guest. We have a guest list of 225 so I’m hoping at least for 175 to show up, but if I change the date I’m not sure how much that number will change. I will talk it over with FI and see what he thinks. Thanks ladies.
Post # 7
My best friend had her wedding on a Thursday and a very large percentage of their guest list did come. But like @smendoza912: was saying, it would depend on your guest list. My friend’s guest list comprised mostly of family and friends of her parents, who felt it was important enough to take a day off and attend.
Post # 8
yeah like PP’s I wouldn’t go to a Wednesday wedding unless I was extremely close with the couple. You’d definitely see your numbers drop, and people will leave early for sure.
Post # 9
I had a Sunday wedding, so basically 1/2 of a weekday wedding (no one had to come straight from work, but almost everyone had to work the next day). My wedding was held in a town about 45 minutes from where most of my guests lived. I had a fairly small invite list – approximately 90 people. About 70 RSVP’d yes and about 65 showed up. Everyone who came was a close family or friend. The majority of people began leaving at 9pm, we left at 9:30pm and the only people left at 10pm were the cleanup crew friends.
Post # 10
I talked to FI and we decided to leave it at Friday, I prefer to have family and friends accompany us than to have many of them miss out because of the day. Thank you ladies!